If one has mental and emotional and/or relationship challenges, they can feel the need to reach out for external support. This could be seen as the best approach for them to take in order to change their circumstances.
Through having this outlook, the next step will be for them to find someone to assist them. Now, this could be something that will take place within a few hours, or they could spend a few days looking for someone. The Right Option However, as it is going to be important for them to find someone who understands what they are going through and who is able to assist them, it doeasnt matter how long it takes. Naturally, one is going to want to find someone as soon as they can, but if they were to work with anyone, they could cause themselves even more problems. As a result of this, if they can be patent during this time and find the right person, it will be better for them in the long run. What also can’t be overlooked here is that even if one was to find someone who they believe can assist them, it doesn’t mean that it will be this straight forward. A Match There is the chance that one will meet them and they will find it easy to talk to them; this can show that they have found the right person to work with. It is then only going to be a matter of time before they are able to move forward. At the same time, they could find that they don’t feel comfortable around them, and this could then stop them from being able to make progress. Or, even if they do feel comfortable with the therapist, it could take them a little while to open up. Trial and Error Due to this, it could be said that it is not always as simple as finding someone and then that’s it. If all human beings were the same, it would just be a case of finding someone and that would be the end of it. As there are so many different factors involved, it is not going to be the same as taking a car to a garage and getting it fixed. Still, this is not to say that one needs to be overwhelmed by this; there are plenty of people out there who can assist them. Another Direction Yet, although one could look for someone to work with, they could also talk to their friends about what is taking place first. This could be a time when one will talk to them about what they plan to do. One could then be told that they need to listen to themselves and, if they feel the need to see a therapist, this is what they should do. This will then show that they have their support, and that they are not going to try and tell them what to do. A Different Response Alternatively, they could say that they don’t need to see a therapist, and they could try to help them. As far as they are concerned, therapy could be seen as something that is a waste of time. But even if on didn’t hear this from their friends, it could be something that they have heard other people say. Reaching out for the support of a therapist can be seen as a sign of weakness, or that one doesn’t have any close friends. It Sounds Right One way of looking at this would be to say that this is the truth, and that one would only need to work with a therapist if they don’t have people around them who are supportive. If they have close friends, there is no reason why they shouldn’t be able to help them with what they are going through. For example, if one was in a relationship and it came to an end, they would look towards their friends to help them through what they are going through. Therefore, there is going to be no reason for them to look towards anyone else if they are having mental and emotional and/or relationship challenges. Another Angle While this can sound right, it doesn’t mean that one will be able to look towards their friends to assist them. For one thing, the people they surround themselves with are not necessarily going to have an understanding of what they are going through. And, even if they do understand, it doesn’t mean that they will actually be able to do anything about it. If they were to open up to these people, they could find that they end up invalidating their experience, for instance. Empathy Thus, instead of getting the support that they desperately need, they can end up feeling as though there is something wrong with them. If this was to take place, they are just going to end up feeling even worse. And through telling these people, they could end up acting as though they are one’s parent. The relationship will then go from one that is equal, to one where one person acts as though they are above the other. Privacy Also, when one works with a therapist, what they talk about is not going to be shared with anyone else. If they were to talk to their friends, they might end up sharing it with other people. But even if this was something that didn’t take place, it could have an effect on how their friends perceive them. If, on the other hand, they were to get the right assistance, they could save themselves a lot of problems. Awareness Ultimately, one will need to think about what option will allow them to move forward. If they do have friends who are in touch with themselves and have a good level of self-awareness, they might still prefer to work with a therapist. When they do this, the therapist will be focused on them; whereas if they were to look towards their friends, they are going to have their own needs to fulfil. This can then stop them from being able to be there for them in the same way that a therapist would.
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If someone lives in America, they are likely to know that Donald Trump is the new president of America. But even if they don’t live there, this could still be something that they are aware of.
What this comes down to is how connected people are in today’s world, and this is largely down to the internet. As soon as something takes place in another country, people from all over the world can hear about it. One Country It can then be as if there are no longer different countries, and that everyone lives in the same country. And, through being able to go online, it could be said that it is down to someone to decide how informed they want to be. If they want to be ignorant about what is taking place in the world, they can be, but if they want to be informed about what is taking place this will also be an option. What this means is that one can not only be pleased/displeased about what is going on in their own country, they can have this experience when it comes to other countries. An Opinion So, regardless of where one lives in the world, they are likely to have something to say about the new president in the white house. On one hand, they could believe that he is the best person for the job. In this case, they are going to be pleased about how the election ended, and they might be looking forward to what will happen. Along with this, some of the decisions he has already made might also please them. The Other Extreme On the other hand, they could still be in state of shock over the fact that it is Trump and not Hillary in the white house. Still, even if they are experiencing life in this way, it may have been possible for them to carry on with their life. At the same time, what has happened could still consume their mind, and it could then be challenge for them to function as they usually would. One may then stay up to date with what he is doing, or they might do what they can to get away from it all. In The Middle And, while there will be people on each side of the spectrum, there will be people who are on the sidelines, so to speak. During the election, these people may have believed that both candidates were as bad as each other. Now that this stage is over, and there is someone else in the white house, they could believe that the same problems are still going to exist. There is then going to be no reason for them to get caught up in what is taking place. Personal Responsibility In addition to this, one could believe that they have their own part to play, and that an external figure is not going to change their life. Thus, no matter who is the president, it will be necessary for them to do what they can to change their circumstances. And, if someone did vote for a candidate and they believe in playing their part, it will be easier for them to handle it if the person they voted for didn’t win. Yet, if the person they voted for did win, this could stop them from seeing the president as some kind of saviour. Staying Connected When it comes to staying up to date with what president Trump is doing, it can be normal for someone to look towards the mainstream media. There is the chance that they looked towards this source during the election. And, due to the position that he now holds, this source is going to spend a lot of time talking about him. In a way, it could be said that this is going to be no different to how it was before, and this is because this source spent a lot of time talking about him during the election. One-Sided Nevertheless, when the election was taking place, it was said that the mainstream media wasn’t interested in treating each candidate in the same way. And how this source did everything they could to get Hillary Clinton into the white house. This could be hard to believe; especially if someone thinks that the mainstream media only exists to inform people. As a result of this, Hillary didn’t have to worry about this source of information presenting her in a negative light. Another Source But if it wasn’t for the alternative media, it would have stopped a lot of people from finding out about the side of Hillary that the mainstream media didn’t present. One way of looking at it would be to say that this source of information did what the mainstream should have done. And shortly after Trump won the election, the mainstream media carried on going in the same direction. So instead of opening up about the fact that they lied to people, they came up with the term ‘fake news’. The Reason This was then a way for them to avoid taking responsibility for letting people down, and to try to discredit the sources that were informing people about what was actually taking place. It was clear that their power was on the wane, and this was a way to maintain their own existence. And as based on how they responded after the election, it was clear to see that they were not going to change their ways. With this in mind, it could be said that even though the election is over, their agenda is still the same. Conclusion Therefore, if the mainstream media was only interested in getting Hillary elected during the election, why would they be interested in informing people about what Trump is actually doing now that he is president of America? It might be more accurate to say that they will continue to do everything they can to paint him in a negative light. And regardless of whether someone likes him or not, it is going to be vital for them to find out about what he is doing as opposed to what the media says he is doing. If this is something that one agrees with, then it might be a good idea for them to look towards the alternative media.
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In the past, if someone wanted to be seen as a good person, they would have had to behave in a certain way. This is down to the fact that their behaviour would have been what defined them.
As a result of this, it wouldn’t have been enough for them to say the right things; they wouldn’t have had to have done the right things. It would then have been important for them to treat other people well whilst they were at work, and to act in the same way towards their friends and family. Strangers In addition to this, how one treated the people who they came into contact with in the world would have also mattered. For example, there would be the people who they came into contact with whilst they were out shopping. It could be said that it would have been harder for them to treat these people well, as they wouldn’t have always responded in a positive manner. When it came to the people who they were close to, it would have generally be a lot easier, and this is because there is likely to have been a mutual respect. Doing More Along with this, one may have reached out even further, and spent time engaging in some kind of volunteering. This could have been something that they kept to themselves, or other people may have found out. As to whether these people found out or not could depend on if one told them, but it could be due to what they were doing. If one was to help a charity and this meant that they had to spend time in a public place, other people would simply find out. Meaningless If one was to talk about how good they are during this time and they didn’t actually do anything, the people around them are likely to have overlooked what they were saying. There would have been no evidence to back up what they were saying and so there would have been no reason to believe them. In fact, if something like this took place, it might have caused them to look bad. The people around them might have starting to form a negative impression of them, and so what they said would have ended up having a negative effect on them. To be expected However, it could be said that it would have been normal for other people to behave in this way. After all, if one was to say something but they didn’t follow through with it, it is not going to have an effect on the world. It would be the same as if someone was to buy a pack of seeds and spoke about how these seeds will feed their family. And, while this could be the case, they could simply put them in a draw and forget about them. Useless If this was to take place, it would be clear that the seeds are not going to have a positive effect on their family. It would be the same as one having a plan to achieve something and not doing anything to make it into a reality. Therefore, what this shows is how important it is for one to back up with what they say with what they do. Alternatively, they could simply take action and not say anything about it to anyone. Today’s World But while this was often how things were in the past, it could be said that things have changed. This is primarily due to social media, and how one has far more control over how people will see them. Through being able to share things on their wall, it is going to be up to them to decide how they will come across to others. Now, one could have the need to be seen as desirable or deep, for instance, and it is unlikely to be difficult for them to achieve this aim. A Moral Person If they have the desire to come cross as being a good person, it is not going to take a lot of effort. The only thing they will need to do is to share things on their wall and to ‘like’ the right things that other people have shared. Through doing this, other people can come to see them as being a good person, and it is going to be irrelevant as to how they behave in the real world. What they actually do to make the world a better place can be overlooked. The Reversal And, if what they say online is seen as a reflection of how virtues they are, it is going to be as if this is the only thing that matters. It is then not that actions speak louder than words, but that words speak louder than actions. In this case, one could come across as though they are purer than pure online, yet there offline behaviour could be the complete opposite. This is then similar to how people who are abusive can often come across as being charming and then behind the scenes, they can cause all kinds of damage. An Act If one was to take a deeper look within them and to see why they have the need to come across as a good person, they could find that it is a way for them to receive approval. It is then not that they care about being seen as good, they just want people to like them. One could also carry a lot of guilt and feel as though they are a bad person, and through being seen as a good person, it can be a way for them to avid how they feel. But as how they feel is not just going to disappear, they will need other people to continually give them positive feedback. Conclusion There are naturally going to be people who will realise when another person is just trying to look good, and it won’t have much of an effect on them. At the same time, there are going to be plenty of people who won’t realise what is taking place. Ultimately, if one truly wants to make a difference, it will be vital for them to actually do something. Not only this, they will need to make sure that what they do doesn’t just cause them to feel good, but that it actually has a positive effect on others.
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If one drives an old car, and this is a car that is not in good shape, it is unlikely that many people would spend much time looking it. But if this isn’t the case, it would simply come down to the fact that they would find it hard to believe how bad it is.
On the other hand, if one drives one of the latest sports cars, they may find that people stare at their car. It is unlikely to matter where they go, as the responses could be the same. One Step Further And, if one drives around in the first car, it could cause other people to develop a negative outlook towards them. When this takes place, not only is their car going to be of little value, the person in the car will be seen in the same way. Yet, if they were to drive the second car, other people could develop a positive outlook towards them. It is then not just that they are driving a car that has a lot to offer, it is that they are also have a lot to give. A Closer Look Even so, one might only be driving an old car because another person has lent it to them to drive, and the same might also be said if they are driving the sports car. Or, there is the chance that someone simply gave them the car they are driving. Thus, if they are driving an old car this is not going to represent their value, it is simply a gift. And if they are driving a sports car, it could be said that they just got lucky, and that they could have just as easily been given an old car. The Connection When it comes to how people respond to another human being, their appearance often plays a big role. As a result of this, it is not always going to matter what they are like as a person. It will then be as if they have worked hard to develop how they look, when in reality, they will have probably been born this way. In the same way that one can end up being lucky and have a sports car passed onto them, they will have also been genetically lucky. Effortless This is not to say that people who are attractive won’t need to put any effort into their appearance, as this is not going to be the case. But regardless of this, they are already going to have everything in place in order to be perceived as valuable without needing to put in too much effort. Through eating well and going to the gym, for instance, they could end up looking even better. Whereas if someone wasn’t physical attractive and they did these things, they could still end up being overlooked by others. The Halo Effect If one was to see someone who is attractive, it can be normal for them to believe that they are successful, intelligent, and well-adjusted, amongst other things. And, this is generally going to take place before this person has even opened their mouth. This person is then going to be seen as having it all together, and one can treat them as if they have come from another planet. And even if one was to talk to them and they acted in ways that went against what they believe about them, it doesn’t mean that it would have an effect on them. Caught Up Due to what they believe, one could end up ignoring the evidence that goes against what they believe. The only thing that can matter will be the image they have formed in their mind. It could then be said that attractive people can treat people badly and they can end up getting away with it. This is not to say that they will be able to behave in this way forever, as there could come a time when their appearance no longer has an effect, and another person could simply walk away. Relationships With this in mind, it is clear to see that it will be easier for someone who is attractive to attract people into their life. Another person could be so caught up with their looks, that they are not even bothered about anything else. Now, what this doesn’t mean it that having the right appearance will allow someone to have a fulfilling relationship. This is naturally going to take more than being born attractive; it will be necessary for someone to develop themselves. Not a Priority However, if someone is able to draw people in by doing very little, this could be the last thing on their mind. They could believe that their appearance is enough, and so there will be no reason for them to work on their personality. This is what other people are going to tell them indirectly through giving them attention, and if they were to treat another person badly, there will be no shortage of people who are willing to take their place. Of course, there are going to be people who won’t care what they look like if they don’t behave in the right way, but this doesn’t mean that they will feel the need to change. Other Factors There are obviously going to be people who are physically attractive and who have the personality to match. If someone does have both, it could come down to what their childhood was like and/or where they are from in the world. In the west, for example, there is a general focus on what is taking place externally, and it is then to be expected that physical beauty would be worshipped. But if someone does rely on their appearance, there will come a point in time when it no longer has the same effect on others. Awareness So, if someone is attractive and they have overlooked their personality, the sooner they focus on it the better their life will be. This will also allow them to attract people who have a lot more to them.
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In today’s world, it is not going to be hard for someone to find a movement to join, and this is down to the fact that there are so many. Now, this is not to say they didn’t exist in the past; what it comes down to is that the internet has made it easier to find out about them.
Two Ways If one was to use social media, they could end up finding out about a number of movements. This could be the result of what one of their friends has shared, or it could be due to what is trending. Through coming across something here, they could soon feel compelled to get involved with what they see. Alternatively, one could go onto a search engine, and look for something that interests them. Another Way Yet, if one was at work or if they were a student, they could end up hearing other people talk about what they are involved with. In fact, they could even ask one if they would like to get involved. Therefore, even if one didn’t hear about something online, it is not necessarily going to leave them out in the cold, so to speak. In addition to this, there are the more traditional ways of hearing about things. The News If one was to watch the news, read the paper or to listen to the radio, they could hear about a movement. For example, if a protest had just taken place somewhere, it could end up being covered by the media. Upon hearing about this, it could end up going in one ear and out of the other, or they could feel the urge to know more. If this is the case, they can just go online and take a deeper look. Something for Everyone If they want to join a movement that is taking place in their country, they can, but if they want to join an even bigger one, this will also be an option. When it comes to what they are drawn to, it could be something that is affecting them directly, or it could relate to something that they believe needs to change. When it comes to something that is directly having an impact on them, they might not want to wait around. This could then be something that has been having a negative effect on their life for as long as they can remember. Another Experience On the other hand, if it related to something that they believe needs to change, they may have only just become aware of it. Perhaps one of their friends pointed it out to them, or they might have heard about it whilst they were at university, for instance. But regardless of this, they are going to be drawn to a movement, and the sooner they can do something about what is taking place, the better it will be for them. And, while this could become another part of their life, it could end up becoming their whole life. A New Identity How one sees themselves can be defined by the movement they have joined, and this will then influence how they perceive the world. One way of looking at this will be to say that it will be as if they have put on special glasses, and these will influence what they do or don’t see. And, what this can do is make it easier for them to notice things that are not right, and this can then increase their sense of injustice. It can then be clear to them that the world is not right, and that they are doing the right thing. Reality However, what this can cause them to overlook is the fact that they are not simply observing reality. What they expect to experience is going to play a big role in what they actually experience. This is not to say that one is standing up for something that doesn’t exist and that the world is perfect; what it shows is that the mind will find what is has been programmed to find. Thus, through focusing on a problem, it will be normal for one to have more experiences that validate what they believe. Out of Balance If one is not aware of this, they can come to believe that their experiences prove how bad something is. Yet, what it can show is that they are simply blocking out anything that goes against what they believe. It is then not that one is being exposed to how bad something is; it is that this is what they are choosing to see. One is then not going to be interested in getting a balanced perspective of what is taking place; they just want to be right. Playing Their Part When it comes to making a difference, they won’t need to be around others or to join a demonstration; they can simply share things on social media. They could start their own blog, make videos, and they could even start a petition. If they want to connect to other people who are also part of the same movement, they can go onto a forum or message them online. And while this will allow then to make new friends, they could also lose some of their old friends. Different One of their old friends may have found that they are no longer the same as they were before, and they might wonder what has happened to them. In their eyes, they could believe that one is no longer in touch with reality, and they might even see them as suffering from paranoid delusions. Through being so caught up in a movement, it is no longer going to be possible for them to think clearly. As to why they can’t think clearly, there will be at least two things that will need to be considered: the effect the movement is having on them, and what their mental and emotional health was like before they got involved. A Closer Look When one is part of a movement, it can cause them to feel: connected, empowered, and as though they belong. This can then pump them up and, when they believe they are standing up for the right thing, they can experience a sense of being morally superior. Through being in this state, their mind is going to be closed to anything that goes against what they believe, and they will be high on emotions. If they had mental and emotional challenges to begin with, this can also make it harder for them to think clearly. Conclusion It could be said that the ideal it will be for someone to look into why they want to join a movement before they actually join one. This will give them the opportunity to see how their inner world is effecting how they experience the outer world. As if they simply ignore what is taking place within them and end up trying to change what is taking place externally, they could end up doing more harm than good. They may have had the intention to have a positive effect on the world, but they will simply be adding their own mess to a world that is already incredibly messy.
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If one wanted to move something, they would pick it up and then put it down once they have found the right spot. While it was in their hands, they would have held on and, when they put it down somewhere, they would have let go.
Two Sides It could be said that there are times in life when one will need to hold on and times when they will need to let go. And, if one is unable to do this, their life will end up being harder than it needs to be. However, even though this is the case, it doesn’t mean that one will find be able to embrace both sides. What they could find is that while it is easy for them to hold on, it is incredibly difficult for them to let go. In The Driver’s Seat What this could show is that they always have the need to be in control of their life, and that it is not possible for them to go with the flow. Said another way, they are not going to be willing to sit in the passenger’s seat. As a result of this, it is likely to be a challenge for them to take a step back and to relax. They may even believe that they can’t trust other people to do something, and so they will be the only ones who are capable of doing anything. Force But even if one doesn’t have this outlook, it is not going to stop them from using their willpower to fulfil their needs and desires. This could be seen as something that will allow them to achieve what they want to achieve. Thus, if they were to let go and to sit back, it could be seen as something that will have a negative effect on their life. Through behaving in this way, one could believe that something will end up going wrong. The Ideal One way of looking at this would be to say that this is an approach that is often encouraged in today’s world. For example, if one was to get into self-development, there is a strong chance that they would hear about how important willpower is. And if they want to achieve their goals, they will need to take life by the horns, so to speak. If one was to take their foot of the gas or they were not always taking action, their vision wouldn’t become a reality. It Feels Good If one has the need to be in control at all times, and they were to come across this kind of information, it is going to be like music to their ears. This is because it will validate what they already believe. Through reading and watching videos, they will be able to arm themselves with new information and perspectives to attain what they want. It is then going to be business as usual, and one won’t feel the need to change. Hard Work This could be an approach that will allow one to fulfil a lot of their needs, but it is likely to take a lot out of them. If something doesn’t go to plan, they could simply overlook what has taken place and do something else. As if they were to embrace what has happened, it could cause them to feel as though they have no control, and this is going to be the last thing they want to experience. It will be essential for them to find something else to focus on so they can feel a sense of control. Stress Behaving in this way will put pressure on them at a mental and emotional level, and there will be the effect this has on their health. There can then be moments when they are down and out and unable to function. And, although this could allow them to do well in their career, it is unlikely to have the same effect on their relationships. The people in their life could feel as though they are unable to be themselves when they are around them, and that one is out of touch with how they feel. A Dance What this shows is that relationships can’t be controlled or forced; they need to be able to breath, and to develop naturally. Yet, if one needs to be in control and doesn’t allow themselves to embrace how they feel, it is going to more or less impossible for them to connect with other people at a deeper level. The people in their life will have to compromise themselves, or they will need to be just as disconnected from their true-self. One will only be able to interact with people on a surface level, and other people will have to be the same. Out of Balance The part of them that is happy to let go is going to be inactive, and the part of them that needs to be in control is going to be active. Ultimately, this is going to be what feels comfortable. This part of them could be seen as the only part that they need to embrace, and the other part could be seen as being weak. Nevertheless, this is going to mean that their life is harder than it needs to be. Letting Go For one thing, one is not always going to know what is best for them, and this is due to the fact that they will only know such much at any given moment. And, through trying to do everything through force, it is going to cause them to do more than they need to do in life. There is then the effect this will have on their relationships; they may even find that there is no one in their life who they are close to. But while their life harder that it needs to be, there is likely to be a good reason why they are this way. A Deeper Look During their early years, they may have been brought up by caregiver who was abusive in some way. At this time, it wouldn’t have been safe for them to just be, and to trust in the people around them. If they let their guard down, this probably would have caused them to experience even more pain. This would then have set them up to disconnect from their feminine nature, and to distrust this part of them. Awareness Time has then passed, but what took place is still going to define how they experience life. If one can relate this, and they want to move forward, they may need to work with some kind of therapist.
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In today’s world, it is no longer necessary for one to simply go along with everything the mainstream media tells them, and this is partly because of the alternative media. This is not to say that one had to go along with what this source told them in the past, as this wasn’t the case.
A Different Experience But while one could have questioned what they heard in the past, it would have been a lot harder for them to come into contact with different information. For one thing, the internet wouldn’t have been available. Therefore, while there would have been books and people who had a different outlook when it came to what was taking place; it would have been a lot harder to come into contact with what they had to share. Nowadays, one can simply go online, and everything they need to know will be at their fingertips. A Choice The option is then going to be there for one to come to their own conclusions about what is taking place around them. If they want someone else to decide for them, they can continue to pay attention to the mainstream media. But if they want to use their own brain and not simply swallow everything that this source comes out with, they can take a step back from this. The alternative media will give them the opportunity to see things differently. It Still Has a Purpose Yet even if one was to take this route, this is not to say that they will be able to sit back and to accept everything they hear. In the same way that the mainstream media can have a mix of truth and falsehood; the alternative media can also be the same. Along with this, there are going to be sites that are more in touch with what is going on than others. With this in mind, it is not going to be in one’s best interest to go along with one source of information and to overlook all of the other sources. A Threat If one was to take this option and to think for themselves, it doesn’t mean that everyone they talk to will be happy to hear what they have to say. Instead, they could find that there are times when people are not prepared to listen to them. This could show that they are talking down to people or being rude, but this might not take place. One could just talk about what they have come across, and this could be enough for people to criticise them. Confusion Through having these kinds of experiences, it could be hard for them to work out what is going on. After all, it is not as if one is trying to convince people of anything; they are just sharing what they have found out. Based on how some people respond to what they say, one could even wonder if they are doing something wrong. If this was to take place, it might not take long until they are back in touch with why they do what they do. Another Response But just because someone will respond in this way if one was to talk about something that goes against what they have been told by the mainstream media, for instance, it doesn’t mean that they will behave in his way when they are being entertained. For example, if they were to watch a film that was about an outsider who went against the system, they might be only too happy to support them. This support is something they will experience in their mind, and they might even share their views with their friends after they have watched it. This could be based on true story, or it could be a sci-fi, but the theme will be the same. A Powerful Experience Whilst they were watching this film, they might have felt as though they were ones who were going against the majority, and standing up for what is right, for instance. Therefore, although they we simply watching a screen, it could have seemed as though they were experiencing this for themselves. Once they left the theatre/cinema or got up from the chair/bed they were sitting on, they could feel happy about what has taken place. Or, they could be filled with a sense of injustice about how it ended. Back To Reality Nevertheless, this experience will soon be forgotten about and they will continue to go along with what they are told by the mainstream media and to criticise people who are willing to question what they hear. Thus, if someone goes against the system, so to speak, in the real world, they are not going to respond in the same way. This part of them is going to be kept at bay in their day-to-day life, and they will be happy to go along to along to get along. One way of looking at this would be to say that their true-self is going to be covered up, and they will wear a mask that will allow them to fit into society. The Safe Option Behaving in this way will cause them to hide themselves, but it is likely to be what feels comfortable. When one allows this part of them to appear when they watch something, there will be no reason for them to feel uncomfortable. In fact, it could be said that this is why these kinds of films are made, as they give people the chance to experience the parts of themselves that they have to deny in their everyday life. And, through being able to do this, they can be more likely to tolerate the injustice that is occurring in the real world, and to put up with the status quo. Conclusion With this in mind, one will need to make sure they don’t allow what people say to distract them from doing what they can to find out what is actually taking place. There will be people who want to hear about this and people who don’t. Fortunately, one can share their views on the internet, and this can allow them to attract people who want to hear about what they have to say.
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If one wants to develop the ability to do something well, this is generally not going to happen overnight. In order to get to this level, they will need to put in the right effort, and they will need to be persistent.
Nature For example, if one was to plant a number of tomato plants in their garden, it would be essential for them to give them the water they need. If they were to simply water them a few times when they first bought them, they are unlikely to grow. This is going to be something that they will need to do every day and, even when they start to produce fruit; they will still need to water them. In this case, what they get back will typically be defined by what they put in. Part of life When it comes to having fulfilling relationships, a similar approach is also going to need to be taken. If they were to meet someone, they might have a connection with them, but that is going to be as far as it will go. And then as time passes, this may gradually begin to develop into something far more significant. If this was to take place, it will show that each of them has put a certain amount of effort into the relationship. Reaching Out There would have been the amount of time that each of them has spent talking over the phone and through messaging, and the time they have spent together. Without this, they wouldn’t have the same kind of connection. Now, this is not to say that each person will put in as much effort during each interaction, as there are likely to be moments when this doesn’t take place. But overall, it will be clear that each person has played their part. A Choice As there was a connection, and each person wanted the other person to be in their life, there would have been no reason for one person to control the other. The desire each of them had to develop the relationship would have come from within them. And, through the person responding in a positive way to their behaviour, it would have encouraged them to continue. If this didn’t take place, then there would have been no reason for them to behave in the same way. A Waste of Time One would be putting their energy into the wrong person if this wasn’t taking place, and this would be the same as watering a tomato plant that is no longer alive. It would be clear that the plant is not going to produce fruit, but one would be acting as if it this is not the case. It could be said that this is unlikely to take place, as one would realise that the plants time has come to an end. Nevertheless, while one can have this understanding when it comes to something like this, it doesn’t mean that they will apply this outlook to their relationships. Caught Up And, the reason why they can find it hard to embrace the reality of the situation can come down to what is taking place at an emotional level. How they feel can stop them from able to think clearly, and this can then cause them to put up with what is taking place. The other person might put effort in from time to time, but that could be as far as it will go. Their relationship could be then be described as one-sided, and this is going to be anything but fulfilling. Inner Model However, what can’t be overlooked here is the effect that one’s self-image will have when it comes to the kind of behaviour they will put up with. If one values themselves, they might soon decide that it’s time for them to walk away. Yet, if they haven’t realised their own value, they could continue to tolerate this kind of behaviour. And through putting effort into the relationship, they will be indirectly telling the other person that their behaviour is acceptable. Positive Feedback Said another way, they will be rewarding the other persons behaviour, and as a result of this, there will be no reason for them to change. The other person could come to see that the less effort they put in, the better one responds to them. What this will how is that one is not the only one who doesn’t value themselves, as the other person is likely to be in the same position. If they did, there would be no reason for them to treat other people in this way. The Other Side Based on this, it is going to be only too clear about what one will need to do if they want to erode a relationship. This will take place through cutting down on the amount of effort they put into it. The downside to this approach is that if they act in this way towards someone who doesn’t value themselves, it could end up having the opposite effect. But if the other person is willing to put up with this kind of behaviour, it is debatable as to whether it is worth keeping the relationship alive. The Right Nutrients If, on the other hand, one values another person, it will be vital for them put effort into the relationship. This will mean that they won’t have as much time to focus on themselves, but it will bring them far more fulfilment in the long run. Awareness One could find that they have the tendency to take other people for granted, and that they just expect them to be there. There is also the chance that their early years didn’t give them the guidance they needed when it came to how to behave in a relationship. If one finds that they need to be assisted here, they may need to work with a therapist and/or to read books on self-development.
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When one uses social media, there are likely to be moments when one of their friends says something that they don’t agree with. Or, if they don’t say something like this, they could share something that goes against how they see something.
Part of It One way of looking at this would be to say that this is a normal part of using social media, and not something that can be changed. It is then going to be something that one just has to put up with. When something like this takes place, it could relate to something another person has watched on TV, or who should have won a sports match. In this case, it is not going to be too controversial. Another Area However, if another person was to talk about what is taking place in the political arena, this is likely to be different. One could find that they have completely different outlook to another person. And, while they could be willing to take a look into why someone sees something in this way, they might not be prepared to do so. Instead, they could feel the need to delete this person from their friends list. One Direction As a result of this, it could be said that they are not going to tolerate people who have views that are different to theirs. Said another way, they are only going to accept what people say if they say the same things as them (or something similar) One could believe that they see the world in the right way and that the people, who see the world differently, have the wrong outlook. Therefore, through deleting people who have a different outlook, their time on social media will be far more fulfilling. Instability If they were to leave these people on their friends list, it could result in them feeling angry or upset when they use social media. Their wellbeing would then be destroyed, and they would need to be on guard at all times. Through having this approach, they could spend a lot of time deleting people, and even if they were to believe that they have deleted everyone who they disagree with, this is likely to be short-lived. Out of nowhere, they could end up seeing something that they don’t agree with. It’s not fixed This could come from someone they have recently added to their friends list, or it could show that one of their friends has changed their outlook. Either way, one will end up being exposed to a different way of perceiving something. But even if this didn’t take place, it doesn’t mean that one won’t come into contact with opposing views when they use social media. There are bound to be moments when there is something trending that goes against what they believe. Protection If one of their friends was to say something they didn’t agree with, and they were to delete them, this would have felt like the right thing to do. After all, the only thing they will need to do in order to do this will be to touch a screen a few times. And, if they were to feel bad after doing this, they will only need to think about how much better they will feel by no longer having to see what they say. Yet, while this will allow them to feel better in the short-term, it can stop them from growing in the long-term. The Real World In addition to this, if one was only friends with people who they agreed with, they wouldn’t have any friends. What this comes down to is that it is not possible to have the same outlook as another person. This is not to say that there won’t be certain things that two people will agree on, but that there will be plenty of things that they don’t. Thus, if one has the need to delete people to stop themselves from experiencing inner discomfort, they might need to take a step back. Two Sides There is going to be a difference between looking into why another person has a certain outlook and then deleting them, and simply deleting someone for having another outlook. When the former occurs, they will have taken the time to think for themselves and to come to their own conclusion. But when the latter takes place, it will show that they are being controlled by their emotions, and one is going to lose their ability to function as a conscious human being. It then won’t matter if what another person has said needs to be heard, as one won’t be able to hear it. Put to the Test As a result of this, one could believe that how they view something is the truth, but they won’t be willing to see if this is actually the case. Their priority will be to only accept information that proves they are right, and to dismiss anything that doesn’t. One way of looking at this would be to say that it won’t matter if something is true or not; what will matter is how something makes them feel. If they see something and they experience discomfort, then what someone has said could be seen as being false, but if they see something and this doesn’t take place, it could be seen as being correct. Conclusion What this shows is how important it is for one to not allow their feelings to define whether they are friends with someone on social media. Instead of deleting someone, they could talk to them about what they believe, and this could even bring them closer together (that’s if this relates to a real friend). Ultimately, one will grow through coming into contact with different information; whereas if they only pay attention to information that validates what they believe, this won’t take place. And, through being this way, they won’t end up losing all of their friends.
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If one has the desire to be in a relationship, they could end up going out and/or they could join an online dating site. They could be clear about the kind of person they are looking for, or this could be something that they are not too clear about.
In this case, they could believe that they will just know when they meet the right person. This could be how they have always been, or they may have decided to try something different for once. A Big Factor If one does have a clear idea when it comes to who they want to be with, they may have the need to be with someone who looks good. This could be right at the top of their list, and not something they will want to overlook. And, if they were to come into contact with someone who looked the part, they could end up forgetting about everything else. What this will then show is that it is not going to be possible for them to think straight. Caught Up Even so, this is not to say that this is the only reason one would lose the ability to function as they usually do. What this will come down to is that one could feel different through having the other person in their life. There is then not only going to be the effect this will have on their body, there will also be the effect it has on their heart. It is then going to be challenge for them to take a step back and to realise if the other person is a good match. The Truth The fact they feel good when they are around the other person and when they think about them could be the only thing that matters. Their emotional self will then have taken over, and their ability to think will have been put to one side. Now, there is the chance that they are with the right person, and it is then not going to matter that they are caught up with how they feel. As time passes, they will gradually begin to settle down. Another Outcome However, what they could also find is that they are with someone who isn’t right for them, and they could wonder what is going on. One could come to believe that the other person has changed. It can then be as if the dust has settled and, due to this, it has allowed them to see what is actually taking place. When their emotions were running the show, so to speak, this wasn’t an option. An Act But although it could be said that the other person has changed, this might not be the complete truth. Instead, what it could come down to is that they have just revealed their true colours. This can be put down to human nature, and something that most people do when they meet someone for the first time. There is a strong chance that one also behaved in a similar manner. Another Approach In the future, it might be a good idea for them to do something else and not to allow themselves to get too caught up. As even though they feel good when they meet someone, it doesn’t mean that this is a positive sign. If something like this has happened before, they could find that the people who are not right for them cause them to feel good in the beginning. This experience is going to be short lived, and they will end up having a completely different emotional experience. Being Curious When it comes to finding the right person to be with, they could also look into what kind of relationship someone has with their caregivers. Through doing this, it can give them the opportunity to see what their childhood was like and if there is any conflict that exists between them. For example, if one of their caregivers was to press their buttons, there is the chance that this baggage could be brought into the relationship at some point. Or, if their caregivers are no longer to together, it could show that they won’t have a healthy inner model when it comes to relationships. The Other Side Nevertheless, if their caregivers are still together, it doesn’t necessarily mean that this is a good sign. This could be a relationship that is abusive, and this could then have caused them to believe that this is how relationships work. If someone was to talk about the people they have been with, this can also provide a lot of valuable information. These people could be seen as being the problem, but there will have been one person who took part in each relationship. Black And White It would then be easy to say that what took place in someone’s past will define how they will behave in the present. Clearly, this is not something that can be overlooked, but at the same time, there can be more to it. If someone grew up in a dysfunctional family and they have been working through what took place, they will be redefining themselves. This will then stop them from recreating the same experiences all over again. A Pattern What also needs to be emphasised here is that if one continues to end up with people who have the same issues, it will be vital for them to look into what is taking place within them. If one was just an observer of their reality, there would be no reason for them to get in touch with their inner world. Awareness The people they attract are going to mirror back what is taking place within them at some level. When one is completely out of touch with themselves and lacks self-awareness, this can be hard to comprehend. If one doesn’t attract the right people and they want this to change, they may need to work with a therapist.
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