If someone was to think about a singer or an actor, for instance, they could say that these people have one purpose. When it comes to the former, they could say that their purpose is to sing and, when it comes to the latter, they could say that their purpose is to act.
Clear As Day This is then going to be what they do and, if they were to think about other singers and actors, they could say the same thing. As a result of this, one is unlikely to believe that these people have a hidden agenda. They will be no different to how a mechanics main purpose is to fix cars or a chef’s main purpose is to make food. This could also mean that they won’t look up to these people either, simply seeing them as normal human beings. Another Role However, if one was to do some research and to find out what these kinds of people come out with, they might start to see that it is not this black and white. This could be a time when they will see that certain actors and musicians are extremely vocal when it comes to certain causes and issues. There will be some who are happy to talk about politics, what is taking place with the environment and guns, amongst other things. After seeing this, they could say that they are entitled to talk about whatever they want. A Free Mind Once again, though seeing these people as just normal human beings, it could stop them from placing too much value on what they come out with. One could believe that someone is a great singer/actor, but it doesn’t mean that they see them as some kind of sage. Through being able to think for themselves, it will allow them to do their own research and to look towards the people who know what they are talking about when it comes to social issues or politics, for instance. This is then no different to how one is likely to accept what their dentist says when it comes to their teeth, but they are unlikely to accept everything else that they say. Another Experience Still, while this is how some people will behave in regards to what different celebrities come out with, there are going to be others who have a different approach. When someone does have a different approach, it can mean that they will look up to these kinds of people. It then won’t matter that they are just human beings who can sing or act, for instance, as they will be seen as being above other people. If someone has this outlook, it could show that they are at the beginning of their life. Naive Consequently, their brain is still going to be developing, meaning their ability to think critically might not be online. In addition to this, they probably won’t know much about life or have experienced much, and this will make it harder for them to realise when they are being deceived. Ideally, someone like this would be told by their elders and teachers that just because someone can sing or act, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they know everything. What would also help is for them to be told that these people are human beings; they are not gods. A Barrier The trouble is what when someone is young, they can believe that they know everything. This was something that Oscar Wilde was aware of when he said, “I am not young enough to know everything”. Yet, if they don’t have a close relationship with their parents, for instance, and believe that the sun shines out of these celebrities behinds, they are going to be happy to swallow everything that these people say. With this in mind, it could be said that today’s celebrities have a lot of power and this means that they have a lot of responsibility. A mixed bag Now, there are going to be plenty of celebrities who realise this, and this will cause them to watch what they say. There will be some who believe that it is best for them to keep their views to themselves. But for others, they will feel the need to present their views as the truth, and it could be said that they will be abusing their power. It can then seem as though their fame has gone to their head and this has resulted in them being out of touch with reality. An Ulterior Motive They can end up saying things that are completely irrational, creating the impression that they haven’t taken the time to think about what they have said. One way of looking at this would be to say that someone like this might have a well developed voice but what they don’t have is a well developed intellect. Another way of looking at it would be to say that this actor/musician has been told what to say by the people above them. What this would show is that even though someone like this can appear to have a lot of power, they are still going to be controlled by other people. Power Hungry Someone like this can have such a craving for power and attention that they may have lost touch with their true-self to be where they are. Thus, they are not going to be bothered about doing the right thing; they will only be concerned with maintaining their position of power. Their singing or acting, for instance, is the going to be a way for them to fulfil their ego needs and it will allow the people above them to achieve their nefarious aims. And, as most their target audience will look up to them and believe just about everything that comes out of their mouth, there will be no need for them to have a well developed intellect. Conclusion The best time to indoctrinate people is when they are young; this is when they are most vulnerable. Based on this, certain celebrities are there to shape children’s minds, and their purpose is then no different to the education system. The difference is that one won’t graduate after listening to what these kinds of people have to say, but they will if they finish their time at college/university. Lastly, the word graduation is said to mean gradual indoctrination.
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Around the middle of last year, there was a day when I felt like trying yoga again, and this was partly due to the fact that I felt lighter. What also gave me a boost was that I had just spent the afternoon with a friend.
I had thought about doing this before, but I hadn’t taken the next step; this time it was different. I ended up looking online for somewhere that was close by and when I did this, I just happened to come across a technique for healing trauma. I wanted To Know More! I was curious about it what is was all about; I even sent an email to the website asking for more details. It turned out that there were yoga classes at the same place, so I thought I might be able to find out more about it when I went for the yoga session. To my surprise, the same woman who taught yoga also taught the technique for healing trauma. I asked her about what it was all about and she had a lot of positive things to say about it, and she said that the next class would be in a few days time if I wanted to experience it. Raring To Go I would have tried the technique there and then; I didn’t need time to think about it and I didn’t need convincing either. After a few days had passed, I went back to try it out and to see if it was any good. In the beginning, we did a number of different stretches and then we went into a position where the trauma could be released. When this started to happen, I ended up being filled with joy and gratitude. A Build-up Before I tried this technique, I was aware that there was a lot of stick energy in my body, and I had even released some of this when I tried somatic experiencing a little while before. When I tried this technique, I didn’t think it was overly effective; it seemed a bit slow and weak. However, when I experienced this technique for the first time, it was far more powerful. I was filled with joy because I was finally letting go of trauma and I felt grateful because I had been trying to do this for many, many years. The Difference I had used techniques that had healed emotional pain, but what I hadn’t come across was anything that would allow me to let go of the fear, anxiety and terror that I was carrying and to feel safe. At the same time, I would be more accurate for me to say that I had come across different methods and techniques that allowed me to settle down, but the results didn’t last. I learned this technique at a place that was very near to a big castle and, during my first session, I had this vision where I was on a horse and I ended up being given a sword. It was as though I was being rearmed, it was a very powerful experience. What’s it called? This technique is called Total Release Experience®, or TRE for short. Not only does this technique actually heal trauma, but it doesn’t cost an arm and a leg to learn it and someone can use it whenever they need to. When it comes to healing trauma, normal therapy or counselling rarely work. In addition to this, it often costs a fortune and someone can end up being dependent on another person to regulate how they feel. Final Thoughts As a result of this, someone can have their existing problems and then they can end up with a load more by taking the traditional route. They can feel the same, if not worse, and they can have even less money that they had to begin with. So, if you would like to find out more about Total Release Experience®, please go to - https://treuk.com/.
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When one has the ability to express what is taking place within them, they will probably be seen as someone who is in tune with themselves. They will be able to share their thoughts and feelings, and being this way will affect every area of their life.
Authentic Being this way is going to allow them to have relationships that are deeply fulfilling, and this is because they won’t need to wear a mask. If they did, they would need to ignore what is taking place within them. The people in their life will know who they are and one will then know that these people like them who they are. On the other hand, if one was playing a role, part of them could wonder if these people would stay around if they knew who they were. A Waste of Energy Having these thoughts as well as wearing a mask would take away a lot of their energy, energy that could be used elsewhere. Thus, through not being this way, they will be able to use this energy more constructively. It can be directed towards their relationships and their career, among other things. Ultimately, the more energy they have, the easier it will be for them to achieve whatever they want to achieve. On A Mission For example, one could work for somewhere else or they could be self-employed, and they might have a fairly normal job or they could do something that is a bit different. But regardless of who they work for or what they do, they will need to have the drive to get things done. And if they were doing something to please other people, it could be a lot harder for them to find the drive that they need. Each day of their life would be like a means to an end and this would make it harder for them to be present. One Step Back Alternatively, one could be at the beginning of their life and this could mean that they are studying, or they may have gone back to college/university. Either way, they could feel as though this is what they need to do and that they are on the right track. If they were to look ahead, they may see that there is a lot that they have to do before they are ready to go to the next stage, yet this might not faze them. What they are doing will be in alignment with their needs and this will make it easier. Another Benefit Standing their ground is likely to be something that they don’t struggle with, thereby allowing them to say ‘yes’ and ‘no’ when they need to. This will reduce their chances of being walked over by others and agreeing to do things that they don’t really want to do. If they are walked over by someone, it will then be the exception as opposed to the rule. Naturally, this is going to save then a lot of drama and it will cause other people to respect them. Emotional State When someone experiences life in this way, they are likely to feel as though they have control over their life. This will allow them to feel empowered, with this having a positive effect on their wellbeing. Still, this doesn’t mean that they will never feel down or angry, or that their life will always go as they want it to; what it means that this won’t be how they are used to experiencing life. If one of their friends was to share their thoughts on what they are like, they could say that they have high self-esteem. The Most Important Thing Based on this, having high self-esteem is going to be the key to living life in this way. Therefore, if someone finds it hard to express themselves, it will be vital for them to work on their self-esteem. Once this has been topped up, so to speak, they will be able to listen what is taking place within them and to allow this information to influence their life. Yet, even if this was to take place, it doesn’t mean that their life would totally change. Another Problem The reason for this is that if someone doesn’t feel as though it is safe enough for them to assert themselves, it might not matter how they feel about themselves. What this comes down to is that their need to feel safe is far more important than anything else. But once they feel safe enough to express themselves, everything else should fall into place. If someone doesn’t feel safe enough to express themselves, it is going to be necessary for them to look into why this is. What’s going on? There is the chance that there was a time in their life when they felt overwhelmed and as though their life was at risk. This could be how they felt in their adult life, or it could go back to how they felt as a child. If they have experienced life in this way for as long as they can remember, it could be a sign that they were abused during their early years. These experiences would have caused them to believe that is wasn’t safe for them to exist. Awareness In addition to what they would have come to believe, there would have also been the effect that these experiences had on their body and mind. The years will have passed but they will still be carrying trauma and beliefs that don’t serve them. If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, it might be necessary for them to reach out for external support. This can be provided by a therapist or a healer.
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In the western world, offending someone is often seen as being as bad, if not worse, than actually causing harm. When someone has this view, words are going to be seen as another form of violence.
It will then be necessary to punish a person who has said something that is ‘offensive’, and there will be a number of ways that this can take place. They could end up being shamed for what they have said, or it could be far worse. A Number of Consequences If someone feels offended by what another person has said online, they could up trying to silence them. This can take place by labelling them in some way, and this can mean that they will accuse them of being something. And in today’s world, there are plenty of words that can be used to here; it is not as though there is just one word available. For example, they could accuse them of being a sexist or a racist. One Step Further Along with this, they could try to have this person banned from social media, and this will then take away this persons platform. The effect it has on their life can all depend on how well known they are. If, for instance, they use social media to share videos and blog posts, this is going to have a massive effect on their livelihood. However, if someone has been ‘offended’ by something they have said, this is not going to concern them. A knock on effect Therefore, what this person has said online is going to have an effect on how they live in the real world. They may have lived from the money they made online, so losing their platform will take away the money they need to survive, But even if someone only uses social media to stay in touch with friends and to share their thoughts, what they say online could still impact their life in a big way. If another person is offended by what they have said, they could end up being reported to the police and/or they could even lose their job. The Mob And what is fairly certain is that if one person is offended, there are likely to be others who will also be offended. Someone can then have an army of people who want them to be punished for what they have said or done. These people are likely to make a lot of noise and to be full of a lot of emotion, and this will give them a lot of power. They probably won’t work for the police, but they will want to police other people’s thoughts. Black and White The trouble is that even if someone is offended by what another person has said or done, it doesn’t mean that this person has done something wrong. They may have just expressed a view that goes against the dominant narrative. But as offence is often seen as something that is given, not taken, there will be no reason for this person to look into why they are offended. They will be in the right and the other person will be in the wrong, and that will be the end of it. Victimised One will believe that the only reason they feel as they do is due to what another person has said. It is then going to be perfectly acceptable to punish the person who has made them feel bad. The words that have come out of this person’s mouth will then be like bullets (or sticks and stones) that have caused them to experience pain and this will prove that they have done something wrong. Having this person banned from social media or even causing them to lose their job, for instance, is then going to be justified. The Death of Free Speech One way of looking at this would be to say that this shows how powerful people’s feelings have become in today world, that’s if they buy into a certain worldview. If they do, how they feel will be far more important than anything else. It is then irrelevant as to whether what another person has said is true and actually reflects reality. The way to make sure that certain people don’t have to experience discomfort will be to stop certain views from being expressed. Emotionally Undeveloped But if all this is put to one side, it is clear that people like this are unable to handle their own emotions. They don’t have the ability to regulate how they feel and this is why they need to silence others. Through being consumed by their own emotions and needs, it is going to stop them from being able to think about what will happen if people don’t have the ability to share their views. It is similar to how someone can steal food from an orphanage and, through being so consumed by their own needs, they won’t be able to think about the effect their behaviour will have on the children. Self-Absorbed Thus, even though someone can appear to have the moral high ground if they have the tendency to be offended, this is not going to be the case. What it will show is that this is just someone who can’t manage their own emotions, which is why they want to control other people. If they were a morally upright human being, they would look into what they need to do to be able to handle how they feel. They would also realise that it will only be a matter of time before they are silenced. Conclusion What this illustrates is how important it is for people to take responsibility for their own emotions. This something that the so-called leaders at the top should be encouraging, but their again, it is easier for them to control people who can’t control themselves, and they can use these people to completely transform society. These people are only too aware of how fractured society has become, so they need to do everything they can to stop people from talking about what they can see with their own eyes. Dealing with the people who notice what is going on and ignoring the people who are causing problem is the modus operandi.
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For some people, the title of this article might sound a bit strange, and it could be said that this is not going to be much of a surprise. After all, it can seem more or less impossible for someone to ‘leave their body’.
To be human means having a body and, if someone lost this part of them, they would die. Based on this, it is not going to be possible for someone to leave their body and end up as just a head. Another Angle Another way of looking at this would be to say that it is not that someone can physically disconnect from their body, but what they can do is lose awareness of what is taking place there. One is the going to have a body, yet they won’t feel connected to this part of them. Consequently, it can be as though they only have a head and their body is not part of who they are. They can have the same connection to their body as they do to a table or a chair, for instance. Disembodied Their body will then be connected to their head but it won’t be as though it has anything to do with them. There is then their head and there is their body; they are not going to feel like a whole human being. Naturally, this is going to have a big effect on how someone experience life and how other people perceive them. This could be how they always experience life, or it could be what happens at certain times. The Outcome When one is out of touch with their body, they are going to be out touch with their needs and feelings. They can then be aware of what their mind needs, but that will be about as far as it goes. Therefore, they won’t know if they are hungry or not, how they feel about what they are doing, or whether or not they need to connect with others, amongst other things. One is going to be out of touch with a lot of important information. An Analogy It is then going to be similar to what would happen if one was driving a car but they didn’t look at the dashboard. One is going to be oblivious as to the amount of fuel they have left and how fast they are going. Due to this, their car could just stop or they could end up crashing into something and ending their life. Here, one needs to bring their attention down to the dashboard from time to time and this will solve all these problems, as well as others. On The Sidelines And through being out of touch with what is going on in their body, one is not going to have a strong need to do anything. They will be more like a sports player sat on the bench than someone who is on the field getting involved. Their mind, unlike their body is not interested in doing anything or getting things done; it will be happy to just think about life, not to embrace it. What this will then mean is that they won’t be able to assert themselves. No Boundaries So, if they are around others, they could end up going along with what other people want them to do. If they don’t want to do something it might not matter, as they could act as though they do. One could end up being compromised, but they are not going to realise that this is what is taking place. The reason for this is that they will be out of touch with their feelings and needs. The After Affects If they were to spend time in their own company after something like this has taken place, they could end up coming into contact with how they feel. That is, of course, if they are not always disconnected from their body. During this time, they could feel angry, frustrated, and powerless, and it could be as though they have no control over their life. Now, if they were aware of their feelings and needs when they were asked to do something, it might have stopped them from agreeing to do something that they didn’t want to do. Staying In Their Body In this case, one will inhabit their body at certain times and leave it at others. When one is connected to their body they will be able to embrace the present moment, with this being their point of power. The key will be for them to stay in their body and to no longer leave it. In order for this to take place, one will need to understand why they leave their body to begin with. A Deeper Look What they are likely to find is that the reason they pop out of their body is because they don’t feel as though it is safe for them to be in their body. This is then no different to how one would leave a building if it wasn’t safe for them to be there. When this happens it will show that there is an outer threat, but when the former takes place it will show that there is an inner threat. Even so, it can be normal for their mind to believe that the threat is external, and this will show that they are projecting their inner world onto their outer world. Back In Time What this is likely to show is that they have experienced trauma, and this could be the result of what took place when they were younger. That’s if they have experienced life in this way for a very long time. Their early years may have been a time when they experienced some kind of abuse and/or neglect. This would have overwhelmed their system and stopped them from feeling as though it was safe for them to exist. Awareness Taking this into account, it is going to be incredibly difficult for one to stay in their body unless this trauma is released. But the sooner one starts to do this, the sooner they will be able to get back into their body and to stay there. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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While there are people in the world who are in healthy relationships, there are others who aren’t. As a result of this, some people are going to be with people who have a negative effect on them.
Zero Tolerance If someone is in a healthy relationship, or if they have had them in the past, they might find it hard to understand why anyone would stay with someone who treats them badly. One could even look back on their life and see that they have walked away from at least one person who treated them badly. Through being treated badly, they would have felt uncomfortable and this would have given them the urge to cut their ties with them. But even if this hasn’t taken place at least once, they are not going to accept bad behaviour. A Different Reality If someone like this was to come across another person who is in an abusive relationship, they could tell them that they need to get away. The other person could listen to what they have to say and heed their advice. Then again, they could listen to what they have to say and continue to live their life in the same way. Clearly, this is going to be just about the worst thing that they could do – they need to get away. Another Problem There is also the chance that someone like this has walked away from an abusive relationship in the past, only to have ended up with another person who was just as bad. Conversely, they may have ended up going back to the person who they left. From the outside, it can look as though there is something deeply wrong with this person. Instead of doing whatever they can to look after themselves, it is as though they are doing everything they can to harm themselves. The Answer One way of looking at this would be to say that this is someone who suffers from low self-esteem. Therefore, if they were to feel better about themselves, they would no longer put up with this kind of behaviour. Now, there is the chance that this approach may work, but in order for this to take place, someone like this will need to take the next step. It is not as though another person is going to come and save them. An Act Yet, even if someone was to come and save them, it doesn’t mean that they will have their best interests at heart. How this person comes across in the beginning could be nothing like what they will be like as time goes by. At first it would have seemed as though their life was about to change, but as time passes, they will see that this was nothing more than an illusion. When one ends up with someone like this, they could even come to the conclusion that they are unlucky. Self-Image They are not going to feel as though they have much control over their life, that’s for sure. Feeling powerless and helpless is going to be a normal part of their life, and they will be used to feeling angry and frustrated. Going deeper, they may also spend a fair amount of time experiencing fear, anxiety and even terror. When this is what is taking place within them, the ideal would be for them to pay attention to this information. Evasive Action Their body is telling them everything they need to know, yet it is not possible for them to get away from their abusive partner. They are not safe where they are, so they need to leave and to be somewhere that is safe. However, even though their life is under threat where they are, it is still not going to be enough to get them moving. It is then as though they only feel safe when they feel unsafe, and this is why they can’t leave. Inner-Conflict The part of them that is supposed to keep them alive is not going to be functioning in the right way; if it was, they would be able to protect themselves. Also, the fact that this is what feels safe shows that something isn’t right. One should feel safe when their life is not under threat; what shouldn’t feel safe is being with someone who makes them feel as though their life could end at any moment. What this can show is that they grew up in an environment that wasn’t safe, meaning it wasn’t safe for them to exist. Way Back During this time, they may have experienced some kind of abuse, and this would have caused their mind and body to be flooded with trauma. Being treated badly would then have become what was familiar and therefore what felt safe. So as destructive as this was, being treated in this way would have been associated as what is safe. The alternative would have been for them to have been felt, and this would have been far worse than being abused. Fear of Death One could then have died through being treated so badly, but they would have definitely have died if they were abandoned. It was then a case of being abused and surviving or being left and dieing. The love, care, and nurturance that they needed to develop a strong sense of self wouldn’t have been provided. Additionally, they would have developed a craving for drama and they would have ended up being stuck in survival mode. Awareness If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, it will be a good idea for them to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by a therapist or a healer. What will need to happen here is that one will need to release the trauma that is being held in their body and mind. And as this takes place, they will gradually begin to feel safe with being safe as opposed to feeling safe with being unsafe.
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Although mental and emotional problems have taken centre stage in today’s world, there was a time when they were not really given the time of day. One way to look at this would be to say that it is a good thing that this has taken place.
A Healthier Approach The reason for this is that if someone’s inner world is all at sea, they can reach out for support. So, instead of suffering in silence, they can do something about what is taking place within them. And if someone has got a problem it is going to be vital for them to do something about it; if they just put up with it, their life is only going to get worse. They will end up being worn down and it will be even harder for them to take action. An Analogy For example, if one was to put there hand on something really hot, they would need to move their hand more or less straight away. If they were to leave it there, it would cause even more damage to their hand. The longer it stays there, the weaker their hand will become and the harder it will be for them to use it. What this empathises is how important it is to recognise when there is a problem and to do something about it as soon as possible. The Down Side However, while it is a good thing that what is taking place on the inside is longer being overlooked, this doesn’t mean that everything is now in balance. In some cases, it is as though this is something that has gone from one extreme to the other. For instance, certain emotions are often seen as a problem, meaning that they need to be removed altogether. When someone believes this, they are going to believe that certain emotions no longer serve a purpose. A New Human Being a healthy human being is then not going to have anything to do with embracing both sides of the emotional spectrum; it will be about removing the emotions that are no longer needed. What is means to be human is then being redefined and this is creating even more problems. When someone ignores how they feel, this is going to create problems, but what will also create problems is if they try to remove the emotions that are classed as ‘negative’. It is going to be far healthier to be in the middle. What does this mean? One emotion that is often seen as a problem is anxiety, and it can then be normal for someone to believe that their life would be better without it. Now, if they experience high levels of anxiety and find it hard to function, this is to be expected. Yet, if they were to completely remove this emotion, it would cause them to experience another set of problems. When someone doesn’t have anxiety problems, it will be easier for them to see the benefits of it. The other Side Someone like this could experience anxiety if they have an exam coming up and this can allow them to prepare in the right way. If they didn’t feel this way at this time, it could cause them to be ill-prepared. Alternatively, they could be walking down a dark ally and, after hearing a sound, they could feel anxious. This is then going to focus their mind and make it easier for them to get away if their life is under threat. A Different Experience On the other hand, if one more or less always experiences anxiety, it is going to be incredibly draining. There will be the effect this has on how they feel, the effect it has on their body and mind, and how it influences their behaviour. What is clear is that it is going to be incredibly difficult for them to relax and to be in the present moment. It might not matter what kind of environment they are in as it could be as though they are in a war zone. Projection This will show that it is not due to what is taking place externally that they feel the way they do, it is due to what is taking place within them. On the inside, one is not going to feel safe and this is then why they perceive their external world as dangerous. In other words, one is projecting their inner world onto their outer world and, unless they settle down, it is not going to be possible for them to see the world differently. The big question is why is one experiencing so much inner discomfort? A Closer Look The part of them that is there to notify them of danger is out of control and this is why it is acting as though their life is constantly under threat. It is as if one is stuck in survival mode. What this is likely to show is that they are carrying trauma, and while this could relate to what has taken place in their adult life, it could also go back to what happened at the beginning of their life. During this time, they may have been abused and/or neglected by their caregiver/s. Awareness This would have caused their body and mind to be flooded with trauma, thereby stopping them from being able to function as a whole human being. Other parts of their brain won’t be able to work in the right way, and this is why they will be stuck in fight, flight or freeze mode. If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, it might be necessary for them to reach out for external support. This can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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If a woman wanted to change her appearance in the past, she may have had a boob job. Nowadays, this is just one of a number of procedures that a woman can have to change how she looks.
Plenty of Options If she isn’t happy with her weight, she could have fat removed, and this will mean that she won’t have to wait a matter of weeks or months to lose it. Alternatively, she might not be pleased with the size of her lips, and this can be taken care of by injecting something into them. Or, she might believe that her bum isn’t big enough, and this can be changed by adding something to this area of her body as opposed to taking anything away from it. There are other things that can be done and as time passes, more procedures are likely to be added to this list. Another Route But even if a woman didn’t want to do anything like this to her body, she could still end up trying to transform her appearance in another way. She may have the desire to do this by exercising and lifting weights. What she may also feel the need to do is to have a tan all year round, causing her to use fake tan or to have regular sun bed sessions. This is going to mean that a lot of her money will be spent on her appearance. The Other Side On the other hand, if a man wanted to change his appearance, he could believe that the best thing for him to do would be to start working out. Getting a good hair cut and even having his eye brows waxed could also cross his mind. Then again, he might think about having fat removed from his body, with this being an easier option. Having a constant sun tan might also appeal to him, and this may mean that he will spend a fair amount of time on a sun bed each month. Balance is the Key One way of looking at all this would be to say that the only reason anyone would go to this trouble is because they want to look good. Based on this, there is nothing strange about someone putting a lot of effort into their appearance. After all, looking good will make it easier for them to make a positive impression and to go further in just about every area of their life. In the same way that money gives someone power, looks also give someone power. Part of Life As to whether someone should be given special treatment for something they were born with and haven’t earned is immaterial; this is just how the world is. With this in mind, it is not a surprise that the beauty industry makes a lot of money. Nevertheless, there is a difference between having the need to look good and having the need to look perfect. When someone wants to look good, they are not likely to be obsessed with their appearance, but when they want to look perfect, this is unlikely to be the case. One Focus This could cause them to neglect other parts of themselves and overlook other areas of their life. One can then end up looking good, but they might not have much else to offer. Yet, even if one was still able to take the time to work on other parts of themselves as well as other areas of their life; they could still experience a lot of anxiety. The reason for this is that they could fear that other people will realise that they are not perfect. Avoidance What this would then show is that looking good is a way for them to try to stop other people from rejecting them. They are going to believe that looking perfect is the only way for them to be accepted by others. The trouble is that even if they do receive a lot of positive feedback, they won’t be able to internalise the feedback that they receive. It will only go in so far and this is because of what they believe about themselves. Two Parts What this shows is how much of an effect someone’s self-image has how on how they view themselves and on how they respond to external feedback. If one has a distorted view of themselves, it might not matter what they do to their appearance as it probably won’t change what is going on within them. Therefore, if one tries to change their appearance (the hardware) but they don’t change what is going on within them (the software), they are only going to get so far. The whole world could tell them that they look amazing, but this won’t change what they believe about themselves or how they feel deep down. What’s going on? If one feels worthless, it could be due to what has taken place in their adult life, or it could be the result of what took place when they were growing up. If it relates to what took place at the beginning of their life, it could show that they were abused and/or neglected. This would have been a time when they were egocentric, meaning they would have taken everything personally. It was then not that their caregiver/s had their own mental and emotional problems, with this being the reason why they behaved in an abusive manner; it was that there was something inherently wrong with them. Awareness Ultimately, there is nothing wrong with them – the only thing that is wrong is that they have developed beliefs that don’t reflect on who they are. So, when their inner world changes, they will be able to see that there is nothing wrong with them and to accept positive feedback from others. If one can relate to this, and they want to transform their life, they might need to reach out for external support. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk Fight Instinct: Do Some Peoples Childhood Set Them Up To Disconnect From Their Fight Instinct?23/3/2018
No matter where someone lives on this planet, they are going to need to be able to stand their ground and to protect themselves. What this will do is stop them from being walked over by other people.
Now, this is not to say that everyone who one will come across will have the desire to harm them. There are going to be people out there who would if they had the chance, along with others who have no interest in doing such a thing. Unintentional However, if one doesn’t have the ability to stand up for themselves, it won’t matter if another person wants to harm them. Another person could do something that they are not comfortable with, but one won’t let them know. Here, one could feel as though they are being taken advantage of, yet this will only have place because they didn’t speak out. So, regardless of whether one feels bad as this takes place or shortly after, they will only have themselves to blame. Taking Responsibility At the same time, if they were to blame themselves it might only make them feel even worse, and this is why it would be better for them to realise that this is something that they allowed to happen. What took place will have had a negative on them, but at least they will be able to do something about it. The alternative would be for one to see themselves as a victim, and this is not going to have a positive effect on them. One outlook will allow them to feel empowered, while another will cause them to feel helpless. The Truth Still, it wouldn’t be accurate to say that this is all just a matter of perspective, as this would imply that it is all about what is going on in their mind. What it comes down to is that one outlook is the truth and one isn’t; it is not merely a matter of perspective. Therefore, if one is able to take a step back and to reflect on how they behave, they will be able to see how their behaviour is what needs to change. The trouble is that if one has been walked over for as long as they can remember, it is going to be normal for them to believe that this is something that is out of their control. Learned Victimhood Throughout this time, each experience that they have had will have strengthened their view of themselves as someone who is just an effect of their environment. Other people will have the ability to protect themselves, but this won’t be an option for them. If one doesn’t feel comfortable asserting themselves on this planet, it is going to show that something isn’t right. For some reason, they are not going to be able to do something that is in their best interest. The Difference It would be easy to believe that the people who can do this have something that one doesn’t have, which is why they experience life differently. This is not going to be completely true, but it won’t be completely false either. These people are unlikely to have anything that one doesn’t have, yet what they will probably have is a strong connection to their fight instinct. This is something that Ben Ralston has spoken about, and it relates to the part of us that is there to keep us alive. A Security System One way of looking at this would be to think about how a good security system will allow a home owner to know when someone or something has come onto their property. This system will create a force field around their house and they will be notified as soon as it has been breached. In the same way, the fight instinct is there to let one know when they have been compromised. Taking this onto account, if this part of someone is not up and running, they are going to be like a sitting duck. Offline What this shows it that even though everyone has this within them, it doesn’t mean that it is online. When this part of someone’s nature is not assisting them, it can show that they have experienced trauma. If one has more or less always experienced life in this way, it is likely to show that they were abused and/or neglected as a child. Through being treated so badly, it would have caused them to believe that it wasn’t safe for them to listen to their needs and to assert themselves. A Negative Association In addition to this, their body would have been flooded with trauma, and this may have caused their lower body to shut down. Asserting themselves would have been seen as something that would cause them to experience even more harm or to be completely annihilated. Being treated badly would have been painful, but it wouldn’t have been as bad as what might have happened if they tried to fight back. These early experiences would then have set them up to feel comfortable with being violated. Awareness In order for them to be able to get their fight instinct back online and to feel safe enough to stand their ground, it will be vital for them to deal with the trauma that is in their body and mind. Naturally, this is a process and not something that will happen overnight. If one would like to do this, it might be a good idea for them to work with a therapist or a healer. And, to find out more about Ben Ralston, and the services that he offers, please go to - http://benralston.org/
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Oliver JR Cooper http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk Anger: Can Someone End Up With Anger Problem If They Don't Feel Safe Enough To Fulfil Their Needs?22/3/2018
There are a number of emotional problems that are fairly common in today’s world, and it is hard to say for certain how common they are. Even so, this is not to say that each problem will receive the same amount of sympathy.
For example, if someone suffers from depression, they may find that other people are generally sympathetic. However, if someone has anger problems, this might not be the case. The Big Difference One way of looking at this would be to say that this is to be expected, and this is because the former is less likely to cause the same kind of trouble as the latter. Having anger problems could cause them to be violent, for instance. At the same time, it could be a challenge for people to spend time with someone who is depressed. Other people are not likely to feel threatened in their presence, but what they could find is that they feel drained. Overt and Covert What this shows is someone’s mental and emotional problems are going to affect other people in different ways. Still, what matters is that someone like this does what they can to move forward. Not only will it make them feel better, it will also make it easier for them to keep other people around. If they don’t do anything about what is going on for them, they can end up suffering unnecessarily. The Traditional Route If one was in a position where they experience a lot of anger, they might believe that they need to learn how to manage their anger. It is then not going to be about looking into why they get angry, it will be about controlling how they feel. One is going to be focused on the effect as opposed to the cause, and this is a common approach in today’s world. From the top to bottom, the focus is generally on managing symptoms but not on dealing with the deeper problems. Drugged Up Addtionally, one could end up being put on some kind of drugs, which will probably make it easier for them to function. What this won’t do, however, is allow them to deepen their understanding of themselves. Nevertheless, if someone’s anger is out of control, they can just have the desire to settle down. What this will do is allow them to carry on as normal and to no longer lose control as much. Going In Deeper If someone was to take a deeper look into why they are experiencing life in this way, they may find it is due to an experience they have had. Perhaps one person treated them badly, causing them to feel violated. This person would then have walked over them and this would have caused them to experience a lot of pain. In addition to feeling angry at the other person, they may also find that they feel angry at themselves for not doing anything. A Big Impact With this in mind, it will be important for them to work through how they feel and they might need to work on their boundaries. Once they have done this and they are able to stand their ground, there will be less chance of them being walked over in the future. What this will also show is that it is going to be perfectly normal for them to experience a lot of anger, considering what they have been through. But if this information is overlooked, it can seem as though they are acting in an irrational manner. Another Reason Then again, what they may find is that not only do they find it hard to say no and to stand their ground; they find it hard to assert themselves in just about every area of their life. Along with feeling angry, they can be used to feeling powerless and helpless. It is then going to be incredibly difficult for them to fulfil to their own needs, so it is to be expected that they would be angry about this. If they didn’t feel angry about this, it would be important for them to find out why this is. Information Their anger is there to notify them of when they are not listening to their own needs. Therefore, to silence this part of their nature is not the answer; the only thing that this will do is to cause them to suffer even more. So, as one has their own needs and they need to fulfil these needs to live a fulfilling life, it can be hard to understand why they would they are experience life in this way. What this can show is that at one point their life, they learnt that is wasn’t safe for them to exist. A Closer Look This is likely to relate to what took place during the beginning of their life, with this being a time when they were abused and/or neglected. Their whole being would have been traumatised at a time when they needed to feel safe, secure, and loved. Thus, they didn’t get what they desperately needed; what they got what was the massage that the world was dangerous and that their life could end at ant moment. The years will then have passed, but what took place all those years ago will be defining their life. Awareness If one can relate to this, and they want to transform their life, it might be necessary for them to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by a therapist or a healer. The trauma within them will need to be released and, as this takes place, they will gradually feel safe enough to be on this planet. Dealing with the anger alone (the effect), without healing the trauma (the cause), is likely to be a complete waste of time.
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