When I was out walking the other day, I came across a load of lambs. Having said that, it might be more accurate to say that a lamb spotted me and after this, I saw the lamb and a number of other lambs.
This lamb was looking at me through a fence and I even managed to take a few pictures. I must say that I was surprised by how curious this lamb was; this wasn’t something that I expected. Play Time Before this I had seen lambs jumping around and playing with each other, but this didn’t have the same impact on me. As they were basically children, I thought that this type of behaviour was normal. The type of behaviour that these lambs were displaying was very different to how sheep usually behave. Sheep usually walk around eating and if they are not doing that, they are sitting down. A Similar Path What I started to think about after this was how someone can be like a lamb when they are younger and like a sheep when they are older. Therefore, by the time they are an adult, their curiosity may have more or less disappeared. Another thing that can be different is that they might not have anywhere near the amount of energy that they had at this time of their life. And if they were a free spirit, this could also be a thing of the past. A Common Outlook Over the years I have hard a lot of people say that human beings are like sheep, due to their herd mentality. What I can’t say is that I have heard anyone say that children are like lambs. It could then be said that these lambs start off in the right way but most lose their way as time goes by. Likewise, human beings start off in the right way and a lot lose their way as time goes by. The Reason How these lambs are treated by human beings could be what causes them to change as time goes by or it could simply be something that is inbuilt. When it comes to why a human being would have lost touch with their curiosity as an adult, it can be the result of the messages that they received very early on. This part of their nature will then have been covered up, which may mean that they no longer have the same passion for life either. But no matter how many years pass, this part of their nature is unlikely to completely disappear. Final Thoughts When someone is curious it will give them the desire to learn new things, and this can stop them from getting bored. They might be an adult, yet the whole world will be a like a playground. Instead of simply judging others, they will want to find out about them and to see why they do the things that they do. Being this way is also going to have a positive effect on their relationships as they will actually be interested what these people have been doing.
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Whilst there are people in the world who think about what it must be like to have a sibling, there are others who know exactly what it is like. However, even if someone does have at least one sibling, it doesn’t mean that they are best friends.
They may talk to their sibling from time to time, but that could be about as far as it goes. Perhaps their sibling lives within walking distance or maybe they live on the other side of the planet. A Weak Connection Therefore, if one is going through a stressful time, they might not even let this person know. This doesn’t mean that part of them will want to reach out towards them and another part wont, as they might not even think about them. Likewise, their sibling might not even reach out to them if they are going through a tough time. When they do get together, it could end up being a very surface level interaction. A Strange Scenario Two people who spent years together will then be acting as though they barely know each other. Thus, even though they spent many years in each other’s company, it will be as if this time had very little, if any, effect on them. There could be people in both of their lives who find it hard to comprehend why they aren’t closer to their sibling. Yet, even if they were to talk about this, it doesn’t mean that anything would change. A Tense Connection Conversely, one might not even talk to their sibling from time to time, with them preferring to keep their distance from them altogether. The reason for this could be that whenever they do spend time with them, it could get out of hand. Practically as soon as they get together, they could have an argument, and this could be followed by another. It is then going to be too draining for them to spend time with their sibling. An Odd Outcome Once again, here will be two people who act like adversaries even though they will have most likely spent years living under the same roof. The time that they spent together during this time should have created a strong bond between them. One might be happy to keep their distance and have no interest in resolving the tension that is between them, or they might wish that things were different. Still, no matter what their thoughts are, there is going to be no magic wand that will make everything better. One Outlook If someone had a good connection with their sibling and they were to come into contact with someone who doesn’t, they could say that they just need to put their differences aside and to make up. Based on what this person has said, it will be as though they are arguing over something that is fairly trivial. If these two people were to get together and to give each other a big hug, everything would be fine. Something like this may get the ball rolling and be something that will allow them to gradually resolve the tension that is within them; then again, it might not do anything. Back to Reality What needs to be taken into consideration is that just because two siblings grew up together, it doesn’t mean that they grew up in a very harmonious household. For example, this could have been a time when they were pitted against each other. The other sibling was then seen as an intruder, someone who they had to outdo in order to win their parents love. This would have made it hard for them to see each other in a positive light. Another Factor At the same time, the tension that exists between them may have been created before they were able to compete with each other. One of them may have been on this planet for at least a year before the other was born and they may have been cast aside after their sibling was born. Or, even if they were not treated in this way, it could have still caused them to feel rejected by their caregivers. It would have been as if they were number one, only to be displaced by someone else. A Massive Impact The sibling who came after the other is then going to be seen as the enemy, even though they played no part in what took place. Due to how young this sibling was when their sibling was born, they might not even be aware of how they felt during this stage of their life. But while their conscious mind might have no recollection of what took place, how they responded all those years ago will still define how they perceive their sibling. Their mind will have forgotten, yet their body will remember. Awareness What happened will be in the past, that much is clear, but what won’t be in the past is the pain that they experienced at this stage of their life. Working through this pain may allow someone to get closer to their sibling or it may just make it easier for them to accept what their relationship is like at this point in time. Ultimately, one can only change themselves; they can’t make their sibling change. When it comes to working through their pain, the assistance of a therapist or a healer may be needed.
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In today’s world, there are a number of challenges that a lot of men are trying to deal with. One thing that a lot of men are struggling with is their own emotions and another thing is erectile dysfunction.
To have one of these challenges would be enough, so to have both of them can be a lot for a man to handle. And not only can both of these challenges be a lot to handle; they can also be things that a man can keep to himself. Weighed Down Two areas of their life are then not going to be going as they want them to go, yet it won’t be enough to push them in the right direction. Ultimately, he will be choosing to suffer in silence. He may believe that if he was to open up about how he feels, it would mean that he is weak. Opening up about what is going on down below could be seen as something that will lead to a very similar assessment being made about him. The Big Picture It is then going to be essential for him to be able to step back from what is taking place in his head and to focus on what his life will be like if he doesn’t do anything about what he is going through. If he has emotional problems it doesn’t mean that he is weak; it simply shows that he is human. He deserves to get the assistance that he needs to move forward, but this will only happen if he reaches out for support. And if he has trouble getting an erection, it will be just as important for him to reach out. It Can’t Be Hidden If the man is not in a relationship and is not having casual encounters either, he won’t have to worry about another person finding out about what is going on. This can allow him to avoid a lot of discomfort. However, through not allowing themselves to get this close to anyone, it will can cause him to suffer. He may also be in a relationship with someone and do what he can to put sex off in order to prevent his partner from realising what is going on. Any Age This man could have been on this planet for a fair amount of time or he could be at the beginning of his life. What this illustrates is that this is not a problem that only affects older men. If he is not at the beginning of his life, it could show that he has high cholesterol or that his hormones are out of whack, for instance. So, once he takes a lot at what is going on here and does something about it, he could be back up and running. Too Much Going On Then again, there is the chance that his life is not very harmonious at this point in time and this is why he is in this position. His body can then be numb, preventing him from being as responsive as he would be otherwise. The emotional part of his being is then going to be playing a part in how the physical part of his being is responding. In this case, once his stress levels start to decrease this part of his body should return to how it was before. All Ages If a man is at the beginning of his life, he might not have trouble with cholesterol but he could still have hormones that are not as they should be. This could be the result of the medication that he is taking. What could also affect his hormones is if he is going through a stressful time. Lowering his stress levels or changing his medication can then allow him to get back on track. A New Challenge At the same time, he could be this way because he watches too much porn. Through consuming so much of it, he may have become desensitised to normal sexual interactions. Therefore, for him to be able to become aroused once again, it will be vital for him to cut down on the amount of time he views this type of material. This is not going to be easy, but it will transform his life. Another Factor Irrespective of how old a man is there may have been a time in his life when he wasn’t able to perform, and this experience could be triggered whenever he gets physical with someone. His conscious mind may have forgotten about what took place but it will still affect him. This early experience could also cause him to experience a fair amount of anxiety before he even gets physical. Below this anxiety could be the fear of being rejected and seen as worthless. Further Back When a man is unable to get an erection he is likely to feel impotent, meaning that he won’t feel as though he is an empowered human being. Now, although this will relate to his ability to perform sexually, it doesn’t necessarily mean that this experience has its root in anything sexual. The first time that he felt this way may have been during his early years, with this being a time when he regularly felt powerless and helpless. This may have been a time in his life when he experienced some kind of abuse and/or neglect. The Past Is Present Maybe this was a time when his mother got too close to him, which would have violated his boundaries and caused him to feel smothered. Once again, his conscious mind might not remember any of this but his unconscious mind (body) will be only too aware of what happened. Getting close to someone is then going to trigger how he felt all those years ago, causing his lower body to shut down in the process. He would have experienced what is often described as ‘emotional incest’. Awareness If a man did experience trauma during his early years, he may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer. Even if this is not something that he can relate to, he will still need to do something about what is going on for him. This will be something that his future self will thank him for.
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Although someone has a head, heart and a body, it doesn’t mean that all each of these parts of their being will be embraced. As a result of this, they can look like a whole human being from the outside but it doesn’t mean that they are whole on the inside.
One can then be aware of what is taking place in their head, yet they might not be aware of what is taking place in their heart or body. Their attention is typically going to be in their head. Intellectual Through being this way, they can be primarily concerned with ideas and information; having no time for feelings. If they see someone act emotional, they could see this person as being weak or lacking self-control. One can have more in common with Spock than they do with most of their fellow human beings. Being this way will probably make it hard for them to form deep connections with others, due to the fact that the emotional part of their being is not online. The Opposite If one is not operating in this way, they could have a good connection with their emotions but that could be as far as it will go. Thus, they could have the tendency to be controlled by their emotions. Thinking rationally is not going to be their strong point, which could cause them to make a lot of poor decisions. And while they may not have trouble forming deeper connections with others, they may find that they form attachments with the wrong people. Rebalance If the person who was dead from the neck down merged with the person who didn’t use their head much, they would have the best of both worlds. Not only would they able to think deeply, they would also be able to connect deeply with others. They would also be able to embrace their emotions and to utilise the guidance that they provide. One wouldn’t need to be overwhelmed by them and neither would they need to push them completely out of their awareness. The Missing Piece It could then seem as though this person is an integrated human being, with them having nothing else to embrace. Nonetheless, even if someone’s head and heart are working together in most cases, it still doesn’t mean that they will be a whole human being. The reason for this is that their body is not going to be involved; this will be the part of them that provides them with the energy that they need to express and to protect themselves. When this part of them is not online, then, one can come across as submissive and/or passive, lacking the ability to assert themselves. On Board Their lower body is where their aggression or ‘fight instinct’ will be found, with this part of them being the engine of their life. When this part of them is online and integrated with the rest of them, they will be able to get things done and they won’t put up with any bad behaviour. This doesn’t mean that they will be interested in controlling or dominating others, though, as they will act in an assertive manner. One will then be in a position where their being is aligned and they are an empowered human being. Another Scenario Now, if one’s thinking brain is rarely online, their heart is closed but their body is online, they could do a lot of damage. In general, the energy that is within them won’t be tempered by their heart or their thinking brain. It wouldn’t be a surprise for someone like this to end up behind bars or at least somewhere where they had very little freedom. But if it doesn’t go this far, they could be seen as a threat by the average person. Two Extremes Undoubtedly, walking over others is not the answer and neither is being walked over by others. If one is controlled by their aggression, they will have the inclination to walk over others, and, if they are out of touch with their aggression, they can be used to be taken advantage of by others. If one is used to being walked over by others and finds it hard to assert themselves, what they may find is that a big part of them feels comfortable with what is taking place. Ergo, even though this will cause them to suffer, part of them can be happy to go along with it. A Closer Look During their early years, it might not have been safe for them to express their true-self. If they got angry or expressed what was going on within them, they may have been harmed and/or abandoned. This is not to say that losing touch with this part of their being stopped this from taking place as there is a strong chance that they were still harmed and/or abandoned. Losing touch with this part of their being would have been a way for them to try to prevent the unpreventable. Hell on Earth Perhaps they had two caregivers who were physically abusive or maybe one of them just watched the other do the damage. Regardless of what happened, both of them would have been involved. To be treated in this way at such a young age and for it to be done by the very people who were supposed to love and protect them would have been horrific. To deny this part of their being would have most likely been painful in the beginning, but as time passed, it would have been something that they simply came to accept. Awareness In order for them to reintegrate this part of their being, they will most likely need to resolve the trauma that is within them. As this takes place and they begin to feel safe in their own body, the rest can take care of itself. This is a process that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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Once a relationship has come to an end, it could result in two people going their own way. This will then be a clean break, meaning that both of them will be happy to move on with their life.
What this could illustrate is that they gradually grew apart, with there being nothing to keep them together. Ending the relationship in this way will have meant that neither of them had to get to the point where they hated the other before something was done. Conscious Uncoupling This would have stopped them from having to experience too much pain and drama. But, if both of them didn’t have the level self-awareness that they have, it might have been a different story. Without this, their relationship may have had to get really bad before anything was actually done about it. There is then the chance that the relationship would have lasted longer, yet it would have gone down a very different route. Another Experience Conversely, one of them may have got to the point where they could see that it was no longer working. After being with them for a little while, perhaps it became clear that they were on very different paths. Before long, they may have opened up to their partner about what was going on for them and their partner may have accepted it. This would have stopped too much ill feeling from building up and allowed them to part ways in a more gentle fashion. A Common Outcome If this is what took place, it could be said that this is something that is far more common than the other experience. The reason for this is that it is rare for both people to be equally attracted to each other. As a result of this, one person can lose interest and the other can still be strongly attracted to them. A breakup can then be relatively pain free for one person, while it can be incredibly painful for another. One Focus Regardless of how the relationship ended, both of them could have no interest in painting their ex in negative light. This doesn’t mean that either of them won’t feel angry or hurt, but this won’t give them the desire to make the other person look bad. So, if one of them is not in a good way, they will do what they need to do to work through their pain. Laying into the other person would take away the energy that they need to heal themselves. Another Focus If the other is not in a lot of pain, it doesn’t mean that they won’t have anything to work through. Still, most of their energy could be directed towards other areas of their life, with them being only too aware of how wasteful it would be for them to spend their time criticising their ex. This doesn’t mean that they won’t talk about what took place with a close friend, for instance, but it won’t be a time when they will try to make their ex look back. Getting this out can allow them to process what took place and to gradually integrate the experience. A Different Scenario This is not always going to be what takes place, though, as it is not always going to be possible for someone to move on in this way. Instead, one of them can end up doing everything that they can to make the other person look bad. What can be strange about this is that the person who is trying to make their ex look bad could be the one who did the most damage. Therefore, even if there were problems on both sides, it will appear as though one person was bad and the other was completely innocent. What’s going on? It can then seem as though someone like this doesn’t care about their ex; the only thing that they care about is making themselves look good. If this involves destroying their ex’s image, then so be it. However, although it can seem as though this is what it is really about, there is likely to be more to it. The reason that someone would try to do this can be because they are trying to avoid their own feelings. Avoidance After their ex left them, they may have ended up coming into contact with a lot of shame and what happened after this will be a way for them to keep this shame at bay. Lowering their ex’s value is then a way for them to try to stop themselves from feeling totally worthless. What this shows it that they are out of touch with their inherent value; their value is defined by how other people perceive them. Taking this into account, it is clear to see why they would behave in this way. Self-Protection Deep down, they would have most likely feared that if they didn’t do this to their ex, their ex would slander them. It was then a case of making them look bad, or have their ex reveal how flawed they are to the world. It is unlikely that one would have just felt worthless if this took place; they would have felt even worse. This would have been something that permeated their whole being, with them feeling as though they were less-than human. Awareness The ideal would be for someone like this to reach out for external support, so that they could work through the pain that is within them. Perhaps they were brought up in a very abusive environment. This type of support is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer. When someone behaves in this way they are likely to lack self-awareness and this can prevent them from being able to own their pain and then to reach out for support.
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If someone was to find that there is pain and tension in their chest, the first thing that could come to mind is that there is something wrong with their heart. It could also be a challenge for them to breath, which could mean that they will believe that there is something wrong with their lungs too.
After coming to this occlusion, it wouldn’t be a surprise if they were to end up being consumed by anxiety and even fear. The next step might be for them to go and see their doctor or they could end up going to a hospital. All Clear To their amazement, they may be told that there is actually nothing wrong with this area of their body. This assessment may have been made after a number of different tests were conducted. Or, they may be told that they have Takotsubo Cardiomyopathy (broken heart syndrome), which has caused their left ventricle to become enlarged. In this case, they may be told that everything will soon return to how it was and they could be given medication. The Cause If they were to ask why their heart has responded in this way, they may be told that this is what usually takes place when someone experiences a fair amount of physical and/or emotional stress. One could then be asked if they are going through or have recently been through a stressful time. After thinking about what has been taking place in their life, they may say that there isn’t anything that they can pinpoint Then again, they may say that they have recently gone through a break up or that they are in a relationship that is not going well. Confusion However, even if one has recently gone through a break up, they may struggle to understand how this would affect their heart. What could add to this is that one might not have even felt sad after it came to an end. So, while it would have been a stressful time, it wouldn’t have been something that stopped them from being able to carry on as normal. This could show that one doesn’t have a strong connection with their body. Disconnected If they were able to connect to their body, they would probably find that they are in a lot of emotional pain. There will then be the physical pain they are in and there will be the emotional pain to go with it. Perhaps one was able to connect to their emotions before or maybe this is how they have been for a very long time. If they have been this was for a quite some time, it could mean that they are also carrying pain from other break ups. A Different Response Alternatively, one could be acutely aware of the emotional pain that is in their body. It is then not going to be hard for them to see how their emotional body has impacted their physical body. Still, one might still find it hard to comprehend how a break up could cause them to experience so much pain; pain that is so intense that it ends up manifesting into a physical symptom. Ever since it ended, they may have spent a fair amount of time crying. Another Angle Irrespective of whether one is in tune with how they feel in this part of their body, there is the chance that the pain also relates to what took place during their beginning of their life. This will then explain why there is much tension in this area of their body. What has occurred throughout heir adult years will then have gone on top of what occurred throughout their early years. The beginning of their life may have been a time when they were neglected, meaning their needs were rarely met. A Build-Up Through being rejected and abandoned during this time, it would have caused them to experience a lot of emotional pain. As the presence of the people around them wasn’t there, this pain would have stayed within them. Disconnecting from it would have been the only way for them to stop themselves from being overwhelmed. It was then not something that they chose to do; it was something that just happened to ensure their survival. Life Goes On The years would then have passed and what took place would have been forgotten about, yet the pain would have stayed there. This pain would have been lying dormant until something happened in their life to bring it up to the surface. If the pain in someone’s chest is the result of emotional pain that is trapped – or frozen - in their chest, it is unlikely that this will be solved by taking medication. The only thing that this will do is stop this energy from being released from their body. Awareness Said another way, it will simply mask the symptoms; creating the impression that everything is fine. One way that someone can release the tension that is in their chest is to connect to the pain and then to cry it out. If someone is out of touch with their emotions and can only connect to the physical pain, it can show that their body is carrying a lot of trauma. This is likely to be why they are disconnected from themselves. Once they start to work through this trauma, their emotional self will gradually start to open up. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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Nowadays, George Orwell or 1984 is often mentioned when it comes to what is taking place in the world. The reason for this is that today’s world is becoming more oppressive as time goes by.
In the book, he goes into great detail to illustrate what it is like to live under a totalitarian regime, and it is clear that this is anything but pleasant. One of the lines from the book that is routinely referred to is, “In times of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act”. Another Meaning But while this is what a lot of people believe that the book is all about, there are others who have a different view. For these people, the book can be primarily about how language can be used to deceive and to manipulate. Through controlling language and defining what people can say, there is then no need to have a lot of external control as they will keep themselves in line. The control will be subtle, meaning that physical force is not going to be needed. Years Later A little while after this book came out Aldous Huxley released a book titled, ‘Brave New World.’ Just like the book above this is also about control, but it is a different type of control. Whereas the former is said to be about controlling people through pain, the latter is said to be about controlling people through pleasure. This is then the stick or the carrot approach that is used to instigate a certain type of behaviour. A Powerful Ability As a result of what these two people said in these books many decades ago, it would be perfectly normal for someone to see them as prophets. Somehow, they were able to look into the future and to see what is would be like. Perhaps they were born with a special ability that allowed them to do this or maybe this was something that they developed over many years of hard work. When these books came out a lot of people probably dismissed them as pure fiction, even seeing the authors as crazy. The Perfect Scenario When it comes to the people who are acutely aware of how these two books match up with what is going on now, they may wonder what the world would be like if these books were pure fiction. Now that the world has changed, playing down these books won’t change what is going on. If someone wanted to get an idea of what is must have been like for someone to read one of these books, they may need to read a story where people teleport from one place to another. While this is something that is far more pleasant, it would give them a rough idea of what it must have been like. A Different Outlook Another way of looking at this would be to say that these people were not profits; they merely had a wild imagination. And it is just a coincidence that what they wrote about has ended up having more to do with reality as time has passed. Maybe this is the truth or maybe there is another reason why these two authors were able to write about what would happen in the future with such accuracy. This reason is not as glamorous as the first reason. Insiders What if these two people were part of a something that gave them direct access to information that the average person would never be able to access? This could have been what is often described as a ‘secret society.’ Through being part of something like this, they would have heard about what the establishment had in store for the citizenry. What would happen in the future was then already planned well in advance. Nothing Is Random So, while it can seem as though things just happen and what does happen isn’t connected to anything else, this could be nothing more than an illusion. Yet, to keep people in line and to step them from pushing back, it needs to appear as though this is the case. What this would also suggest is that there are the inventions that are revealed to the public more or less straight away and then there are the inventions that are kept back for a little while. There are also bound to be inventions that are kept back and are unlikely to ever be shared with humanity. Unhinged People If there were people around at this point in time who basically had no interest in their fellow human beings sovereignty, it is clear that these people were not mentally sane. For some reason, they saw themselves as overlords. These people were most likely traumatised beings, which would have caused them to be so consumed by their ego that is wasn’t possible for them to realise their oneness with existence. The same most likely applies to those who have taken over from these people. A Strange Situation However, if this was the case, it can be hard to comprehend why these two people were allowed to share part of what’s in store up for humanity. Perhaps these two people were level headed and couldn’t just sit back and do nothing, and could see that putting what they heard into a story was the easiest and safest way for them to get the information out. Then again, they might have been asked to write about this stuff to prepare people for what was to come. Through programming people in a very indirect way, it would have prepared their unconscious mind and created less resistance. Conclusion In the same way that serial killers often leave a clue, the people behind the scenes often do the same thing. But just as someone won’t see any constellations in the night sky if they don’t know what they are looking for; these clues will also be overlooked if they don’t know what do look out for. Nonetheless, the only way that any of these plans can come into fruition is if the majority of people blindly go along to get along and don’t act like individuals. When someone surrenders their autonomy and acts like an extension of others, they are going to be a slave. Using energy to try to prevent what is going on is not necessarily the answer either, as it can just strengthen what is taking place. When one embodies that which they want to experience in the world, they will be helping to create a new world.
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In ancient Greece, Sparta was a prominent city-state where boys were trained to be warriors. When a boy reached six or seven, he was removed from his parents home and sent to military school where he began the ’agoge.’
In order for these boys to become fearless warriors, they had to go through a ‘brutal training period.’ Taking all this into account, it is clear that these boys had absolutely no say as to what they would do with their life. It Was All Planned As soon as it became clear that they were male, their purpose on this earth was already laid out for them. It then wouldn’t have mattered if they were on board with this as it was what they had to do. And, before they were even born, their parents would have known what their son would do if they were to have one. Clearly, then, men wouldn’t have had a lot of freedom to express themselves in this part of the world at this point in time. The Norm However, while a boy’s life would have largely been laid out for him, it is unlikely that there would have been much resistance as time went by. In the beginning there may have been, but as time went by, it would have most likely been something that he came to accept. The part of them that resisted what was going on during the beginning of their life would then have been pushed out of their awareness as time went by. At first there would have been resistance and after a while, the life that was put in place for them would have been accepted. Times Have Changed Although a lot has changed since that point in history, there is also a lot that hasn’t. Sparta no longer exists but there are still parts of the world where men and women are expected to fulfil a certain role when they are born. For example, there are countries were women are not allowed to choose their own partner; other people will decide who they marry. They are then not seen as separate human beings who have their own needs; they are seen as objects that are there to fulfil other people’s needs. A Different Experience But while this often takes place in certain countries and is even becoming more common in the western world, it could be said that people in the western world generally have more freedom to express themselves. Someone from this part of the world will typically be able to decide for themselves who they marry, for instance. Compared with people who live in other parts of the world and even in the same country, their life is going to be very different. They will be an individual with their own needs and there will be no need for them to overlook them. A Closer Look Now, even though there will be people in the western world who are allowed to express who they are practically from the moment they are born, there are going to be others who aren’t. The reason for this is that their caregivers won’t see them as a separate individual; instead, they will see them as an extension of themselves. This doesn’t mean that they will consciously see their child in this way as this is likely to be something that they are not even aware of. Even so, this will define how they treat their child and what they expect from them. Back In Time Before their child was born there would have been what was taking place in their conscious mind, along with what they said to the people in their life about their future child, but deep down, there would have been another agenda. Ultimately, their child will be seen as someone who is there to fulfil their unmet needs. Most of these unmet needs are likely to go back to their early years, with these being needs that their caregivers were unable to meet. The needs that their caregivers were unable to meet will be the needs that they look towards their child to meet. A False-Self Out of their child’s need to survive, they will have to lose touch with their own needs and to become who their caregivers want them to be. The self that they develop is then going to have very little to do with who they actually are. Their purpose is then not going to be to kill people like a Spartan; it will be to please their caregivers. Through losing touch with their inner world and focusing on what their caregivers want, their life won’t be defined by their feelings that are in their body, it will be defined by the role that has been assigned to them. An Empty Existence Living in this way will allow them to gain approval but it is unlikely to lead to a very fulfilling life. The years will pass and there may become a point when the role that they have played for so many years starts to fall apart. Before this takes place, they may often feel depressed and lost, with them wondering if there is a purpose to their life. There is, but for them to find out what it is, they will need to let go of the role that they are playing and to get back in touch with essence. Awareness If someone can relate to this, and they are ready to transform their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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A few months ago a friend of mine said that he had watched Venom and that it was a good film. I ended up watching the film with another friend and I thought that it wasn’t too bad.
Shortly after I had watched it I thought that it seemed to lack something, as I found it hard to really connect with the film. After a few hours passed, my focus on what the film was like was replaced by what I thought the film was really about. Back Down To Earth The film starts off with a probe crashing down to earth, after it had discovered a comet that was covered in symbiotic life forms. One of the symbiotes ends up taking over a woman and soon takes over other people. The other three symbiotes end up back at the search facility in San Francisco, and this is when it is discovered that they can’t survive without an oxygen-breathing host. It is around this time that we meet Eddie and his fiancée Anne, who appear to be deeply in love. The Calm before the Storm While Eddie it as Anne’s house he has a look through some classified documents that go over what is taking place at the Life Foundation. His fiancée has these documents because she is a lawyer who is preparing to defend the foundation. When Eddie interviews Charlton he brings up some of the things that he saw on his fiancés laptop. The outcome of this is that both Eddie and Anne are fired from their jobs, which results in the latter ending the relationship. A Closer Look Naturally, this hits Eddie hard; not only has he lost his job but his fiancé has also left him. However, even though Eddie is not in a good way, he wasn’t exactly someone who was full of life before. So, if anything, what has taken place just ends up adding even more pain to his life. His passive nature is exemplified when his neighbour plays a musical instrument loudly, making it impossible for him to sleep, yet he doesn’t do anything. One Extreme to Another When Brock goes to the research facility to look for evidence, he notices the woman who he brought a paper from on the street. This doesn’t go to plan, though, as the symbiote that is in her ends up transferring to him. Now that Eddie has this parasite in his body, he is no longer someone who will put up with bad behaviour. His being has been taken over and this has given him superhuman powers, powers that human beings are unable to handle. Back to Normal Once Eddie has just about destroyed the SWAT team that tried to kill him, Anne takes him to her boyfriend’s office. This is when the parasite is removed from Eddie with the help of an MRI Machine and he then goes back to being a normal human being. But even though he doesn’t have the same strength, having this parasite in his body has given him more confidence. One thing that emphasises this is when he headbuts one of the security guards. A Coming Together Eddie is able to kill the other symbiote and it appears as though the symbiote that was within him has also died. It soon becomes clear that it is still in Eddie; the only difference is that it has now integrated with his being. Without this parasite, Eddie was weak and when this parasite took over, Eddie was out of control. Now that they have merged with each other, they have the power to do a lot of good in the world. An Important Process In the beginning, then, Eddie didn’t have a good relationship with his aggression. This part of him was most likely being directed towards himself via his inner citric, which caused him to be low on confidence, passive and to be depressed. The next step was for his aggression to be externalised, with this causing him to behave in destructive ways. It was no longer being absorbed by him; his external environment had to deal with it. Finally, he was able to get to the point where he no longer directed it towards himself and he no longer felt the need to direct it towards others. Through developing a healthy relationship with this side of his nature, he was able to utilise the power within him to become a powerful human being. Conclusion Whether or not this is what the writer/s of the film/comic had in mind when they wrote it is something I can’t answer, but this is how I have interpreted it. The aggression within someone is what gives them the energy that they need to really live life. When this part of them is not integrated, it can cause them to either harm themselves or to harm others, or to alternative between the two. It is usually trauma that causes someone to have an unhealthy relationship with this part of themselves.
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Along with the word diversity, tolerance is another word that is often mentioned by politicians and celebrities. It doesn’t stop there though as there are plenty of people who talk about how important is it to be tolerant.
For example, if someone is at university or has been there, they could spend a lot of time talking about this. Someone like this is then going to do what they can to tolerate views and opinions that they disagree with. A Process This won’t always be easy, but while there will be moments when they will be tested, they will most likely do their best to behave in this way. Therefore, even though this won’t be a walk in the park, it will be something that they are committed to. There may even be times when they are unable to tolerate something and end up letting it be known. And while this may mean that they have gone off track, so to speak, this might not be the case. A Time and A Place The reason for this is that while there will be times when it will be important to be tolerant, there will be times when it won’t be. If one is in a relationship with someone who behaves in an abusive manner, it will be vital for them to be intolerant. The only thing that will happen if they put up with this behaviour it is that they will be undermined. They will need to make it clear that this kind of behaviour is not acceptable and, if this doesn’t work, they will need to end the relationship. Day-To-Day Life In general, when they don’t agree with what someone says, they could just acknowledge what is taking place and carry on with their life. Or, if they were to engage with the other person, they could say that they don’t agree with what they have said but they respect their right to say it. It could be said that this will show that they have reached a certain level of mental and emotional maturity. Their mind will be open to hearing opposing views, and their heart will open enough to enable them to be able to empathise with others. A Balanced Human Being Having the ability to be tolerant and to be intolerant when something is harmful is going to allow them to be flexible. Due to what the modern-day world is like, there are likely to be people who find it hard to understand why they would ever want to be intolerant. Even so, one will know how there are times when it is vital for them to draw the line and not to go along with something. It they were overly tolerant in the past, it might not be hard for them to connect to the pain that they experienced through being this way. One Big Illusion If someone believes that it is important to be tolerant at all times and is unable to understand why anyone would ever want to be intolerant, this may be something that they live and breathe. Then again, they could have the tendency to say one thing and to behave in another way altogether. It is then going to be a challenge for a lot of people to understand how someone could be so hypocritical. Based on how they behave, it will be as if being tolerant means something entirely differently. Deluded So, if someone like this hears another person say something that they disagree with, they can end up criticising them. This could be a time when they will say that they have some kind of phobia or use a word that has ‘ist’ at the end. Tolerating other people’s views is then not going to be something that they are able to do. Either someone will need to believe what they themselves believe or they will be attacked and portrayed as being less-than human, for instance. Out of Touch In order for someone like this to maintain the view that they are tolerant, they will need to have a poor connection with reality. If they were to face up to how they behave, the view that they have of themselves would shatter. One thing that will allow them to keep reality at bay will be for them to use the defence mechanism known as justification. Through portraying certain people as being less-than human, they will be able to continue to see themselves as a tolerant human being. What Is Going On? Another defence mechanism that will be utilised here is projection, with them seeing their intolerant nature in others. What this can show is that although one’s mind has been educated, their emotional self has been overlooked. Yet even though their mind has been educated, they still have a closed mind and lack the ability to think critically. It might then be accurate to say that this is someone who has been taught what to think by the education system, not how to think. The Key Area If one had an open heart, it would enable them to empathise with others, making it easier for them to actually be tolerant. For this part of them to open up, it will be necessary for them to work through the pain that is in their body. All the time that this part of them is closed and they are carrying a lot of emotional pain, it will be perfectly normal for them to be intolerant. As they are not willing to face their so-called darker side, they will end up seeing it in others. Conclusion What this emphasises is that if someone wants to make a difference in the world and not just add more drama to it, it will be essential for them to heal their emotional wounds. If they don’t do this, the parts of themselves that they are not willing to face will be projected into others. The downside here is that even though this will take place, one can believe that they are making a difference and they can see themselves as being a morally superior human being. One thing that can make it even harder for them to realise what is going on is if they are surrounded by people who are just as disconnected from their own wounds.
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