I was speaking to a friend of mine the other day called, Wain, and he was talking about the work that he had been sharing on social media. He had recently created another page and had put in a fair amount of work to build it up.
From what he was saying, it made me think about how it is easy to put in a lot of work and end up with very little in return. There can be the money that someone puts in to increase their ‘followers’ and there can be all the time they put in to create content. Another Approach Now, another thing that often takes place is that someone will share other peoples work, but they will still have had to find out. It is not as though this material will have just appeared in front of them. Yet, without even talking about what my friend has gone through or what the average person does, I can relate to this myself. When I first started writing, I would write an article and expect it to receive a lot of ‘likes’ when I shared it. Two Sides In some cases this would happen, while there would be other times when this wouldn’t happen. As I thought that what I was sharing was good, I would often end up feeling angry and let down when this didn’t happen. Still, I didn’t allow this to discourage me; I carried on writing and gradually stopped caring about how many ‘likes’ I received. As a result of this, I have been able to continue to express myself in this way. A Big Trap Initially, I thought that the amount of ‘likes’ I received defined how good my work was. So, if I received a certain amount, my work was good, but if I didn’t, it meant that my work wasn’t very good. This meant that I was giving my power away and allowing what was taking place on a screen to have a big effect on me. I had to take a step back to see how absurd this was, and this was one of the things that allowed me to regain my focus and to keep going. A Closer Look I say one of the things as I had the need to express myself, so I wasn’t going to just stop because of this. By taking a step back, I started to think about how meaningless these ‘likes' were. These kinds of sites often change what is taking place behind the scenes, which has an effect on who can see what we share. Therefore, there is a strong chance that what we share is not even seen by most of the people who have joined our page. The Most Important Thing Additionally, whether or not someone ‘likes’ what we share doesn’t really mean anything in the long run. If they ‘like’ it, it doesn’t mean that they have actually taken the time to read or watch what we have shared and, if someone doesn’t, it could show that they haven’t seen it or it could just mean that it didn’t match up with what they think is good. What can become clear after thinking about all this is how destructive it is to let what happens on different social media sites to define whether what we produce is good or bad. Ultimately, if you feel the need to empress yourself through writing or making videos, for instance, follow your calling and don’t allow what is going on externally to stop you.
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I remember hearing about someone who only felt good about themselves if they received a certain amount of likes on a social media site. This person was sharing pictures of their face and their body.
If they received a certain amount of likes everything would be fine, but if they didn’t, they would soon end up hitting rock bottom. It was clear that this person had allowed other people to define their value and to control their emotional state. Complete Strangers They hadn’t met the majority of these people before and, even if they had, they might not have got on with most of them. The power to define how they feel was then in the hands of people who they knew very little about. If they only allowed their friends and family to define their value, for instance, it would be different as they would know what they were like and value them. But even if this was the case, they would still be giving their power away. A Big Shock Even if this person was able to meet all of their followers, there is a strong chance that they wouldn’t get on with most of them. And they might even start to hate a lot of these people if they were to spend a lot of time with them. But even though this would be a draining experience, it would allow them to see how crazy it is to give their power away to these people. Consequently, instead of feeling down about not getting ‘likes’ from all of their followers, they might feel relieved. A Precarious Position When our worth is externalised in this manner, it will feel good when we receive positive feedback; we could feel as though we are on top of the world. The downside is that when this positive feedback is not forthcoming, we can end up feeling completely worthless. Not only this, we can get used to the amount of likes that we receive and need more to experience the same hit. What can also play a part is that we can compare how may ‘likes’ we get with how many ‘likes’ other people get, with this being another way for us to feel good or bad about ourselves. Another Way Lastly, if we are looking for people to approve of how we look, there is going to come a time when this approach no longer works. Our appearance will gradually change and this will cause people to go elsewhere. Considering this fact, it is going to be far better for us to get in touch with our inherent value and to let go of the need for other people to make us feel good about ourselves. Getting in touch with our inherent value is not always easy, though, and this is usually because of what we have picked up throughout our life, along with what has been passed down from our ancestors. Letting Go Negative beliefs, emotional pain and trauma, can stop us from being able to connect to our inherent value. Each layer will have built up on the previous later, preventing us from realising the truth of who we are. When it comes to dealing with all this baggage, external support may be required. This is something that can be provided by a therapist or a healer, for instance.
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During my time in Sweden, Stockholm, I was reminded of how good it was to travel. Before I went away, the last time I went aboard was a number of years ago, and this meant that I had pretty much forget about what it was like to go away.
When I was away, it was clear that I was the one who had to get the ball moving, so to speak, or nothing would happen. There wasn’t someone else who would make things happen. In The Beginning Now, I did go there to meet a friend but I wasn’t going to be meeting him straight away. Thus, it was down to me to decide what I wanted to do before I saw him and then to take action. Through taking action I ended up feeling strong and capable, yet this wouldn’t have been the case if I had just sat around doing nothing. There were times when I felt uncomfortable but shortly after I felt more confident. Just How it Works What this made me think about is how it is not uncommon for someone to have the desire to be more confident, and to try to achieve this directly. I thought that this is something that usually takes place indirectly. So, by doing something that makes us feel uncomfortable, we often end up feeling more confident. Confidence is then not something that we can just attain; it is something that we experience after we have done something that has pushed us past our comfort zone. If you don’t use it, you lose it With this in mind, confidence is not something that can be developed and that’s the end of it. In the same way that a plant will die if it is not watered, our confidence will begin to subside if we don’t do things that challenge us. Confidence, then, works in the same way as just about everything else on this planet - in so far as it is either growing or dyeing. Each challenge that we face can then give us the strength that we need to move forward. A Different Environment Back to my experience, I was in another country and this meant that I was out of my comfort zone, which stopped me from simply going through the motions. I had to become more active in order to make the most of my time there. My way of looking at all this is that being away gave me the opportunity to strengthen the masculine element within me. This is something that exists in all of us, regardless of what gender we are. Another Option I am often very aware of this side of my nature, so it doesn’t take a lot for me to realise when this part of me is not getting what it needs. If this part of you is not very developed, this may change if you were to travel. Being away would give you the chance to get out of your comfort zone and it would be down to you to take action. And if you are already in touch with this part of you nature, going away is still likely to benefit you.
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A little while ago I was talking to someone who said that one of their friends had suffered from depression in the past and, along with this, another one of their friends had recently revealed that they were not in a good way. I don’t think it came as a surprise for them to hear about what their first friend had been through, but that wasn’t the case when it came to their other friend.
Hidden The reason for this is that this friend had a good job and they appeared to have it all together. Hearing this came as a big shock to them, and perhaps they wondered how this person was able to cover up how they felt for so long. I wasn’t surprised by what I had heard, and there were a number of reasons for this. Over the years, I have written a lot about how the image that someone presents to the world doesn’t always match up with what is going on within them and how shallow relationships can be. The Result Two people can then spend time together and they can know very little about each other. That’s not to say they won’t know what they have been doing, for instance; what it means is that they won’t really open about how they have been feeling or what is bothering them Each person will be playing a role and this will stop them from being able to be themselves. Creating the right impression ends up being more important than anything else, thereby stopping them from being able to truly connect to each other. Looking Back I know exactly what this is like as I had the need to look strong all the time and to hide how I felt. This meant that it seemed as though nothing fazed me, yet this was nothing more than an illusion. What felt safe was hiding how I felt; if I didn’t do this, I believed that I would be rejected, abandoned and/or harmed. This went back to what had happened to me when I was growing up. A New Perspective I was carrying a lot of shame, and hiding my emotions was a way for me to try to stop people from realising how flawed I was. I believed that if my mask dropped, so to speak, I would end up being exposed and the people in my life would end up walking away. Part of me wasn’t willing to go along with this and I knew that there was a way for me to change my life. I read numerous books and worked with different healers and therapists, which allowed me to see that there was nothing for me to be ashamed off. Very Strange During this time, the relationship I had with my own emotions gradually changed and I no longer wanted to play a role. What I also thought about is that there was no reason for me to feel ashamed of the mental and emotional issues that I had. The positive feedback that I received from therapists and healers played a part in this, as did what I read in books. I went from believing that my inner experience was something to be ashamed off, to seeing as just part of the human experience. Neutral If I had always felt this way, I would have been able to do something about how I felt years before. The beliefs I had about what I was going through were what had held me back, not what I was actually going through. The beliefs I had were the result of my upbringing and the experiences I had had throughout my life. If I had a physical problem, I’m sure I would have let someone know about it more or less straight away and got the right help. A New Outlook When someone realises that there is nothing for them to be ashamed of if they have mental and emotional problems, they won’t need to suffer in silence. This will allow them to look for the assistance that they need. If another person makes out there is something wrong with them, it can show that they don’t feel comfortable with their own emotions. The way that they talk to themselves is then being directed outwards.
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In 2015, I was speaking to a therapist called, Vijay Rana, about different healing techniques. I was talking about how some people believe that their technique is the best one available or the only one that works.
After bringing this up, I went into why I thought that it wasn’t a good idea for someone to say these kinds of things. I remember saying that this can cause someone to experience problems when a technique doesn’t work for them. Self-Blame They can end up believing that there must be something wrong with them, causing them to feel even worse than they did before. Also, instead of trying another technique that will assist them, they can continue to use the same technique. There can be the frustration and anger that they experience as well, along with all the money that they are forking out. And after all this, they are not going to be any better off than they were before; if anything, they can worse off. His Thoughts Vijay listened to what I had to say and then he followed up with what he had heard Ken Wilber say. I think he said that he had heard him talk about how people can get so attached to what they do, that it impedes their ability to think clearly. It was as though the technique they use becomes part of them, making them see everything though a certain lens. Their technique will be a hammer and this will cause them to see every issue as a nail – there will be a one-size-fits-all approach. A Number of Options He said that while he uses one technique, this was not the only way of working through inner blocks. There were a number of different options that he put forward, and this showed that his identity was not attached to a technique. This allowed him to be more open minded and to accept that what works for one person might not have the same effect on someone else. It was not a surprise to hear Vijay say this as he is very down to earth and genuine. A Long List Over the years, I have tried a number of different approaches, and I have learnt a lot and dealt with a lot of stuff during this time. Some of the things I have tried have worked for others but not for me and certain approaches have been good for certain issues but not others. I would say that there are techniques out that there that are far more effective than others, but I wouldn’t say that one technique will solve everything. What I have also thought is that if someone uses a technique and says that it is the only one that works, and they are in a good place themselves, there is a strong chance that they have tried many different techniques over their life to get to where they are. A Process The technique they use will have been elevated, but there is likely to have been so many other factors that will have played a part in where they are today. Ignoring the other techniques they have used and experiences that have allowed them evolve will be similar to a car manufacturer overlooking how much of an impact the earlier models of a car have had on the latest model; if it wasn’t for these models, the latest model wouldn’t exist. Therefore, if they hadn’t have gone through these experiences, they would have been able to get to this point. In other words, it is unlikely that the technique they now use is the only one they have ever used. Timing Often, someone will be drawn to a technique that allows them to go to a level that they feel comfortable with at that point in time. It could be said that there is the technique and then there is how ready someone is to work through an issue. How ready someone is can define how long it will take them to work through something; this is not something that a therapist or a healer can speed up. This is why it is important for someone to trust in their journey, to know that the answers they need will be provided at the right time.
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When I have spoken my friend Wain about what I was working on in the past, he has often asked me what I was trying to achieve. Additionally, he has asked me what I was looking to receive after I had done something.
These questions had a big effect on me, and I wasn’t quite sure how to respond. Nowadays, I’m no longer fazed by these questions, and this is because I know what his intentions are. Getting to the Root I thought that I was being judged when Wain first asked me these questions and this is why I felt uncomfortable. In reality, he was simply curious as to whether I was aware of why I wanted to do something or why I had done it. Thus, if I hadn’t thought about this, I wouldn’t be able to see what was going on at a deeper level. Consequently, this would have stopped me form being able to behave in a conscious manner, which could have caused me to suffer unnecessarily. For Example If I had been working on a book and I wanted to release this book to prove something to someone, there is the chance that I would end up feeling let down. Maybe I would get the feedback that I desired, but then again, I might not. Not only this, my desire to release a book would be coming from my head and not my heart. The energy behind this book would then be very different to the energy that would be behind it if it was coming from my heart. A Different Conversation What my friend Wain had been talking about for a number of years ended up being touched upon when I was speaking to a friend called, Errol Campbell, a little while ago. He ended up talking about a number of projects that had been started for the wrong reasons. From the outside, it seemed as though they were there to make a difference in the world, yet this wasn’t the complete truth. As a result of this, they were not as successful as they might have been otherwise. The Message Through talking about these examples, it was a way for him to shed light on how important it was to have pure intentions. Now, he could have just explained this without using these examples, but this wouldn’t have had the same impact on me. So, as I said in the article that I wrote about karma - we can deceive ourselves, but what we can’t do is deceive the universe. What is going on within us will be mirrored back to us in one way or another. More of the Same In other words, if someone feels frustrated and angry, or needy and powerless; what they send out into the universe will bring them more of the same. Conversely, when someone feels called to do something and their intentions are pure, the results are likely to be very different. In order to do this, someone will need to get out of their head and into their heart, and this is often easier said than done. If they are consumed by how they feel, it will be more or less impossible. Final Thoughts It can be a case of breathing deeply and bringing their attention into their heart, with this being easier if they are in an environment where they can relax. Alternatively, it might be necessary for them to deal with their emotional baggage and trauma.
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The time had come for me to see my friend Wain again, and I was looking forward to telling him about my time in Stockholm, Sweden. But, I knew that this wouldn’t be a time when we would simply talk about what we had been up to.
I knew that we wouldn’t talk about ‘normal’ things, and this is because when we spend time together, we go a lot deeper than this. Our meet ups are usually mind expanding, to say the least. The Trip I started off by talking about what I did whilst I was away and this started off the interaction on a lighter note. Shortly after this, he spoke about an area in his life that was providing him with a fair amount of insight. It was clear that this area of his life wasn’t completely serving him, yet he wasn’t willing to blame anyone else for what was taking place. And, by putting up with this, he could see that he was sending himself a number of different messages. Self-Worth What this comes down to is that when we put up with behaviour or a situation that is not in our best interest, we are telling ourselves that this is what we deserve. This is what will go straight into our unconscious mind. It is then not necessary for us to tell ourselves that we don’t deserve better, as this is what is taking place indirectly. To emphasise this point, he spoke about how a few of his friends behave when they are at a restaurant. A Clear Message He said that if their food is not presented in the right way, they will have no qualms in sending it back. After he shared this, it made me think about a number of occasions when I had put up with bad service. By behaving in this manner and not putting up with bad service, his friends were telling themselves that they deserve better. Still, he was only too aware of how this can be taken too far, causing someone to become a prima donna and to attract more situations that are of a similar nature. All Areas I started to think about the other areas of my life where I put up with things that don’t fully serve me. I said to Wain that the so-called small things that we put up with have a big effect on us. He ended up talking about how it all comes back to ‘how we see ourselves’ and how this defines what we do or don’t tolerate. This is something that he has spoken about at great length in our previous meetings Something to Think About Taking this into account, it shows how important it is to be mindful of what we feel comfortable with. Yet, even if we feel comfortable with something that doesn’t serve us, it doesn’t mean that we have to berate ourselves. Instead, we can congratulate ourselves for becoming aware of something that deserve serve us and then to look into what we can do to change it. It may just be a case of changing our behaviour, or a different approach may be required. The Messenger When I think about the impact that Wain has had on my life and look back on what he has spoken about over the years, it is clear that he has a lot to share with the world. I feel that this is just the beginning and that there is so much more to come from him. If you would like to find out more about, Wain, and the services that he offers, please go to - https://www.timetorelax.space/.
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I had arranged to speak to Errol again and before our call, there was something that I wanted to talk to him about. What I wanted to know was what his views were on open borders and if he thought we no longer needed them.
This topic was on my mind due to what someone had shared on social media and it was also something that I had thought about in the past. I had also written a few articles that touch on this area. Two Minds I thought Errol would be the ideal person to ask about his, for the simple fact that he is an internationally renowned teacher, author and speaker in the fields of self-development and spiritual growth. Thus, he is not someone who wants to change the world via politics, for instance, and a big part of his work is about giving people the guidance that they need to live from their heart, as opposed to their head. But while part of me wanted to find out his thoughts on this area, another part of me wasn’t sure if I should ask him. However, I thought that avoiding this issue wouldn’t make it go away; in the same way that avoiding an emotion wouldn’t cause it to disappear. A Wall I think my response at this point was indicative of how certain topics are not supposed to be spoken about in the western world. Or, to be more accurate, only certain views are seen as being acceptable. And, before I spoke to him about this I had the view that open borders were a terrible idea. In the past I had a different view, but then this was because of what I believed, and these beliefs were based on how I wanted the world to be, not how it actually was. The Time Came Towards the end of the call, and after we had spoken about a number of different things, I put my question forward. I had been looking forward to hearing what he would have to say for a number of days. Once he heard my question, it took a little while until he give me an answer; it seemed as though he was connecting to himself. What is clear about Errol is that even though he has a strong connection to his heart, he still has the ability to think rationally. Fractured He ended up talking about how so many people live in their head and not their heart, thereby causing them to see everything as separate. This sense of separation results in so many people either accepting or rejecting people based on their religion, skin colour or gender, amongst other things. He spoke about how we are all part of the same organism, yet each part of this organism is unable to function as one system. Clearly, if we were all able to put our labels to one side (to live from our heart), there would be no reason to have borders, walls or boundaries. The Current State of the World I thought that if everyone on the planet was to rise to a certain level of consciousness, it wouldn’t matter if certain people were not as capable or as intelligent as others as we would all work together. In the same way that it doesn’t matter that certain branches on a tree are smaller than others, as each part of the tree works together. To remove all boarders with the current level of consciousness on the planet would surely lead to even more problems. Instead of one country fighting another, the people within a country would constantly be fighting amongst themselves. One Person at a Time I currently believe that the only way that we will experience heaven on earth is by what happens at an individual level. Getting into politics can seem like a good way to change the world, but this is generally a waste of time. Even if someone does start off with good intentions, they can end up being led astray the further up they go. I also get the impression that the political realm is full of people who are completely estranged from their heart and their ability to think critically. At The Source When I connect to my own heart, there is no need for me to label anything and this means that I am able to just be and to realise my connection with all that is. On the other hand, if I go into my head, I see everything as separate and I have the need to judge things. Through talking about this topic and hearing Errol’s views, it made me think about how important the heart is when it comes to living in a world without borders. If you would like to find out more about Errol, and the services that he offers, please go to - www.sourceawakening.com/.
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Nowadays, it is not uncommon for a man to have been brought up without a father. Or, even if his father was around when he was growing up, he might not have been emotionally available.
Therefore, a man may have had his father around during the beginning of his life, but that doesn’t mean that he made much of a difference. In this case, a man could look back on his early years and believe that everything was fine. A Different View However, if a man grew up without a father, he could look back on this time in his life and see that that there were problems. His father won’t have been around and this will stand out. At the same time, he could just be in a bad way and rarely think about the effect that his early years had on him. This can cause him to suffer and it can mean that some of the people he comes into contact with will suffer, too. Another Factor Now, there is always the chance that a man like this had other male figures around when he was growing up, with this offsetting the damage. The guidance that he didn’t from his father would then have been provided by other men. For example, he might have had at least one grandfather around, who played a big role in his life. Through having someone like this around, he could come across as a well-adjusted adult. A Grey Area What this shows is that this is not something that is black and white; if it was, it would be extremely easy to understand why men behave the way they do. It would all go back to what did or didn’t happen when they were growing up. And no matter what took place when a man was growing up and the effect that this has had on him, it is going to be vital for him to reach out for the right assistance. Ultimately, the pain that he went through doesn’t give him permission to punish other people. One Area Something that can define whether or not a man is able to maintain his sense of self around a woman and to have fulfilling relationship with one, is if his father was around when he was growing up. What this comes down to is that if his father wasn’t around, his mother may have ended up getting too close to him – this can also take place if his father was emotionally unavailable. He would have then have been used as a surrogate husband/spouse, someone who had to fill his mother’s needs and to please her, and this would have stopped him from being able to develop a strong sense of self and to individuate. Getting close to a woman as an adult can trigger how he felt around his mother; smothered, trapped and powerless, amongst other things. A Ladies Man So, if he does get into a relationship with a woman, it is not going to possible for him to completely commit to her. His heart will be closed and this is because he will be emotionally entangled to his mother. As a result of this, the man may prefer to simply sleep around with a number of different women. On one hand, he won’t have to get too close to them and this will stop him from losing himself (feeling smothered) and, on the other, being with lots of different women can allow him to receive positive feedback from men. Affirmation Another benefit here is that having control over these women can be a form of indirect revenge; a way for him to get his own back at his mother for controlling him and for his father not being around. The reason for the second part is that he can also believe that this mother is to blame for his father not being around. When it comes to his need for positive feedback from other men, this will compensate for the fact that his father wasn’t there to build him up. Having sex with women is then just going to be a means to an end. A False-Self He could then be a man who will come across as strong and as though he has it altogether, but this is likely to be nothing more than an illusion. The mask that he wears will stop him from having to connect to the wounded little boy that is within him. Due to the pain that he experienced as a child, he might spend a lot of time being disconnected from his emotions. It is then not that he is emotionally centred; he is emotionally numb. Another Outcome Yet, if a man doesn’t take this route and prefers to have relationships with women (even though he can’t commit), he could come across as though he can’t control how he feels. It can then seem as though he is all at sea and unable to manage his emotions. If his father had been around, he may have given him the guidance that he needed to develop self-control, take action, and emphasised how important it was for him to take responsibility for his own behaviour and emotions. Having said that, his mother would have had a big effect on whether or not he can handle how he feels. Approval Seeking As he lacks a strong self of self, it can be normal for him to do what he can to please women, as well as men. Both men and women can then find it hard to respect him, and he may find that he is used to being walked over. The man, who is generally out of touch with how he feels, is going to have a strong need to please other men. At a deeper level, both of these men can believe that they are completely worthless and not good enough, with this being seen as the reason why their father left them. Awareness The reason their father left them wouldn’t have had anything to do with them; it would have been the result of what was going on for their father. This means that they are not worthless and they are good enough. If a man can relate to this, and he wants to heal his wounds, he may need to reach out for external support. This can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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At the end of 2016, I could see that I needed to work on my boundaries and to feel better about myself. When it came to the former, this wasn’t just about me saying no; it was also about me listening to my own needs and no longer trying to please others.
As for the latter, I could see that my self-talk wasn’t very supportive or nurturing, and that I felt completely worthless. I would often end up feeling extremely low and it was as though there was nothing I could do to change this. I Had To Keep Going Nevertheless, part of me wasn’t willing to give up; I believed that the assistance I needed was out there somewhere. A few months after this I ended up getting in touch with a therapist, healer & retreat leader called, Ben Ralston. Part of me knew that this was someone who I had to work with and this meant that I didn’t need to find out much about him. This is what usually happens before I work with someone; I just get a sense that I need to work with them. Bottom Up The information within my body is then what has the biggest effect, as opposed to what is going on in my mind. I think that as my mind only knows what it knows and nothing else, it would be pointless for me to rely purely on my mind. If my mind knew better, I wouldn’t have had the same problem; I would have been able to think my way out of it. But the life that I was living was the result of what my mind knew at that point in time. Tuned In Before my first session with Ben, I was sent a form to fill in; through filling this in, it would allow us to start the session with a clear idea about what to look into and heal. When I spoke about what my challenges were, he understood what I was going through. It wasn’t that he just listened to what I had to say and came to different conclusions; he had a far greater understanding. He connected to my experience and summed up exactly what it was like for me. The Goal During this time, he said that it was about me “killing my inner parents”, and this was something that had a big effect on me. At first, I experienced fear and thought that this was not something that I could do. What I think he meant by this was that it was about me letting go of the mother and father that existed within me. Through doing this, I would be able to move forward and to see the people who brought me up as just flawed human beings, not as people who were godlike figures. A New Outlook For as long as I saw myself as a child, I would be trapped in a role; a role where I didn’t get what I needed. I would then be looking to these people as well as others, to give me what I didn’t receive as a child. This would have just caused me to continue to feel frustrated, angry, worthless, hopeless and powerless. Ultimately, it was about seeing myself differently and forming a new relationship with the people who had brought me into the world. Individuation By going through this process, it allowed me to develop stronger boundaries and to develop a totally different outlook. This wasn’t easy, but I knew deep down that this needed to take place in order for me to transform my life. There are a number of other things that Ben has taught me, such as how important the ‘fight instinct’ is when it comes to having boundaries. So, if you would like to find to more about Ben, and the services that he offers, please go to – www.benralston.org.
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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