Critical Thinking: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That The World Is Going To End?30/4/2019
Unless someone lives in a cave and has very little connection with the outside world, there is a strong chance that they will have heard a lot of people talk about the environment recently. In addition to this, they may have also heard about what needs to happen in order for the planet to be saved.
If they live or work in London, they may have even found it hard to get to work on time or just found it hard to carry on with their usual plans. The reason for this is that a number of activists held up traffic, glued their hands to things and laid on shop floors. Chaos When it came to the people who were just trying to go about their life, some of these activists caused them all kinds of problems. Not only were these people affected, London businesses were also said to have lost tens of millions of pounds. Therefore, while these activists were focused on an important issue, it could be said that some of them had the wrong approach. In a lot of cases, their behaviour would have had the opposite effect of what was intended. A Lack of Thought It is almost as if many of them only thought about how they could get people’s attention, spending very little time thinking about anything else. Clearly, they got people’s attention but a bad taste was left in a lot of people mouths. As a result of this, a lot of people haven’t been thinking about what they were trying to create awareness around – the environment; they have been thinking about how disruptive some these activists were. Their short-sightedness has undoubtedly had a destructive effect. Unconscious Behaviour Maybe, the reason why some of these people didn’t think about the negative impact that their behaviour would have and how it would push a lot of people away from their cause, is because their behaviour was being influenced by elements that were outside of their conscious awareness. In other words, their desire to help the planet might not have been the only thing that supplied them with motivation. Perhaps some these people feel worthless at a deeper level, finding it hard to feel good about themselves, and trying to save the planet allows them feel as though they are superior to others, thereby allowing them to avoid how they feel. Furthermore, their life may have lacked meaning before they went down this path. A Different View However, even if someone did play a part in the disruptions that were caused and is aware of the negative effect that their behaviour had on so many people, it doesn’t mean that this will bother them. As far as they are concerned, this could be seen as something that needed to happen to wake people up. What these people went through is then not going to matter, especially as the planet is not in a good way. Thus, even if they do have the ability to empathise with others, this part of them won’t be online when it comes to what these people went through. The Main Point In addition to saying that the planet is not in a good way, someone like this could also say that the world will end if something isn’t done very soon. Their inner world could match up with what they say too, with them being in a bad way emotionally. If this is the case, this could be seen as a natural reaction to what is taking place around them. What is taking place for them at an emotional level is then going to be seen as a reflection of how bad things are. Living on Edge When they think about the planet and what is going on, they could experience a fair amount of fear and anxiety and there could be moments when they experience anger and aggression. It could seem as though it is only a matter of time before their life will come to an end. There could even be moments when they are overwhelmed with sadness, which could cause them to spend a lot of time crying. One way to describe them would be to say that they have a very strong connection with the planet. A Deeper Look This could be all there is to it or there could be another reason why they believe that the world is going to end soon and are not in a good way emotionally. Without realising it, they may be re-experiencing all of the feelings that they felt during their early years. At this stage of their life, they may have felt as though their life was going to end on a regular basis. Throughout this time, they may have been abused and/or neglected, which would have completely overwhelmed their being. Repetition Compulsion Their conscious mind can then believe that what is taking place within them is simply a consequence of what is going on out there, but what they believe is going on out there will be a projection of what is taking place within them at a deeper level. What they went through as a child will have been traumatic, yet what they experienced will have ended up being associated as what is familiar and therefore what feels safe to their unconscious mind. Another way of looking at this would be to say that the reason they are replaying what took place as a child is so that they can resolve what took place. Their unconscious mind wants them to resolve their inner wounds and to become an integrated human being. Awareness The only way this will take place is if they become aware of what is taking place and work through their inner wounds. The trouble is that unless they are able to take a step back and to see the connection, this is unlikely happen. They will need to disengage from the drama that is out there and to redirect their attention to what is taking place deep with their own being. If they don’t, they will continue to be caught up in what their mind is projecting externally. When it comes to healing inner wounds, external support may be needed. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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In the same way that a rocket won’t go anywhere without fuel, the same could be said when it comes to a human being. Without energy, they won’t be able to even lift a finger, let alone take action.
Howerver, while a rocket will just need one type of fuel to get moving, a human being will need more than one. The first type of energy that they will need is physical energy; this is what will allow them to move. Just Part One Part Having this type of energy will allow them to move their body, to walk and to run, and to do all kinds of other things. Even so, physical energy alone won’t necessarily allow them to live a fulfilling life and to achieve their goals. For this to take place, what they will also need is emotional energy. This is what will give them the support that they need to take the first step and to keep going when they hit a road block, so to speak. Two Parts One way of looking at this would be to say that their physical energy will represent the masculine, whilst the emotional energy will represent the feminine. The former will get the ball moving and the latter will provide them with the support that they need to hang in there. These two energies are then there to give them everything that they need in order to thrive. When these two parts of them are working together, there is no reason why they can’t live a life that is worth living. Inner Nurturing Through feeling supported on the inside, they won’t be dependent on the emotional support of others. They will be able to take in and appreciate this support, but it won’t be something that they desperately need. And, as they don’t have a strong attachment to it, they may find that there are plenty of people in their life who are emotionally supportive. It can also be normal for them to offer the emotional support that is within them to others. True Power If someone like this has ever lost touch with the inner nurturing element within them, it may have been because they experienced a break up or lost a love one. During this time, they may have felt empty or even numb. The outcome of this is that the emotional support that was usually within them would have more or less disappeared. They would then have had the physical energy to do things but the emotional energy wouldn’t have been there. A Different Scenario For some people, then, experiencing life in this way will be just how life is; for others, it will be very different. Someone like this is going to have the physical energy they need, yet they won’t have the inner support that they need. Or if they do, this part of them is rarely going to be online and it won’t be there when they need it most. Being this way could have an effect on their physical energy too, with their being moments in their life when they find it hard to do anything, even though they are physically able to do so. Another Response Still, although this can be what takes place when someone doesn’t feel emotionally supported, they could end up relying on another type of fuel. What this mean is that they will try to do everything through the power of their will. This can mean that they will spend a lot of time trying to force things and this can lead to a lot of struggle. The energy that is fuelling their life will be coming from their mind, not their emotional body. A Long Way Down If someone like this was to experience a setback and this had a big impact on them, they could end up hitting rock bottom. They will have emotionally collapsed and it will be challenge for them to rise up again. Their mind will be out of the way and this will have exposed them to what is taking place at a deeper level. This could be a time when they feel powerless, helpless, worthless and even suicidal. Inner Conflict Trying to make everything happen through force is going to be incredible draining, but at least it will allow them to avoid the pain that is them. One is then going to be like a machine that never stops. The part of them that causes them so much pain is the same part that could give them the support what they need and allow them to take their foot of the gas – by losing touch with this painful part of them, they also lost touch with the part of them that could support them. Being supported by the emotional part of their being and not trying to force everything will most likely be better for their health and it may be easier for them to achieve things. A Deeper Look Irrespective of whether someone is out of touch with their emotional support and is emotionally numb or if they are in touch with this part of them and it is not very nurturing, it can be due to what took place during their early years. This may have been a time when they were abused and/or neglected. The emotional part of their being is going to carry the part that they experienced at this time of their life, and this is why this part of them is unable to provide them with the support that they need. Disconnecting from this part of them will allow them to avoid this pain and being in touch with it will be anything but pleasant. Awareness If someone can relate to this, and they want to embrace the emotional support that is within them, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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A little while ago, I heard from someone who had had a childhood that was anything but nurturing. This was someone who I hadn’t seen for a number of years.
Although I didn’t know much about them, I was still surprised when they told me this. What surprised me even more, though, was that this was someone who was actually healing themselves. The Next Part Shortly after this, I ended up spending some time with them and I was taken aback by what they were telling me. I thought that I had met someone who spoke my language and who was truly committed to working through their own inner wounds. And not only was this someone who was working on themselves and was connected to their spiritual nature, but they also had a very balanced outlook. Said another way, they were on the path yet their head was not in the clouds. A Rare Thing I say this because I have met plenty of people over the years who had had a rough upbringing but who were not working through their inner wounds. In a lot of cases, these people were just trying to avoid their pain by trying to save others or by playing around with their mind using self-development. I don’t say this to say that these people are ‘bad’, I say that this illustrate why it was such a surprise to meet someone like this. Now, this is not to say that I have never come across someone like this as I have done courses and met people like this there, but this was closer to home. A Recent Occurrence Before I met this person, I ended up meeting an old friend from school who had also been through a rough time. And, like the person above, they were also actively working through their inner wounds. My take on it was that as I had changed, meeting two people like this reflected what had changed within me. I had opened up and had become more authentic, which resulted in my external world mirroring that back to me. An Honour I could fully relate to what they were going through and knew how much courage it took to do what they were doing. There was no need for them to hide what they had gone through or were going through or to worry about me invalidating their experience, by saying things like ‘you just need to get over it’ or to ‘move on’. Equally, these people could relate to what I had gone through and was going through and there was no need for me to edit what I said. I could relax and be myself, and this was very nourishing. Final Thoughts So, if you had a rough time growing up and are actively working through your inner wounds, please know that this is not the easy route – this is something that takes strength and courage. It would be a lot easier for you to rescue others or to blame them for your problems. Another way would be to for you to be caught up in what is taking place in your mind or to use ‘spirituality’ to bypass your wounds. Still, even if you do engage in any of these things or any else for that matter, it doesn’t mean that you have to beat yourself up about it. In the past, I tried to rescue others and I spent years playing around with my mind, using self-development to avoid my pain. Before this, I used spirituality to keep my pain at bay. My view is that someone will only face the pain that is within them when they are ready and when this stage does come, they may need a lot of support. No one is their own island, and I have worked with numerous therapists and healers over the years.
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In recent weeks, a lot of ‘activists’ have been holding up traffic and laying on the ground, amongst other things, in order to get their point across. To these people, it is crystal clear that the planet is not in a good way, which is why they are going out of their way to get this point across to as many people as possible.
Naturally, not everyone has responded positively to what these people have been doing. One reason for this is that these people have caused a number of disruptions, making it hard for some people to get to work. The Greater Good Still, most of these activists could say that these people’s problems do not matter in the grand scheme of things. In their eyes, looking after the planet is going to be far more important than whether or not some people are unable to get to work. Some of the people who have been put out in this way may view these people’s behaviour as extremely selfish and even childish. But, if these people were to think about the big picture, they may find it easier to understand why these activists are behaving in this manner. The Downside It could be said that the people who have been causing all these disruption are passionate about this cause, and that this is a good thing. After all, if they didn’t feel this way they probably wouldn’t do anything. At the same time, due to how passionate they are it can make it hard for them to think rationally. Yet, while this is so, most of these people could be so certain about what they are doing that their passion probably won’t be seen as something that could have a negative effect. No Grey If someone is an activist, they could say that it is patently obvious that human beings are destroying the planet. Furthermore, they could have a clear idea about what needs to take place for the planet to recover. Most of mainstream media outlets are also in full support of what they believe, providing them with additional validation. To top it off, there are also a number of ‘celebrities’ who are on board with this view. Good or Bad So, if someone goes along with the view that what is happening to the planet is solely the result of what human beings have done – and are doing – and goes along with the solutions that are put forward by the mainstream media and the establishment, it will mean that they care about the environment and they are a ‘good’ person. If, on the other hand, they don’t believe that it is purely the result of what human beings have done – and are doing – and don’t go alone with the solutions that are put forward by the mainstream media and the establishment, it will mean that they don’t care about the environment and they are a ‘bad’ person. There has even been an attempt to censor anyone who questions the official narrative about why the planet is the way it is. It wasn’t that long ago that the official term was ‘global warming’, only be be changed when it became clear that nature wasn’t playing along with the ‘scientific’ evidence. A Big Red Flag One then has to wonder what the hell is going on, if the establishment is trying to make it a crime to question the official narrative. Being able to question things is not just part of living in a free society; it is also a vital part of finding out what is true and what isn’t and taking the appropriate action. To describe someone who doesn’t go along with the official narrative as a ‘climate denier’ or anything else is very strange. It is almost as if certain people are trying to hide something and, fearing that this will be revealed, they need to do everything they can to control what the citizenry believe. The One Thing in Their Favour What has undoubtedly helped the establishment to convince so many people to buy into a certain view is that the planet is not in a good way. Thanks to this, the average person can simply look around them or watch the news, for instance, and believe that it is apparent that human beings are the only problem. Due to what someone like this sees with their own eyes, there will be no reason for them to question what they are told day in, day out. Nonetheless, just because the planet is not in a good way, it doesn’t mean that it is purely due to what human beings have done or that there is only one way to solve this challenge. The Big Deception On the surface, then, it can appear as though it is all about saving the planet; when in reality, this is just an illusion. One thing that the establishment understands is that they can’t implement their plans directly; if they were to do this, there would be too much resistance. Knowing this, they need to create a situation where the majorly of people will demand a certain outcome. Take manufactured terrorism, for instance, this has allowed the establishment to take away peoples freedoms, and this has taken place without needing to use any kind of force. Conclusion Climate change provides the people behind the scenes with another way to round up the masses and to gain even more control in the process. One way to describe these people would be to say that they are energy vampires, and this is due to the fact that they can only survive by taking everyone else’s energy. Being out of touch with their own essence and being caught up in their minds delusions, makes them dependent on other peoples energy and it gives them the view they have the right to control others. Taking this into account, the more people there are who can’t think critically and are controlled by their emotions the better it is for these people.
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While there are going to be plenty of people will know what a vampire is, it is unlikely that the same amount of people are going know what an energy vampire is. Yet, even though there is the chance that not many people will know about the latter, it doesn’t mean that they haven’t come across as least one during their time on this earth.
What this comes down to is that an energy vampire is not like a bird that is rarely seen; no, there are plenty of them on the planet. This doesn’t mean that they all wear the same clothes or all have the same colour hair, though. A Big Difference And although it can seem as though this is something that is black and white with there being some people who are energy vampires and some people who are not energy vampires, this is not the case. Ultimately, there is a strong chance that just about everyone has been an energy vampire at least once. What will separate someone who isn’t an energy vampire and someone who is, then, will be the amount of time they experience life in this way. It is the difference between wearing a jacket from time to time and wearing one just about all the time. Part of life Just like most people wear a jacket from time to time, most people take energy from others. In healthy human interactions there is an exchange of energy, which means that each person both gives and receives energy. When it comes to an energy vampire, however, they will take another person’s energy, giving no energy in return. The former can then go away feeling full, but the latter can go away feeling empty. A Subtle Process The person who feels drained can then find it hard to comprehend why they feel so washed out. This can show that the other person wasn’t verbally or even physically abusive and yet, it can feel as though the other person has done something to them. On one level, the other person won’t have done anything to them, but on another level, they will have done something to them. During their time together, this person will have been taking their energy. The Next Target It won’t be long until the energy vampire looks for someone else to extract energy from and this is will result in another person having their energy sucked dry. What is clear is that the energy vampire is unable to source their own energy, with this being the reason why they are completely dependent on others for energy. One way to look at someone like this would be to say that they are essentially a parasite. If they were able to source energy from within themselves, along with taking some energy from others, there would be no need for them to behave in this manner. Totally Oblivious It can be so normal for an energy vampire to extract energy from others that they might not even realise that they are doing it. This is then going to be something that takes place unconsciously. The downside here is that if they are not aware of what they are doing, they won’t be able to understand why certain people avoid them. They can then end up forming a victim mentality, even though they are the ones who causing so much damage. In A Dark Place The big question here is why is it not possible for them to source energy from within? On the inside, someone like this can feel numb or even dead, with their inner world being anything but alive. Furthermore, there could be times when they don’t feel dead inside but they feel overwhelmed with pain instead. Either way, they are going to be physically alive yet that will be about as far as it will go. A Natural Outcome Through being in such a low place internally, they will naturally gravitate to towards things in the external world that are alive. Taking energy from someone else is then going to allow them to lose touch with their inner deadness for a short while, but it won’t have a lasting impact on them. The only way that their behaviour will change is if their inner world changes, thereby allowing them to source energy from within themselves. Not only will this take self-awareness, it will also take courage. A Deeper Look The reason why they are unable to connect to their own energy and are dead on the inside can be due to what took at the beginning of their life. Perhaps this was a time when they were abused and/or neglected. This would have caused them to experience a lot of pain and estranged them from their true-self. Deep within their being there is energy, but the only way they will be able to connect to it is if they deal with the trauma that is within them. Awareness The problem is that someone like this is unlikely to have even a small amount of self-knowledge and they might not be interested in gaining any. Their misery will continue and other people will continue to be targeted and used. If they do have the desire to change their behaviour, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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It has been said that the mainstream media doesn’t need to prove that what they sell is the truth in order to influence people; the only thing that it needs to do is to make sure that people see the information. What this comes down to is that once someone has been exposed to a certain view, it can end being seen as the truth.
Like a sponge, their mind will have absorbed what they have seen, with it having an effect on how they perceive the world. This information won’t have been held at a distance and scrutinized by the critical faculties; it will have just gone straight in. The Power of Repetition What will help with this process is that so many news sources say the same thing and these news sources have their information (propaganda) everywhere. So, through having the same views endlessly drummed into their brain from all directions, there is going to be no reason for their conscious mind to question anything. This part of them can say that if what they are being told is not the truth, why do so many news sources say the same thing? Furthermore, the fact that so many people have the same views can also be seen as further evidence. The First Part Naturally, living in an environment or an ‘echo chamber’ that is saturated with the same views is going to have a strong effect on someone’s mind, but there is more to it than this. What this source of information also does to bypass someone’s critical faculties is to focus on the emotional part of their being. The last thing this source of information wants is for people to question what they are told and to think for themselves. Certain words and pictures can then be used to tap into the emotional part of their being, thereby getting their thinking brain out of the way. An Analogy One way to get an idea of what takes place is to imagine that someone’s thinking brain is their security system, while their emotional brain is the part where their jewels are held. In the same way that valuable items in a building would be extremely vulnerable if the security was to go down, their inner being will be just as vulnerable without their minds ability to discern what is or what isn’t true. The gates to their own inner kingdom will be open, setting them up to be taken advantage of. And, once this part of them has been breached, their inner world will be controlled by the mainstream media. A Puppet This source of information can then tell them to jump and it won’t be long before their feet are off the ground. They are then going to be an individual, but they will be behaving as though they are merely an extension of something or someone else. Along with having the ability to control they feel; they will also have the ability to control how they behave, too. Clearly, the media is not solely interested in controlling how people feel; they also want to control how they behave. A Big Difference Just as a marketer knows, this source knows that the best way to influence someone’s behaviour is to influence their emotions. Simply talking to the rational part of their being is unlikely to get the ball moving. Focusing on their thinking brain may work from time to time, but focusing on their emotional brain will be far more fruitful. In a way, tapping into someone’s emotional brain and bypassing their thinking brain turns them from an adult into a child. Another Form of Abuse The difference, of course, is that while an emotionally driven child can’t do much, an emotionally driven adult can become a valuable foot soldier. After all, this source of information doesn’t just want someone to feel a certain way for no reason; they want them to feel a certain way to go along with an agenda that is usually hidden. This doesn’t mean that this source of information won’t put forward something that needs to take place; what it means is that it is likely to be a small part of what is actually going on and what is put forward can be nothing more than a lie. One can then happily go along with something, believing that it is the right thing to do - only to be enslaved by it as time goes by. It’s Easy However, although it would be easy to say that the mainstream media are masters when it comes to influencing how people feel and controlling their behaviour, there is more to it than this. What gives this source of information the upper hand is that it is often the exception as opposed to the rule for someone to have a good understanding of their emotions and for this part of them to be in balance. There are a number of reasons as to why someone wouldn’t have a good relationship with their emotions, and the fact that the so-called education system largely ignores this part of someone’s being doesn’t help. This shouldn’t be seen as a surprise though as critical thinking is rarely taught either, with there being a greater focus on teaching someone what to think, not how to think. A Sitting Duck If, then, someone doesn’t have the ability to think critically and their emotional self is out of control, they are going to be wide open to being exploited by the mainstream media. Yet, while this source of information is the focus here, it is simply one arm of an ever bigger operation. Someone like this could be in a lot of inner conflict, meaning their emotional self could often take over. As a result of this, it is going to be a challenge for them to operate as a whole human being. A Few Reasons So, if someone finds that the mainstream media has the ability to trigger shame, guilt, fear and/or a sense of helplessness within them, it can show that they are carrying trauma. This could be due to what they have experienced as an adult and/or it could go back to what took place during their early years. It could go back even further, with it being the result of what has been passed down from their ancestors or what they went through in a past life. Irrespective of why it is, having this trauma within them will make it harder for them to think clearly. Conclusion Seeing the media as the perpetrator and someone as a victim would be easy, but this would mean that there is nothing that can be done. The reality is that the only way that the media can do this is if someone lets them. To stop this from happening, it is going to be essential for someone to heal their emotional wounds and the trauma that is within them. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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In a relationship, it is not uncommon for one person to be logical and the other to be emotional. It can then seem as though one person provides what the other is lacking, thereby balancing each other out.
By themselves they are out of balance, but together, they end up becoming the ultimate team. Perhaps one of them has a job where they primarily use their left brain, while the other has a job where they primarily use their right brain. Two Parts When it comes to the person who primarily uses their left brain, they could have a job in the city, for instance. This may mean that they spend a lot of time on a computer and having business meetings. As for the person who primarily uses their right brain, they could also have a job in the city. Yet even if this is the case, it may mean that they do something that is creative or they may spend a lot of time caring for others in some capacity. A Bit of Both However, just because they both have a stronger connection with one part of their nature, it doesn’t mean that the other part of their being is completely undeveloped. As a result of this, the person who is primarily logical is still going to be able to relate at an emotional level, and, the person who is emotional is still going to be able to relate at a logical level. If this wasn’t so, it might appear as though one of them is from Mars while the other is from Venus. They would be so different from each other that the relationship would end up being a huge challenge. A Stronger Connection Therefore, as both of them are able to relate at an emotional level, it will allow them to have a far more fulfilling relationship that they would otherwise. And, as both of them are able to think clearly, this will also help. It could then be said that being different is what brought them together, but it is what they have in common that keeps them together. This doesn’t mean that conflict will never arise; what it means is that they will have the ability to resolve it. The Polarity Naturally, if they were too similar, it is unlikely that they would have the same level of attraction for each other. Instead of being in an intimate relationship, they might end up just being friends. One of them is going to have strong connection to their masculine element and the other will have a strong connection to their feminine element. This will allow them to work together as opposed to having the need to compete with each other. A Different Scenario Now, although there will be relationships that are like this, where two people complement each other, there are also going to be relationships that are not like this. In place of this can be a relationship where one person is very logical and finds it hard to relate at an emotional level, while the other is very emotional and finds it hard to relate at a logical level. Consequently, a lot of conflict is likely to arise in their relationship, and it is going to be a challenge for them to resolve it. The view that one of them is from Mars and the other is from Venus may make perfect sense. The Problem When it comes to the person whose attention is typically focused in their head, they may see their partner as being undeveloped and lacking self-control, for instance. They may struggle to understand how they have ended up with someone like this. A lot of their time could be spent reading books and educating their mind, something that their partner probably won’t have any interest in doing. On the surface, it may seem as though one of them is far more evolved than the other. A Common Outlook What can play a part in this is that the intellect is often seen as being a higher part of ones being than their emotional self. It can be as if ones emotions are just a distraction and need to be overlook. Due to this, it is not going to be a surprise if they do see themselves as being in a superior position. Nonetheless, while they may have this viewpoint, it doesn’t mean that it is the truth. Out of Balance Intellectually, this person may be evolved, but when it comes to their emotional self, they could be undeveloped. The person they are with is then simply mirroring back what is taking place within them. If one doesn’t have a good connection with their emotional self, it is not going to be possible for them to see the connection. The other person will be seen as the one with the issues, while they are above it all. Top Heavy If one was to get in touch with their emotional self, they may find that they are carrying a lot of emotional pain. Getting out of their head and embracing the pain in their body may cause them to be as out of control as their partner usually is. The trouble with their mind is that it can give them the impression that they are just observing what is going on around them, having no effect whatsoever. In reality, they are playing a part in what they do or don’t experience. Awareness If one can relate to this, and they want to become a more integrated human being, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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Towards the end of 2012, I came to the conclusion that if I could change what was going on in my mind my life would change. The outcome of this was that I ended up having hypnotherapy.
I was in a lot of emotional pain at this time and I had no idea what inner peace was like. A little while after this I came to see that I was carrying a lot of trauma, with what took place during my early years being one of the reasons for this. A Simple Process The hypnotherapist that I worked with believed that I could more forward by changing what was going on in my head. A big part of this was then about changing the painful memories that I experienced. Once these were changed, then, I would be able to live a life that was worth living. After I had had a number of sessions I felt better, but it wasn’t long before the old pain reappeared. It Was Time to Rethink This person had told me that “we were nothing more than a conversion in our head”, and if this was so, simply changing what was going on up top should have transformed me. There was a point where I embraced this view but it soon become clear to me that this wasn’t the case. A few months after this, I came to see that I needed to find a way to deal with my emotions. The view that my thoughts and memories were solely defining how I felt didn’t add up any more. Cut-Off When I was having hypnotherapy I didn’t have a strong connection with my body, so it was to be expected that I would believe that it was all about what was going on up top. By processing my emotions, it gradually became clear that this was a half-truth. In fact, what I came to see was that what was going on up top was largely a reflection of what was taking place in my body. And as the years went by, I came to see that there was another element involved. A Build-Up Not only was there what was taking place in my mind and what was going on in my emotional body, there was also the energy that was stored in my physical body. The energy had been stored in my body had also caused my body to tighten up. When I had experienced trauma, my body and mind were overwhelmed, which was why this energy wasn’t processed and end up staying trapped in my body. This energy needed to be discharged, and my brain needed to change too. Final Thoughts The view that healing from trauma is just about changing painful memories can be seen as another consequence of trauma. Trauma disconnects someone from themselves, setting them up to believe that it is ‘all about the mind’. If someone focuses purely on their mind, it can stop them from being able to move forward. But, by paying attention to their whole being and reaching out for the assistance that they need, they can heal themselves. The assistance of a therapist or a healer may be needed here.
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Over the years, I have heard people say that we should treat others as we would like to be treated, and this is something that I agree with. However, while it is easy to say this, it is not as easy to put it into practice.
This is then similar to how someone can say that they no longer want to behave in a certain way, yet this doesn’t mean that their behaviour will actually change. How many New Year’s resolutions have been made over the years and how many have been forgotten about shortly after? Two Parts What this then shows is that having the need to behave in a certain way is not enough; another part of them also needs to be on board with what is going on in their mind. If this was enough, whenever someone said that they were going to do something they would end up doing it. The other part that needs to be on aboard with their metal self is their emotional self. This part of them can either allow them to fulfil what their mind wants or it can completely derail what this part of them wants. For Example At one moment in time someone can say to another person that it is important to treat other people with respect, while at another they can do the complete opposite. One may have to wait slightly longer than usual in a line and end up heavily criticising the cashier as a result. After this has taken place, they could end up feeling guilty or their mind could justify what has taken place, thereby allowing them to push aside how they have just behaved. Either way, it will be clear that they have gone against what they stand for. What Has Happened? One way to look at something like this would be to say that an emotional wound was triggered and this was why they behaved in a way that was ‘out of character’. Shortly after something like this has taken place, it can be normal for someone to wonder what happened and how what happened was not like them. Without realising it, an emotional wound would have been triggered and the conscious part of their being would have gone offline. Their weak conscious mind was then no match for their powerful unconscious mind. Inner Conflict The emotional wound in question here can be the result of what they have experienced as an adult or it may go back to what took place during their early years. Ignoring the inner wounds within them won’t make them disappear, as is exemplified by the example above. Their conscious mind can resist what is taking place at a deeper level as much as it wants, but this is a battle that it can’t win. The more these inner wounds are pushed down and denied, the stronger they will become and the greater influence they will have on their life. Final Thoughts With this in mind, if someone wants to treat others how they like to be treated or to simply change their behaviour, it will be a good idea for them to heal the inner wounds that are within them. If they don’t do this, it will be perfectly normal for them to switch off, so to speak, and to behave in ways that don’t serve their highest good. When it comes to healing these inner wounds, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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As an adult, someone can believe that the things that arouse them are just the things that arouse them, and that all there is to it. However, what this wouldn’t take into account is the part that their early years may have played in why something in particular has this effect on them.
If, for example, someone had some kind of fetish, this may cause them to wonder how they ended up this way. Then again, this could also just be seen as being part of who they are, with them being born this way. One Experience So, if someone didn’t have any fetishes and was only aroused by ‘normal’ things, there is going to be no reason for them to question what turns them on. These could also be things that their friends find arousing. This could mean that one will enjoy engaging in foreplay and appreciate a number of different positions. One is then not going to need another person to wear a certain outfit in order to get in the mood. Another Experience On the other hand, if someone found that they were not turned on by ‘normal’ things, they could wonder why this is. If they were to talk about this area of their life with their friends, they may find that they are different. Engaging in foreplay and experiencing different position is then not going to be enough for them. Or if this is something that they enjoy, they may find that they need other things to take place at the same time to be able to enjoy themselves. Out of Touch Still, even if someone likes this was to take a step back and to think about why they need to experience certain things in order to feel aroused, it doesn’t mean that anything will come to mind. This is likely to illustrate that their mind has lost touch with what has played a part in why they experience life in this way. One way that their conscious mind protects them is by losing touch with things that are painful, which probably explains why they can’t see why they are the way they are. Being this way stops them from being able to connect the dots, so to speak, but it also stops their mind from being overwhelmed by the content that is in their unconscious mind. A Clear Intention This doesn’t mean that there is nothing that they can do to open up this part of them and to come into contact with the reasons why their life is this way. By having the desire to find out and reading up on this area, they will gradually come into contact with the information that is within them. Nonetheless, if someone does take this route, it may show that their fetishes are causing them problems. If this wasn’t the case, there would be the need for them to look deeper. A Few Examples One may find that unless they have sex outside, it is not possible for them to really get in the mood. Or, they may find that people their age or close to it don’t really do it for them; they need to go with someone who is decades older. Conversely, they may find that they need someone to physically harm them to be able to be sexually aroused. This could mean that they need to be strangled, hit or whipped, for instance. A Big Difference It wouldn’t be right to put all of these examples in the same box, as needing to have sex outside is not going to be the same as needing to be hit. In the first instance, one could find somewhere that is out of the way, thereby lowering their chances of anything negative happening. But in the second instance, needing to be hit is going to cause them to be harmed and it may mean that they end up with people who are abusive. In a case like this, it is going to be vital for them to look into why this needs to happen for them to be aroused and to do something about it. A Closer Look When someone experiences something as an adult that unconsciously reminds them of something that occurred during their early years, it will allow them to re-experience something that is associated as being familiar at a deeper level. The early experience will be played out again, allowing them to experience the same feelings. Unconsciously, they will have the need to experience what is familiar, and this is because what is familiar is classed as what is safe to this part of them. What this then means is that even though something sexually arouses them as an adult, it doesn’t necessarily mean that there was anything sexual about the original experience/s. Repetition Compulsion With this in mind, if someone needs to have sex outside to get aroused, it could mean that there was a time during their early years when they were playing outside with another child, both of them were naked, and ended up being shamed for doing so. Having sex outside as an adult is then going to unconsciously remind them of this highly charged emotionally experience. If someone needs to be physically harmed to get aroused, it could show that there was a time during their early years when they were physically abused. Once again, being hit will bring back all of the emotional energy that they experienced whenever they were hit. Awareness Although these early experiences would have been painful and their conscious mind will do everything it can to keep these feelings at bay, their unconscious mind will cause them to recreate experiences that match up with what took place. Recreating what took place all those years ago is also a way of them to resolve what took place. Their unconscious mind is manifesting these experiences to enlighten their conscious mind, with the hope that this part of them will face what is has avoided. By facing these parts and resolving them, one will be able to become a more integrated human being. If one can relate to this, and they want to work through their inner wounds, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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