In the past, dermal fillers were only used by a small amount of women but, as time has passed, this has changed. Far more women use them than ever before and there are undoubtedly a number of reasons as to why this is.
One important distinction that needs to be made here is the difference between a dermal filler and Botox. A dermal filler is something that smoothes out the skin to reduce wrinkles; whereas Botox is something that freezes muscles to reduce wrinkles. The Reasons If something hasn’t been around for long, only a small amount of people can know about it and it can cost a fair amount of money. Therefore, as time goes by, more people can find out about it and the cost can come down. Additionally, it can be hard to get hold of something if it has only just come out. So when it comes to fillers, not many women will have known about it at the beginning, it would have probably cost far too much for the average women to be able to afford to have this procedure done, and there would have only been a time when there were only a few places that offered this procedure. A Key Part When it comes to what has allowed more and more women to find out about this procedure, what can’t be overlooked is the effect that celebrities have had. There are certain celebrities that talk openly about what work they have had done, while there are those that hide it. However, even if a female celebrity is not open about the fact that she uses fillers, it doesn’t mean that it will be hard to spot. Providing one is aware of how someone usually looks when they use them, it could stand out. The Look As someone gets older their face changes – the firmness and fullness that was there during their younger years will gradually disappear as the years go by. Thanks to dermal fillers, though, something can be done about it. After someone gets a treatment, they may find that it lasts for about six to eighteen months. When it is done right it can make a massive difference but, as is the case with most things, if it isn’t done right it can lead to all kinds of problems. All Ages These fillers haven’t just been used by female celebrities who are heading towards the latter stages of their life; no, they have also been used by female celebrities who are in the early stages of their life. For some of these women, their teenage years won’t be very far behind them and there will be others that are still teenagers. One way of looking at this would be to say that not everyone ages in the same way and this is why these younger women have this procedure done. Another way of looking at it would be to say that while this may be the case for some, for others it is a reflection of how insecure they are. It’s Always There So if a woman follows these celebrities online and spends a fair amount of time watching so-called reality TV, there is a strong chance that she will see a lot of women that use fillers. And, if this is how she lives her life, a number of her female friends could also use these fillers. Let’s say that the years have gone by and her face is no longer as full as it used to be, she may have the need to undergo this procedure herself. This could be seen as understandable, given how much pressure there is in today’s world to look young. Out of Balance Nowadays, if something is new it is often seen as being better than something that is old, and this relates to objects as much as it does to people. What his has done is given some women, and some men are starting to getting caught up in this too, the view that they need to look like a teenager forever. Of course, this is not something that is possible, no matter how many fillers one uses. Ultimately, if someone tries to look young forever, they are fighting a battle that they simple cannot win. A Deeper Look It would be easy to say that an older woman would have this pressure due to social pressure, but this would paint her as a victim. What is going on ‘out there’ is then going to define how she sees and feels about herself. But what if there is another reason why a woman like this would feel the need to have this procedure done? Also, perhaps it is the same reason why a young woman, a woman whose face looks fine, would have the need to have this done. What’s going on? If a woman wants to have something done to her face, irrespective of what her age is, it is likely to show that she doesn’t feel comfortable in her own skin. Having something done to her appearance is then going to be seen as a way for this to change. Yet, although it may seem as though her appearance is the problem, there is the chance that what is taking place inside her is preventing her from being able to see herself clearly. If this is so, it could show that she feels worthless. Seeing with her mind, not her eyes As a result of this, it might not matter what she does to her appearance as it won’t change how she actually feels about herself – if it does, it probably won’t last. In order for her to view of herself to change, she will need to change her inner world. If this takes place, she may find that it is lot easier for her to accept her appearance and by doing this; her whole demeanour is likely to change. Other people will pick up on how she feels about herself, either consciously or unconsciously, and be drawn to her energy. Awareness If a woman believes that she is worthless and carries a far amount of toxic shame, it could show that her early years were not very nurturing. Perhaps this was a time when she was abused and/or neglected. There will be the beliefs that she will need to question and the toxic shame inside her that will need to be brought out into the light, so that it can gradually dissipate. This is something can take place with the assistance of a therapist, healer or a support group.
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Nowadays, the word ‘triggered’ is routinely used in the real world and online. When someone has been triggered, it is likely to mean that something or someone has reminded them of something that took place in their past.
It doesn’t stop there, though, as they will have been reminded of something that is anything but pleasurable. What triggered them might have been fairly innocuous but it will still have elicited a negative reaction from them. A Natural Response So when someone is triggered, it can be normal for them to do something about the trigger or to get away from it. One will have experienced pain and they will do what they can to mitigate the pain. However, while this approach may allow them to settle down again, what it probably won’t do is empower them. The reason for this is that they won’t be facing what is going on; they will be avoiding it. No Alternative Now, it could seem as though this is the only thing that can and even should take place. After all, why would someone want to face something that would cause them to experience pain? This can sound accurate, yet it will only sound right if one believes that being triggered is something that is wholly negative. Of course, there is no point in one going out of their way to be triggered, but that doesn’t mean that one should do everything that they can not to be triggered. A Closer Look One way to look at being triggered is to say that it just causes someone to experience pain, pain that won’t serve them. Another way to look at this would be to say that this will allow then to become aware of an important part of themselves and that there are times when facing this pain will actually serve them. When one experiences something that is traumatic, they will end up disconnecting from a part of themselves, and this part will be brought up to the surface when they are triggered by something. What this means is that unless they reintegrate the part that has been split-off, they won’t be able to operate as a whole human being. A New Outlook If one embraces and works through what comes up when they are triggered, it will enable them to become stronger. By taking this approach, what is triggered inside them won’t control them and neither will they have the need to control what other people say and do. Not only will one benefit from taking this approach, the people around them and society as a whole will also benefit. This is something that will take courage and one may even need to reach out for external support. Final Thoughts If one does need external support, they may need to work with a therapist or a healer. Some of the wounds that they need to work through may relate to what has taken place in their adult years, while other wounds may relate to what occurred during their early years.
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One could be in an intimate relationship that is not going well or they could have a friend who is having a destructive affect on their life. Then again, one of their family members could be living in a way that is not healthy or they could be toxic.
Irrespective of who it relates to, one could do what they can to try to change the other person, and this is going to take up a lot of their time and energy. One could believe the other person will soon change. The First Experience Perhaps one could have a partner who is abusive or who is simply not a match for them. If they are abusive, it might not be long until they end up feeling burnt out – if they don’t already. Their relationship won’t be fuelling them and they will be giving a lot to their partner, so it won’t exactly be a surprise if they are in a bad. If they are with someone who is simply not right for them and they are trying to make them right, this is still going to take a lot out of them. The Second Experience Maybe one has a friend who is anything but supportive, with this being someone who regularly brings them down. Even if their other relationships are nourishing, this one is still going to undermine them. For whatever reason, this person won’t be interested in doing what they can to lift them up. This person may have been this way for a little while or they may have ended up this way after something happened to them, for instance. The Third Experience If one has a family member who is not taking care of themselves, they could do just about everything they can to make them change how they live. Yet, no matter what they do, it could be thrown back in their face. It could be even worse, though, as this family member could be directly having a negative effect on their life. They may be verbally abusive or be unwilling to treat them with the respect that they deserve. Time to Draw the Line If one was to take a step back and to reflect on what has been going on, the impact that it has had on them, and how long this has been taking place, it could become perfectly clear that they are wasting their time and energy. Ultimately, the other person won’t want to change and, the longer they try to change them, their worse their life will get. In a way, it will be as if one is choosing to be dragged over a load of sharp objects. This can come to an end at any time up but in order for this to take place, they will need to let go of what they are holding onto. Final Thoughts The time and energy that they are directing towards someone who is undermining them can then be used to build themselves back up and to make their own life better. After stepping back and seeing the big picture, one may find that they are gradually able to move on. At the same time, they may find that they need a fair amount of external support. If there is no one in their life who can be there for them, and even if there is, they may need to reach out for the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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If someone is in a position where they experience a fair amount of anxiety or don’t feel good about themselves, they can go one of two ways. Either they can look for a way to change how they feel or they can look into why they experience life in this way and what they can do once they have found out.
When it comes to the first approach, ones main priority will be to change how they experience life. As a result of this, it might not matter how this happens as long as their life changes. A Miserable Existence One may have experienced life in this way for a quite some time, and this may mean that they have got to the point where they are no longer willing to tolerate it. If they have anxiety problems, they could end up going on some type of medication. Going to see their doctor will then have been the first step that they took and this will have been what was recommended. Alternatively, one could end up working with someone who is trained in cognitive behavioural therapy. A New Life If they do end up going on medication, it might not be long until they start to settle down and are able to live a ‘normal’ life. They will still be living on the same planet but it could seem as though they are somewhere else. On the other hand, if they have cognitive behavioural therapy, it also might not be long until they feel relaxed. Their inner world will have changed, which will cause them to experience life differently. The Same If they have gone on medication, they probably won’t have a deeper understanding of why their life was the way it was. And, even if one was told that a ‘chemical imbalance’ was the reason why their life was the way it was, it is unlikely to have increased their self-knowledge. Yet, if they ended up having cognitive behavioural therapy, it could be said that they will have a deeper understanding of themselves. Nonetheless, this might only go as far as the affect that their thoughts have on them. A Different Route When it comes to the second approach, one will want to change how they experience life but it won’t be the only thing that is on their mind. In addition to this, they will want to gain a deeper understanding of themselves. Now, this could be because they are not in too much pain; then again, it might not be this black and white. They may believe that the only way for them to actually change their life is for them to understand why it is the way that it is. On The Path Through being this way, their life is not just going to consist of pleasure and pain – it will also include going to greater depths of their own being and gaining self-knowledge. Consequently, one may believe that what is going on for them is not something that needs to be changed or removed. Instead, what is taking place could be seen as sign that something inside them is not right and needs to be looked at. Simply focusing on a symptom - or a number of symptoms - is then not going to interest them. Going Deeper So if one has an anxiety problem, what they could find is that this is because they have experienced trauma. Their whole being will be in survival mode, with this being the reason why they can’t settle down. Resolving this trauma most likely won’t be easy or even pain free, but at least they will be able to deal with what is going on at the root and to gain a deeper understanding of themselves in the process. They will be doing what they need to do to reacquaint themself with themself. Final Thoughts If one is not in a good way and they want to gain a deeper understanding of why this is, they may need to reach out for the assistance of a therapist or healer. This can be a time when they will take a deeper look into what is taking place. Along with this, one can look into what is going on at a deeper level. Thanks to the internet, there is plenty on information available that will allow one to understand themselves better.
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Just because someone is a perfectly imperfect human being, it doesn’t mean that they won’t believe that they have to be more-than human. What this can result in is the need to be perfect and to never make a mistake.
Through being this way, one can experience an extreme amount of pressure and it can be more or less impossible for them to just be and to relax. One can be more like a machine as they can have the need to always be doing something. Positive Feedback At this point in time they might be fine, but there could come a point in time when they end up feeling burnt out. After having been on the go for so long and not relaxing, this is not going to be a surprise. Nonetheless, up until something like that takes place, they might receive a fair amount of approval from others. Through being seen as a go-getter and someone who gets things done, for instance, there could be plenty of people that admire them. Hiding behind a Mask If this is what takes place, they probably won’t be able to take in the positive feedback that they receive. The reason for this is that their true-self will be covered up and the only thing that will show up is a false-self. Their true needs and feelings are then going to be hidden too, preventing them from being able to truly connect to other people. Therefore, even if they are ‘successful’, they are likely to experience a sense of disconnection and emptiness. One Option In order for one to no longer be a human doing and to be human being, they will need to let go of this mask and to accept that they are not perfect. Trying to live in this way is making their life far harder than it needs to be. However, this is easier said than done, due to what is likely to be taking place behind the role that they play. One can believe that they are worthless and their being can be loaded up with toxic shame. Protection This will have left them with two options: either they embrace what is going onside them and feel really bad about themselves or they avoid it and feel good about themselves. They will also believe that they would be rejected and abandoned if they were to reveal who they really are. Ultimately, who they are is fine; the trouble is that who they are has been taken over by what they are not. Their false beliefs and the toxic shame inside them will make it incredibly difficult for them to accept themselves and to realise that they are actually fine. The Cause What this may illustrate is that their early years were a time when they didn’t receive the type of care that they needed to be able to develop in the right way. Perhaps they were abused and/or neglected. The interpersonal bond between them and their caregivers wouldn’t have been formed, setting them up to believe that there was something inherently wrong with them and filling their being with shame. From that time onwards, one will have done their best to keep this painful feeling at bay. Final Thoughts If someone can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer. There will be the beliefs that they need to let go off and the toxic shame will need to be dealt with. This shame can only exist in hiding, and this is why it has to be brought out in the open to be healed.
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For some people, it is a challenge for them to handle how they feel. As a result of this, it can be normal for someone like this to be overwhelmed by their emotional self and to lose their ability to think clearly.
This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember. If this is so, they may believe that this is just how their life is and there is absolutely nothing that they can do about it. Another Scenario For others, it can be a challenge for them to connect with how they feel. Consequently, someone like this probably won’t have trouble thinking clearly but what they will struggle with is being aware of how they feel. Once again, this could be how their life has been for as long as they can remember. If this is the case, they could believe that this is just how their life is and there is nothing that they can do about it. Emotional When it comes to the first experience, someone is likely to spend a lot of time being connected to how they feel. The downside is that even though they will be connected, they are not going to be emotionally intelligent. For them to be able to describe how they feel and to use the information that their emotional self provides, they would need to be less caught up in how they feel. One would then be aware of how they feel, but they would rarely be taken out by this part of them. Emotionless When it comes to the second experience, someone is likely to spend a lot of time in their head. The problem with this is that even though they won’t be overwhelmed by how they feel during these moments, they won’t be aware of how they feel either. Information that would be supplied by their emotional self is then going to be out of their reach. It will be hard for them to know what their needs are and it can be hard for them to form close relationships with others. One Perspective Taking into account how each of these two people experience life, it is clear that their life could be a lot better if they were to either gain control of how they feel or to develop a stronger connection to how they feel. If one needs to gain control of how they feel and to no longer allow this part of their being to control them, they may have some emotional work to do. On the other hand, if one needs to develop a better connection with how they feel, they may need to do the same thing. The Reason What this comes down to is that if someone has experienced trauma, they can go one of two ways. Either they can have the tendency to be emotionally all at sea or to be emotionally shutting down. If someone spends a lot of time feeling emotionally unstable, their pain won’t be hidden and this will allow them to work through it. Yet, if one is often emotionally shut down, it can take a while for them to connect to this pain. The assistance of a therapist or a healer may be needed here.
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No matter where in the world someone is or what time it is, the mainstream media will be there to inform them about what is taking place. This source of information will tell them about what is going on around them and that is going on further afield.
The main reason for this is that one no longer needs to watch TV, listen to the radio or read newspapers in order to stay update; the only thing that they need to do is to go online. So, providing they have a Smartphone, they will be fine. A Different Experience In a way, it will be as if one has their own newsreader that is there to tell them about what is going on around them. Of course, they won’t have someone on their phone who talks to them directly. But what they will have is a practically endless amount of videos, articles, podcasts and live streams at their finger tips. And if they want to find out about anything in particular, they can simply use a search engine. One Perspective One way to look at all this would be to say that it is a good thing, as unlike their ancestors, they can stay up to date with what is going on it the world. How fortunate they are, then, with this being something that they would have missed out on if they were born in a different era. By being up to date with what is going on, one may find that they feel more at ease. Due to what they learn each day, they will be able to give their mind the information that it needs to understand what is going on and to settle down. Another Outlook Nonetheless, even though one can believe that they are ‘informed’, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. When it comes to what one is aware of, it can simply relate to what this source wants them to be aware of. Its other words, this source is not simply telling them about what is going on in the world; it is only telling them about certain things. Now, it could be said that this is to be expected as it can’t cover everything. The Big Question This is something that can’t be denied, but why is one thing given exposure and another thing completely overlooked? One reason that could be put forward is that not everything is important enough to be covered. It is not as though this is something that can be denied, but then, who is it that decides whether or not something is important? Would it be right to say that important stories haven’t been overlooked over the years? Conditioned It might be more accurate to say that this source of information is not really there to inform people and that this is just the illusion that it has created over the years. One can then believe that they are ‘in the know’; when in reality, they can know very little about what is actually going on. Sure, their mind can be full of information about what is going on, but what is in their head will be in alignment with the narrative that this source of information wants them to buy into. Making sure that one doesn’t realise this will be essential for them to continue to be lead down the garden path. One Part It wouldn’t be right to say that this source is merely there to deceive others, though, and this is something that can be observed by paying attention to what it generally gives exposure to. Regardless of what day it is or what time of the day that one pays attention to this source, there will be something negative for them to consume. The argument that could be put forward here is that this is because bad things are happening in the world. Therefore, if this source didn’t do this it would be creating a very one dimensional view of the world. One Step Back Nonetheless, if this source exists to define how people see reality, it will be clear that it wants to control people. And if it does want to control people, making sure that their inner world is in total disarray is certainly going to help. If someone’s mind is clear and their emotions are settled, it is going to be a lot easier for them to think clearly and to make good decisions. On the other hand, if this is not the case, it will most likely be a challenge for them to think clearly and to do things that will serve their highest good. An Easy Target Taking this into account, a big part of controlling someone will be to make sure that they are constantly exposed to things that will traumatise them. There will be no need for this source to focus on the big things all the time as the small things will do the job. In fact, if this source focuses on smaller things, it can allow them to traumatize someone so slowly that they don’t even realise what is taking place. But while they won’t be aware of what is going on, their mind and body will suffer. The Perfect Zombie Once they are in this state, this source will be able to continue to administer their poison. Ones inner world will have been taken over by a pathogen and they will be like a sitting duck. Clearly, someone like this is not going to be a threat to the establishment and in a position where they could help to create a different world. They will be in a bad way and they might look towards the system to save them. Conclusion There is no doubt that there is a difference between someone being informed and being loaded up with propaganda. Nevertheless, it will be important for one to think about how informed they want to be. If being informed means being loaded up with fear and not being in a good way, it is not going to serve them. They will probably be able to do far more good for the world if they make sure that they are in a good way and allow their inner goodness to touch others.
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If one was single and they were to meet someone who showed a lot of interest in them, they could find that they end up being drawn to them. And what might also play a part here is that one may be physically attracted to them.
Through being in this person’s presence, one could start to experience a lot of positive feelings. In a way, it could be as if this person is a breath of fresh air; with them being someone who has come into their life to make it better. A Fast Build Up After the first encounter, it might not be long until the other person is acting in a ways or talking about things that wouldn’t usually take place or be mentioned for quite some time. It will be clear that the other person doesn’t want to take their time and to allow everything to develop organically. It will be like starting in first gear and going straight into the last gear; instead of starting in first and gradually moving through each gear. At this point, one could have put their thinking brain to one side and be completely caught up in what is going on. For Example So after one has had their first encounter with this person, their phone could constantly go off. This can be a time when this person will message and call them, telling them how much they like them, how special they are and the type of things that they want to do with them, for instance. This person could also say that they should move in together and go into what their future will be like. Additionally, one may find that this person sends them gifts while they are at work and they could come across love notes and letters from them. The Next Stage After they have seen each other a few times or only known each other for a matter of weeks, the other person could ask them if they are now in a relationship. They could even go one step further than this by talking about how much they love them. And if they do end up moving in together after such a short period of time, one could spend even less time with others. In fact, ones whole life could end up revolving around their partner - someone they have only just met. On Top Of the World At this point one could feel as though they are on cloud nine, with them basking in positive feelings and the loving behaviour of their partner. Nonetheless, it might not be long until their partner starts to change. Now that this person has pulled one in, they could end up trying to control how they live their life. If one doesn’t do what they want, they might find that their partner leaves or that it is not possible to get hold of them. Hot and Cold This person will have done everything that they could to warm them up in the beginning and, how that they have them in the palm of their hands, so to speak, they will take advantage of them. Due to their fear of losing their partner and being rejected and/or abandoned, one can have the need to do whatever their partner wants them to do. If this means no longer seeing their friends and family, putting their interests to one side and/or neglecting their own health, for instance, they will do it to try to regain their ‘love’. Ultimately, one will have become hooked on their partner’s attention or the dopamine that they trigger inside them, which is why they won’t feel good when their attention is no longer there. Drawing the Line One could then do what their partner wants and before long, they could pull away again. They might turn up in a few days or it could be a number of months before they reappear. Clearly, having this person in their life is not doing them any good, and the sooner they cut their ties with them the better. There are a number of things that they can do to gradually get back on their feet and to regain their energy. A Few Steps Firstly, it will be a good idea for one to no longer speak to this person in person, over a screen, or over the phone. If this person won’t accept this, one may need to get in touch with the police. Secondly, it will be good for them to get back in touch with family and friends, so that they can go over what took place and gain their support. Thirdly, taking time to do what they enjoy will make it easier for them to take their mind of this person, and, fourthly, they may need to reach out for the assistance of a therapist or a healer, for instance. Stepping Back It could be said that just about anyone could be love bombed, yet there are going to be things that will make one more susceptible to this type of behaviour. And if one has gone through this experience on more than one occasion, it is likely to show they need to take a deeper look into why this keeps taking place. However, this is not about one blaming or shaming themselves for what has taken place; it is simply about them taking a step back and looking into what they might need to do to prevent this from taking place again. This is about awareness as if one can see that there is a reason why this keeps taking place; they can do something about it. A Closer Look If they were to do this, what might become clear is that they don’t feel good about themselves. Therefore, as soon as someone comes along and gives them so much positive feedback, they drink it all up. Said another way, they are in a position where they desperately want someone to love them. Consciously or unconsciously, a love bomber realises this and ends up exploiting their weakness. An Easy Target If one did value themselves, they wouldn’t need as much from another person, and this would enable them to be more discerning when it comes to who they allow into their life. And as opposed to feeling good when another person comes on strong right at the start, they might end up feeling as though something isn’t right. They might realise that as this person knows very little about them, it probably shows that they are trying to manipulate them. The love that they have for themselves will also allow them to have strong boundaries. Additional Points Furthermore, through valuing who they are, they would most likely have a number of close friends who they can share their life with. These people would then be there to give them feedback and to support them. Another part of this is that one would also do things that they enjoy and this would strengthen them and fill their life with meaning. They would value themselves enough not to neglect themselves. The Reason If one was to find that they don’t value themselves, it could show that their early years were not very nurturing. This may have been a time in their life when they were abused and/or neglected. Thanks to how they were treated, they would have come to believe that they were worthless and they may carry the pain of being rejected and abandoned. Being treated badly is then going to be something that feels comfortable at a deeper level. Awareness If one can relate to this, and they want to embrace their inherent value, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer. There will be the negative beliefs that that they need to question and replace, and there will be the emotional wounds that they need to heal. The main thing is that one does what they need to do and doesn’t give up on themselves.
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Although a lot of what one needs to survive, and even thrive, will come from others, it doesn’t mean that their survival is dependent on one person or a group of people. What this then means, is that one is not going to need to please one person or a group of people in order to survive.
One can live their life and express who they really are without worrying about whether or not another person will approve of what they do or say. If they do or say something that does lead to a negative reaction from someone else, they will know that this won’t lead to their demise. One Example So if one works for someone else, they are not going to believe that their survival rests on their boss. Therefore, if they were to lose their job, it probably wouldn’t be seen as the end of the world. Now, this is not to say that they wouldn’t be upset and even miss working there; what it comes down to is that they will know that they will be able to find another way to support themselves. Where they worked will just have been seen as somewhere that provided them with the means that they needed for a certain period of time. One Source This can be seen as similar to how one tap will provide one with the water that they need at one moment in their day and, at another moment, another tap may provide the water that they need. What provides them with water, or anything else for that matter, will just be a channel. Therefore, if one works for someone else, this will be a way for them to receive the money that they need to live. And, as this is only a channel for money to be directed into their life, they won’t need to get attached to it. Another Example If one is in a relationship, this will be another area where they receive things from someone else. From someone like this, they are likely to receive support, acceptance, and love, amongst other things. Even so, they won’t believe that they need to be with person in order to survive. In addition to being able to support themselves financially, they may also be able to source support, acceptance and love from inside themselves. The Messenger As they are not dependent on this person, it can be normal for them to be authentic and to express their true-self. This is not to say that they would be happy to throw what they have away, though. They will appreciate what they have, but as they don’t see their partner as being essential to their survival and are able to source positive feelings from within, they will be able to fully show up. Hiding who they are and going along to get along is unlikely to be something that crosses their mind. A Key Part What could have an impact on how someone like this lives their life is that they could be religious or spiritual. Deep down, one could know that someone or something provides them with what they need. The only thing that they need to do is to listen to the guidance that is inside them and to trust that what they need will be given to them via one channel or another. One could also believe that the mere fact that they are on this planet means that they deserve to receive what they need. A Transition Another way to look at this would be to say that their caregivers provided them with what they needed during their early years and as time passed, mother nature and father sky started to provided them with what they needed. Of course, mother nature and father sky were providing their caregivers with what they needed during this time. One is then a child of god or nature and as this is so, they are provided for. Existence itself is then there to make sure that they have what they need and, as this source is abundant, there is no need for them to go without. A Different Reality Not everyone on this planet experiences life in this way, though, and this will mean that they have a very different experience on this earth. Consequently, someone like this can believe that their survival rests on their boss and/or their partner. Due to this, they can have the tendency to hide who they are and to be who they think that other people want them to be. Thus, even if they are not aware of what they believe, it will still define their life. A Half-Life If they have a job that they enjoy it might not be as bad as it would be if this wasn’t the case; even so, they could still wonder what they would do if they lost their job. This could be a time when they experience a lot of fear and anxiety. Even if they do something that they don’t enjoy or work in an environment that is toxic, leaving where they work could be seen as too much of a risk. What they do for a living is going to undermine them, yet it will be as if they have no choice. Trapped If they are in a relationship with someone who is not a good match for them, they are unlikely to do anything about it. In addition to being financially dependent on them, they could also depend on them to provide other things. This will show that one can’t support themselves financially, and is unable to source love, acceptance and support from inside themselves. Through being this way, one will be more concerned with pleasing others than with pleasing themselves. A Deeper Look Unlike the person above, one is not going to see another person as serving as a channel so that what they need will be provided for them; they will see them as being in control of whether or not they live or die. Based on how one sees someone like this, it could be said that one sees them in the same way that a child sees its parent. One is then going to be an adult, yet they will still view certain people as parental figures. If one felt like an adult and was able to see other adults as people who are no more connected to the abundance of the universe than they are, there would be no need for them to behave in this way. What Is Going On? Physically, one is going to look like an adult, but when it comes to their emotional self, they are not going to feel like one. Instead, they are likely to feel like a needy and dependent child. What this can illustrate is that their early years were a time when they didn’t receive the type of care that they needed to be able to develop in the right way. Perhaps this was a time when they were neglected, which would have caused them experience a lot of trauma. Emotionally Stuck The years will have passed since this stage of their life and their external appearance will have also changed, but they will still feel like an abandoned child on the inside. How they felt all those years ago will have stayed in their body. This part of them won’t want anyone who they believe is in control of their survival to pull away, as this will be seen as something that would cause them to be abandoned. To this part of them, being abandoned will be seen as something that would cause them to die, and as they were abandoned at this stage of their life, it would have set them up to believe that they were worthless. Awareness For one to no longer attach their survival to one person and to feel supported by the universe, they will most likely need to work through the trauma that is inside them. By doing this, they will be able to feel connected to the support that is inside them and this will make it easier for them to receive the support that is on the outside. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer. With the presence of someone like this, one will be able to work through the pain that they were unable to face all those years ago. There will be the layers of pain that relate to feeling rejected, abandoned and worthless to process.
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One could find that they often feel down or angry and/or that they have the tendency to overreact. Regardless of what is going on for them, they may look into what they can do to experience life differently.
Before long, they could try to change what is going on in their mind - with what is taking place up top being seen as the reason why they feel down or overreact, for instance. Alternatively, one could pay a visit to their Doctor and end up being put on some type of medication. Two Ways If one takes the first approach, they will be using force to try to change what is going on. This is similar to what happens when someone uses force to straighten out a fence that is not as upright as it used to be. On the other hand, if one takes the second approach, they will try to change how they experience life by covering up what is going on. This will be similar to what happens when someone uses a sheet to cover up the things that they no longer want to see. The Western Way When one tries to change or fix something, they are going to be operating from their masculine element. As for trying to cover things up, this can also be seen as coming from the same element. The reason for this is that one will be getting away from what is going on as opposed to facing it. If one was coming from their feminine element, they would face what is going on. A Different Way It might seem as though the two approaches above are the only way to deal with mental and emotional problems. If one doesn’t change what is going on or cover it up, it could seem as though nothing will happen. However, while this may seem to be the case, there is another way to resolve what is going on. If one was to connect to what is taking place inside them, they could find that there is small child that wants to be seen and heard. Attention In the same way that a small child will want their caregiver to listen to them if they are upset, not for them to try to change what they are going through or to silence them by giving them food, the small child inside them will want the same thing. For many, many years, this child may have been overlooked. In the beginning, their caregivers may have ignored them and, as the years went by, one may have ignored the child that is inside them; or the children that are inside them, as there can be more than one child self inside them. The ‘negative’ feelings that they have and the destructive ways in which they behave, for instance, can show that this part of them is not in a good way. Final Thoughts When one connects to this part of them and allows it to express what it needs to say, they can find that their life gradually starts to change. This will be a time when one embraces their feminine element, as they will be surrendering to what is taking place inside them. They won’t be trying to change or fix anything and they certainly won’t be trying to cover anything up. One might not be able to do this by themselves, though, and may need to reach out for external support. If they were to connect to this part of them, they could end up being overwhelmed. So by working with a therapist or a healer, for instance, one will be able to go where they wouldn’t go by themselves, and this will allow them to develop the strength that they need to do inner child work without external support.
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