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Even though someone might have been able to function and perhaps function very well for most of their life, it could now be very difficult for them to do so. The reason for this is that they could generally have very little, if any, energy.
If so, it won’t just be a challenge for them to do things; they won’t have much interest in doing anything. As a result, it is likely to be hard for them to perform at work, they might struggle to eat, and might rarely see friends or family. One Big Battle It can be difficult for them to get to sleep and, even when they do sleep, they can wake up feeling tired. Their body can often ache, too; it can be as if they are carrying a heavy weight around with them. Thanks to how exhausted they often are, it can be hard for them to remember things and make decisions. And, if they connect to how they feel, they can feel helpless and hopeless. A Strange Scenario If they were to think about what happened before they ended up in this position, they might not be able to think of anything significant. Then again, they might see that they experienced a breakup or a loss. Yet, even if something like this happened, they might see that it didn’t really affect them. However, as the days, weeks, and perhaps months have passed, they have ended up being taken out and are a shadow of the person they were before. What’s going on? One way of looking at this would be to say that they have a chemical imbalance or that what they are going through is genetic. This is due to the fact that there won’t appear to be anything that has caused it. Their brain chemistry will then have just changed, or what they are going through will have been passed down. Nonetheless, what if what they are going through is not simply due to a chemical imbalance and hasn’t been passed down? A Closer Look What if what they are going through is a consequence of pain having built up inside them, and their system is doing what it can to protect them? At this point, they could wonder what is being said and say that they can’t feel anything. This is because their system will be doing everything it can to ensure that this pain doesn’t enter their conscious awareness. If this weren’t the case and this pain started to enter their conscious awareness, they would probably end up being overwhelmed. Going Deeper Thus, while it will seem as if their main problem is not having any energy and being in a lifeless state, this will be a symptom of something deeper. At this point, they can wonder how they were able to function before if they had all this pain inside them. What this is likely to show is that before they ended up in this position, their system was able to repress their pain without causing them to be in a completely shut down and collapsed physiological state. Additionally, things such as taking action, exercising and being busy would have allowed them to release tension and thereby, helped them to function. A Build Up But, now, as more pain will have accumulated, more energy will be needed to keep this pain down, which is why they won’t have the energy to release tension like they did before, and they won’t be able to distract themselves any more. At this stage, they can wonder why they are carrying so much pain. Regardless of whether they did experience a loss or a breakup a little while ago, what they have experienced throughout their adult years and during their childhood is likely to have played a big part. When it comes to the former, they might remember a loss or a number of losses and one or a number of breakups. Back In Time When it comes to the latter, they might not be able to remember a great deal. Even so, this may have been a stage of their life when they were greatly deprived and deeply wounded. Practically from the moment that they were born, they might have missed out on the attunement, care, affection and support that they needed to grow and develop in the right way. Or, this might have been something that they experienced after a number of years had passed One option Either way, to handle not having a number of their needs consistently met and the pain that this caused them, their brain would have repressed how they felt and a number of their needs. This would have involved them losing touch with their connected, embodied and feeling true self, and developing a disconnected, disembodied and unfeeling false self. What would have also helped them to keep this inner material outside of their conscious awareness and keep it together and function was hope. They would have also believed that if they became who their mother and perhaps father wanted and behaved how they wanted, they would be loved. A Continuation Although this was futile, as most likely their mother and perhaps father were unable to provide them with what they needed, this hope would have allowed them to release tension. This tension would have largely been created by the pain and unmet needs inside them. Now, as the years passed and more pain built up inside them, it would have gotten harder and harder for their system to manage it. Their systems last resort was to put them in a state where they lost the ability to function but maintained the ability to keep it together. Moving Forward Assuming that this is what is going on for them, what they are going through will be their brain and body telling them that they need to stop avoiding their pain and face and process it. This is not something that will take place overnight, and they will likely need external support to be able to connect to, face, process and integrate this pain. This will take courage, support, patience and persistence. Awareness If someone can relate to this and they are ready to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided with the assistance of a therapist or healer.
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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