Early Deprivation: Can A Woman Be Obsessed With Sex If She Experienced Early Deprivation?

What a woman may find, if she were to reflect on her life is that she spends a lot of time thinking about having sex. Not only this, but she could also spend a lot of time having sex.

Now, she could be in a relationship, be dating, see a number of men, or have casual encounters. Either way, she may find that she has been this way for a little while.

One Position

Now, if she has casual encounters, she could have sex with a man once or a few times and that could be it. After this, she could find another man to have sex with and the same thing could take place all over again.

When it comes to how she meets these men, it could be through work, going to different bars and clubs, and/or different apps, for instance. She may find that it doesn’t take much effort for her to find a man who wants to have sex.

The Next Stage

Once she has had sex, she could find that her mood improves and she feels lighter and more at ease. If so, she will experience positive thoughts and feelings, be more present and it can be easier for her to focus on other areas of her life and concentrate.

It could then be a little while until she starts to think about sex again or it might not be long until she feels the need to have sex. However, if she were to end up in a position where she was unable to have it, it might be hard for her to function.

Another Experience

If, for example, she ended up with an injury, was unwell or couldn’t find a man to have sex with, she could end up feeling frustrated and agitated. Naturally, as what she was receiving is no longer accessible, it is to be expected that it would be hard for her to function.

Nonetheless, irrespective of if this were to happen, she could wonder why she spends so much time thinking about and having sex. If she were to look back on her life, she could see that she became this way after a breakup.

One Scenario

She might then see that practically as soon as it came to an end, she ended up going down this path. Thus, she didn’t take the time to face how she felt and work through these feelings.

What might then enter her mind is that by becoming so consumed with sex, it allowed her to avoid how she felt. She might then see that no matter how much sex she has, it won’t change how she feels deep down.

No More Running

For her to change her behaviour, she will need to face what is really going on for her. This is likely to settle her mind down and take away her need to have as much sex.

Additionally, it will give her the chance to meet the other needs that she has been neglecting. So, as things stand, her need for affection and a deeper connection, for instance, won’t be being met.

In other words, her bodies need’s will be being met but her hearts need’s won’t be. Thanks to the work that she does on herself, she will be able to operate as a whole human being.

Another Angle

At the same time, even if she did go down this path after a breakup, it doesn’t mean that this is all there is to it. Along with the pain that she experienced after a breakup, she might have already been carrying a lot of pain.

And, the pain that she was carrying might be a consequence of what took place during her formative years. It could go back even further than this, though, with what took place during her birth playing a part.

Back In Time

But, if what took place during her birth is put to one side and her developmental years are the focus, this may have been a stage of her life when she was greatly deprived and deeply wounded. The reason for this is that her mother and perhaps her father might have been emotionally unavailable and out of reach, causing her to be starved of the love, affection and care that she needed.

To handle what happened, her brain would have repressed how she felt and number of her needs. What happened and the impact that it had on her would then have been removed from her conscious awareness.

Two Levels

Many years will have passed since that stage of her life but, deep down, she will still be looking for the love that she missed out on. To her unconscious mind, sex will be seen as something that will allow her to receive the love that she missed out on as a child.

On one level, then, sex will allow her to experience pleasure and release tension, but, at a deeper level, it will serve another purpose. This deeper part of her has no sense of time and is blind, which is why it can’t see that it is too late for her to receive what she missed out on and a man is not her mother or father.

Temporary Relief

Thanks to the part of her that believes that she is receiving what she missed out on, she will feel better, but, as it is too late for her to meet these needs, the experience that she has won’t last. How she behaves and the experiences that she has will play a part in keeping how she feels outside of her conscious awareness.

Taking this into account, for her life to change, she will have pain to face and work through and unmet developmental needs to experience. This will take courage, patience and persistence.

Awareness

If a woman can relate to this and she is ready to change her life, she may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided with the assistance of a therapist or healer.

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