Early Deprivation: Can Someone Carry A Felt Sense Of Helplessness If They Experienced Early Deprivation?

Even though someone is not powerless, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. In general, they could feel totally helpless and as though they have no control over their life.

But, if this is just what is normal, they might not be consciously aware of how they feel. As a result, there will be no reason for them to reach out for support and do something about what is going on for them.

One Reality

Thanks to what is going on for them, they could spend a lot of time feeling down and depressed. It could typically be a challenge for them to get out of bed each day and they might find it hard to sleep at night.

They could have a job that they can’t stand, with them often thinking about leaving where they work. As for their relationships, they might not have any close friends and they might not have ever been in an intimate relationship.

A Battle

Their life is then going to be one big struggle and they might be in a position where they are unable to take much more. They might even have moments when they think about calling it a day.

However, considering what their life is like and how incapable they feel, this is not going to be a surprise. They will be in a hole they are unable to see a way out and, thus, ending their life will be seen as the only way out of the hell they are in.

Stepping Back

Now, if they were able to step back and reflect on their life, what they might gradually come to see is that they feel helpless and unable to change their circumstances. Over time, what might also stand out is that they have felt this way for as long as they can remember.

What might enter their mind is that they feel this because of what is going on externally. Based on this, if their life were to change, they would end up feeling different.

Another Angle

Yet, even though this may appear to be the case, there is a chance that what is going on externally is not the reason why they feel this way. Instead, how they feel internally can be what has and is causing them to experience life in this way.

When it comes to why they feel so helpless, it can be a consequence of what they experienced during their formative years and the impact it had on them. This stage of their life might have been anything but nurturing.

Back In Time

Practically from the moment that they were born, they might have missed out on the attunement and care that they needed to grow and develop in the right way. Being left when they needed attention and receiving attention when they didn’t need it would then have been the norm.

And, as the years passed, they might have continued to miss out on the attunement and care that they needed. This would have caused them to be greatly deprived and deeply wounded.

One Option

To handle what happened, their brain would have repressed how they felt and a number of their needs. This would have also involved them going into a collapsed, physiological state.

Adapting in this way wouldn’t have changed what was going on, of course, but it would have stopped them from being consciously aware of the pain they were in. This would have allowed them to keep it together and function.

A Brutal Time

Ultimately, this was a stage of their life when they not only felt helpless and hopeless; they were helpless and hopeless. What happened would have had an impact on every part of their being.

Now that they are an adult, what they experienced will be over, but, a big part of them won’t know this. To this part of them, they will still be helpless and hopeless and being in a shut down state will be a way for their system to stop their conscious mind or conscious sense of themselves from being overwhelmed with pain.

Moving Forward

For them to know that this stage of their life is over, they are likely to have beliefs to question, pain to face and work through, and unmet developmental needs to experience, among other things. This will take courage, patience and persistence.

Awareness

If someone can relate to this and they are ready to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided with the assistance of a therapist or healer.

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