Early Deprivation: Is An OnlyFans Model Unconsciously Trying To Meet Her Unmet Developmental Needs?

Although there are numerous OnlyFans models, there are only a few that are well-known. Some of the well-known ones have been on TV, radio and have been featured in newspapers and magazines.

Furthermore, the women who reach this level may have earned hundreds of thousands of pounds, if not more. And, thanks to the exposure that they receive, they can end up earning even more money.

Another Direction

Additionally, due to the exposure that they receive and how much money they are earning, they can inspire more women to go down the same path. To some women, then, these women will be seen as role models.
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Some of the women that they inspire can be older than them, around the same age, and even younger. There can even be women who are not old enough to go down this route but who want to do so as soon as they are.

A Different Response

Along with this, there will be women who have a very different view of these models. To these women, they can be disgusted by them and believe that they are having a destructive effect on society.

This can be because they have a young daughter or have even been in a relationship with a man who slept with one of them, for instance. What is clear is that not every woman is going to be on board with what they are doing.

A Closer Look

Now, when one of these models is being interviewed, they can come across as confident and bold. It can be as though they are living an empowered life, and that every part of them is on board with what they are doing.

If they have been having sex with hundreds of men and are asked about the impact that their behaviour is having on the relationships that some of these men are in, for instance, they can say, in one way or another, that if these men were getting their needs met, they wouldn’t need to cheat. Thus, if their girlfriends or wives were meeting their needs, they wouldn’t need to behave in this way.

The Other Side

If, after this, the model is told that the same thing will be done to them if they get into a relationship or get married, they could say, in one way or another, that they are too desirable and good at sex for this to happen to them. It is then not going to be possible for them to be cheated on or left by a man.

Unlike the women who are cheated on and left, they will be different, which means that they won’t have the same experiences. At this point, it could be said that the only reason a woman can believe this is because she is deluded.

It’s not true

There are likely to be, at the very least, thousands of women who are objectively attractive and are good at sex, but who have been cheated on and left. These women would probably tell them that their looks and ability in the bedroom didn’t ensure that the man they were with would be faithful.

However, as this model has been having sex with hundreds of men and receiving endless validation from these men, not to mention hundreds of thousands of pounds, it is not a surprise that she has an inflated sense of herself and has lost touch with reality. She is an imperfect human, after all, not a perfect god.

Another Angle

To put this to one side, it can seem as though she chose to go down this path because it allowed her to earn good money, she likes a lot of attention, and she enjoys having sex. There is then only going to be her conscious reasons for doing this, and there won’t be any reasons that she is unaware of.

But what if she is unknowingly trying to meet needs that were not met during her formative years and resolve her childhood in the process? What may shed light on what some of these needs are is what she has said in her interviews.

Going Deeper

So, if she has said that a girlfriend or wife should meet her boyfriend's or husband's sexual needs so that he won’t cheat or leave her and that she is too desirable and good at sex to be cheated on or left, there can be a deeper meaning to what she is saying. The situation that she is in can say a lot about what her childhood was like.

For example, her father might have left her when she was very young, and she might have blamed her mother for what happened. In addition, her underdeveloped brain may have concluded that the reason she was left was that she was worthless and unlovable.

Another Outcome

Assuming that this is the case, the impact that this stage of her life had on her and the meaning that she made will then have been forgotten about by her conscious mind, but it will still have an impact on her life. To her unconscious mind, certain women will represent her mother, and certain men will represent her father. 

By having men cheat on and leave their girlfriends and wives, a wounded part of her will be getting her own back on her mother. And, by seeing herself as too desirable and good in bed to be left by a man, a wounded part of her will believe that this will stop her father from leaving her.

Its Over

What this illustrates is how these wounded parts of her consciousness that have been repressed project the past onto the present, and have no sense of time and are blind. This is why they can’t see that these men and women are not her mother or father, and that it is too late for her to meet the needs that were not met all those years ago.

Sooner or later, some of the pain that has been repressed and the needs that go with it might enter her conscious awareness, and at this point, she might have to face and work through how she feels. This is likely to be a time when she will start to see that this was a stage of her life when she was greatly deprived and deeply wounded.

A lot to Work Through

She can find that not receiving the attunement and care that she needed caused her to feel rejected and abandoned. This is a consequence of her need to be loved and supported by her mother and father not met.

But, even though years have passed and she is now an adult, how she felt at this stage will have stayed locked inside her. This shows that time alone doesn’t heal childhood wounds.

Awareness

If a woman can relate to this and she is ready to change her life, she may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided with the assistance of a therapist or healer.

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