Loss: Can Someone Lose The Desire To Be Alive After They Have Experienced A Loss?

If someone has recently experienced a loss, they could be in a very bad way. They can have moments when they feel very sad and can’t stop crying, and moments when they shut down and are unable to feel anything.
Along with this, they can find it hard to get out of bed in the morning and struggle to get to sleep at night. And, when they are awake, they might not feel like doing a great deal.

Going Through the Motions

Apart from doing what they have to do, such as going to work and eating, they might not do much else. Then again, they might not eat as much as they used to, and they could often skip meals.

Before this took place, they might have been full of energy and done a variety of things. Assuming that this is the case, they are going to be radically different to how they were before.

The Type of loss

Now, this could show that they have gone through a breakup, or they might have lost a loved one. Either way, their life will have changed, and it will never be the same again.

But, although this will be the case, a big part of them is not going to want to accept this. The reason for this will be something that is too painful for this part of them to accept.

False Hope

This part might even hope that, sooner or later, their life will return to how it was before. This hope will serve as a defence that keeps how they feel out of their conscious awareness.

When this defence is not active and they are connected to how they feel, they can find that they have the sense that their life is over. It is then not going to matter how old they are or what other areas of their life are like, as they will have no reason to be here.

Another Element

If they have lost a loved one, a big part of them might also want to die so that they can be with them. What this will show is that they believe that the person, who has passed on, is on the ‘other side’ and if they were to die, they would join them here.

They can then spend a lot of time thinking about ending their life and how they might do it. What this can show is how close they were to the person who has passed on and how much they loved them.

Another Part

If they were able to look back on their life, they may see that this is the first time that they have had this experience. Alternatively, they may see that they have been in this position before.

After they experienced a breakup or lost a loved one, then, they would have been in a bad way and lost the will to live. This may have been a time when they cried and were able to gradually embrace life again, or they might have ended up losing touch with how they felt and been able to carry on with life again.

A Build Up

If they didn’t work through how they felt and, instead, lost touch with how they felt, their current loss will have unlocked some of the pain that was held outside of their conscious awareness. Thanks to this, what they are going through is naturally going to be harder for them to handle.

There could be even more to it, though, as what is going on for them could also be a consequence of what hasn’t been resolved from their formative years. This may have been a time when they experienced a lot of loss, and the pain that they experienced was largely repressed.

A Process

Taking into account what is going on for them, and irrespective of whether how they feel purely relates to what has recently happened or there is more to it, what is clear is that it will be a good idea for them to reach out for external support. This can be a time when they will talk about what is going on for them to someone who is supportive and understanding.

Additionally, it will be important for them to continue to cry, as this will play a key part in allowing them to be able to embrace life again. So, although it can seem as though their life will never change, this is not the truth.

Awareness

If someone can relate to this and they are ready to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided with the assistance of a therapist or healer.

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