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The other night, when I was looking for a film to watch, I remembered one that I had heard about a few years ago. The film was called Road House, and I knew that it was a remake of a film that had originally starred Patrick Swayze.
This time, the main star was Jake Gyllenhaal, and as it was an action film, I was looking forward to watching it. I will now talk about parts of the film that stood out for me; I won’t cover every part. Let’s Begin So at the start of the film, the main character, Dalton, enters an underground fighting ring. But before he is ready to fight, his opponent makes it clear that he is not going to fight him. The money that his opponent has been fighting for, perhaps all night, is then given to Dalton without him having to throw a punch. It is clear that the other fighter knows who he is and what he is capable of. An Offer He then leaves the venue and walks back to his car, but during this time, the owner ends up stabbing him. The owner is fed up with Dalton showing up at the end of the night and taking all the money. Just when he is trying to deal with his stab wound, a woman appears, with this being a time when she offers him a job in her bar. But while Dalton says that he is not interested, she leaves him her number. A Big Decision He ends up driving off and parks on a train crossing, with it being clear that he is ready for his life to come to an end. But, as the train gets closer, he decides that it is not time for him to die and is able to move his car out of the way. After being stabbed and not doing anything and trying to kill himself, what stood out for me was that he was punishing himself. Thanks, in part, to a number of dreams, it gradually becomes clear that he ended up losing control during his last professional fight, which seemingly caused him to kill another fighter who was also his friend. The Hospital visit When he is in Florida, and on his first night working as a bouncer at the road house, he ends up injuring a number of troublemakers. But after he has done this, he takes them to the hospital. Just as he is about to leave, a doctor named Ellie asks him if he is ok and offers to help him. After making out that he is fine, he ends up accepting her help, but only partly. A Trip After meeting again and growing closer, they end up going on a boat trip and sitting in the middle of the sea. During their conversation, he soon says that they should head back, with him being uncomfortable with the personal questions. He says to her that she is a “nice person” and “you don’t want to know me”. She then responds, saying that “don’t tell me what I want”, “you think we don’t have the internet out here”, and “I know what happened”. A Time of Resistance In this moment, Dalton can’t accept the warmth from Ellie because of how he sees himself. However, before long, and due to her persistence, they end up coming close together and kissing. In that moment, how she behaved challenged the view that he had of himself. This allowed him to receive the warmth that was on offer. A Common Challenge At the end of the film, Dalton leaves, so it is not clear how he will live after this stage of his life. But what this film demonstrates is how someone can live after they have done something that they feel is unforgivable. They can push away good and live in a way that will slowly cause their life to come to an end, that’s if they don’t end their life. By harming themselves, they can believe that they are paying for what they have done and ending their life will be seen as a way for them to pay off this debt and end their own suffering. It’s not Black and White However, even if someone hasn’t killed anyone or done anything unforgivable, they can still feel and behave in this way. In this case, it can be because they were mistreated during their formative years. As they were egocentric at this stage, they would have personalised what took place, with them believing that they were worthless and unlovable. As an adult, their conscious mind can have forgotten about how they were treated and the meaning that their underdeveloped brain made, but their adult life can still be impacted. Final Thoughts In a situation like this, it will be vital for them to reach out for the external support that they need in order to change their inaccurate view of themselves and be able to allow good into their life. They can have beliefs to question, pain to face and work through, and unmet developmental needs to experience. This will take courage, support, patience and persistence.
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Oliver JR Cooper http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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