Willpower: Can Someone Have A Weak Will If They Had Controlling Parents?

It has been said that when there is a will, there is a way. What this illustrates is how important willpower is when it comes to achieving something.

This is then an inner source of power that will allow someone to get from where they are, to where they want to be. Along with this, it is this source that will also allow them to stand up for themselves and say no.

A Key Part

When it comes to their will, they are likely to find that this is located just above their stomach. This is an area of the body that is associated with personal power, sense of self and confidence.

Therefore, this area of their body is an important part of what will allow them to act like an individual and live a life that reflects who they are. However, although this is the case, someone could find that their will is not very strong.

Stepping back

So, what can stand out is that they find it hard to assert themselves and say no, with them often being walked over and saying yes to the wrong things. Moreover, they could see that they don't believe that they can achieve their goals.

And, when they do start things, they could often give up as soon as they come up against a hurdle. They could see that they have started so many things over the years and rarely finished anything.

Confusion

After realising this, they could wonder why their will is not very strong. They could come to the conclusion that they were just born with a weak will and there is very little that they can do.

In this case, they will just have to do what they can to tolerate what is going on. Nonetheless, there could be far more to it than this, with what took place during their formative years having a big impact on this part of them.

Another Angle

But, if they were it think about this stage of their life, they might say that it wasn’t that bad. For example, they could say that they didn’t go hungry and that they were not hit.

This could be true, or it could show that their brain has blocked out a lot of what took place during this stage of their life to protect them. Their conscious mind will then have forgotten about what actually happened.

A Closer Look

Now, even if they were not hit as a child, it doesn’t mean that this wasn’t a stage of their when they were undermined. Yet, a child doesn’t need to be physically abused in order to be harmed.

With that aside, if they were to take the time to reflect on this stage of their life, what they may soon find is that one or both of their parents were very domineering. Assuming that it was one of their parents, this parent would have generally stopped them from being able to freely express themselves.

A Battle

If they did assert themselves, they might have soon been criticised, humiliated and/or isolated. Furthermore, they might have typically been told what to do and what not to do.

Ultimately, due to how overdeveloped their parent's will was, it wasn’t possible for them to develop their own will. This parent would have forced them to become very submissive, passive and easy-going.

One outcome

Thanks to the power imbalance, they were not in a position to do anything about what was going on. They could only adapt to what was going on by withdrawing and becoming a non-entity.

Many, many years will have passed, but, their will will have stayed underdeveloped and they won’t feel safe enough to assert themselves. They are also likely to believe that they are not worthy of asserting themselves and living a life that is in alignment with who they are.

The Truth

In reality, how they were treated was not a reflection of their worth or lovability. It was also not a sign that it is not safe for them to stand their ground and be assertive.

For them to be able to develop their will and be able to freely express themselves, they are likely to have beliefs to question and pain to face and work through. This will take courage, patience and persistence.

Awareness

If someone can relate to this and they are ready to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided with the assistance of a therapist or healer.

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