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Purpose: How Can Someone Find Their Purpose?

15/7/2016

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There are people who feel as though they are on track in life, and there are others who don’t. As a result of this, it could be said that not everyone is going to experience life in the same way. 

When one feels as though they are doing the right thing, it is likely to be a lot easier for them to get out of bed in the morning. And while they might not be happy all the time, there is a strong chance that they will be happy with the direction their life is taking.

Fulfilment

Their life won’t be perfect, and there is the chance that not everything will go to plan, but they will have a meaningful existence. This could then mean that they won’t be in a position where they are looking for other people to make their life worth living.

There is also the chance that one will feel as though they are doing what they came here to do, and there will then be no reason for one to feel as though they are wasting their life. This could be how they have experienced life for quite some time, or it might be a fairly recent occurrence.

Disconnected

However, when one doesn’t feel as though they are on the right track, it could be normal for them to believe that they are wasting their life. They may have the desire to live a fulfilling existence, but that could be a far as it will go.

It could then be a challenge for them to wake up in the morning, and they may even find it hard to get to sleep at night. When they go to bed, their mind could be focused on what they can do to experience life differently.

In The Morning

Once it is time for them to get out of bed, they could start to think about why they should even bother. They might not feel as though they have a reason to get up, or if they do, it is unlikely to be something that has a big effect on them.

This could be a sign that one works somewhere that doesn’t really interest them; each day is then going to be just as unfulfilling as the day before. One could feel as though they are stuck on a treadmill that they can’t get off, and they may wonder if they should carry on.

A Burden

In this case, it would show that one had reached a certain point, and this could mean that they have thought about ending their life. Therefore, as far as they can see, their life is not going to get any better.

This could mean that they haven’t tried to change their circumstances, or there could be more to it. If they haven’t tried anything, then it could be said that it would be a good idea for them to reach out for support.

Alternatively

At the same time, one may have tried all kinds of things, and this may have caused them to experience even more frustration. In the beginning, they may have believed that their life would finally change, and then as time passed, they may have come crashing down.

This could have been something that has only happened once and then that was the end of it, or this could be something that has continued to occur. If it has only happened once, it can be a sign that they find it easy to give up.

Resilience

If, on the other hand, this has taken place a number of times, it can show that they are not willing to completely give up. They could stay down for days or even weeks, but they will soon be back on their feet

When one is this way, it could be said that it will be a lot easier for them to find their purpose in life. This is then similar to how someone will have a greater chance of opening a lock if they try more than one key.

Up Until This Point

If one has tried to find their purpose, they may have read books and taken courses, for instance. During the time when they were reading a book or taking a course, they may have believed that this would be the turning point.

This could have been a time when they heard about how other people had transformed their life through reading the same book. Or if they were on a course, they may have seen how other people were able to find their purpose.

An Option

And if one hasn’t tried anything in order to find their purpose, it might be good idea for them to read a book or to go on a course, for instance. As just because something doesn’t work for one person, it doesn’t mean that it won’t work for another.

There is also the chance that one simply needs to find the right book, or to go on a difference course. Untimely, life is a journey, and this is why it is important for one to keep going and not to give up.

Another Approach

What one could also do is to connect to their needs and feelings, and this might give them the information that they need. Through being in touch with these aspects, one could ask themselves what they feel passionate about, and the kinds of things that make their heart sing.

This might not happen straight away, but it should happen if one takes the time to listen to what is taking place within them. But if one finds that they are unable to connect to their feelings and needs, then it might be necessary for them to try a different approach.

Going Deeper

What this could show is that one is disconnected from what is taking place in their body, and until they are able to get back in touch with this part of themselves, their life is unlikely to change. This could show that one is carrying a lot of pain, and while living on the surface of themselves allows them to avoid this pain, it is also causes them to be cut-off from their true-self.

Awareness

If one can relate to this, it might be necessary for them to work with some kind of therapist. As they begin to let go of the pain that is within them and to connect to themselves, they may gradually being to realise what their purpose is.

Having said that, this is not to say that one will have the same purpose for the rest of their life, and this is because there is the chance that their purpose will change as they change. In the same way that how one sees themselves at one point in time might not be how they will see themselves at another.

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Oliver JR Cooper
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2 Comments
Bonnie Coyle
2/8/2016 11:55:20 pm

I loved this informative article. I am one that became seriously physically challenged due to illnesses that required multiple sirgeries,and changed how I live my life.I try not allow it to be noticed and except for a cast made leather boots and the fact that I must use a walker. The uncountable surgeries I have had,made me stronger and I realized exactly what I am to accomplish in this world. I lost my husband after fifteen years of marriage,and once we went ticouple's Therapy we worked it a out and became best friends and gave up arguing and put downs to communication and compliments to one another.
I lost him over a year ago,and due to a huge loss of income, I have had to move two times in five months,with each place getting smaller and smaller.
Now I live in a small complex in a studio apartment that is minature. But I am happy to finally be somewhere that I can afforx,and I am grateful and haooy. But all these changes have derailed me from making much progress on my goals.I am still getting organized here,for this small of a place is difficult to organize fir closet is minimal.I had been and am I have in excruciating pain,where I had fractured my heel and now it is bone on bone with my ankle and hee
I went to an orthopedic soecialist,and he said I had a choice. To continue to live as I am with a new brace,or have a fusion of the ankle and heel,and removing all the arthritis. It isn't a guarentee,but to be free of pain,that is the only option. So I chose the opportunity to live with less pain and wearing a brace.
I am having the surgery next Tuesday. The recovery takes about three months,and for the first two weeks,I must lie in my back with my foot elevated above my heart. I was told that the pain is strong and after the two weeks,yhe will put me in a stabilizing boit,and I must wear that for about eight to ten weeks,and ND I cannot bear any weight on that foit. So that men's the use of a wheelchair,and keeping the right leg up. This has required me to need to quickly organize and deal utter my tiny space. I feel overwhelmed by all of this,and I still have much to do in a short period of time. I am sorry for going on and on, but I have a health care aide,but I have told her that I will need her to really be with me while I am recovering. She usually doesn't eve come until over an hour late,and I let her leave very early most days. But she is scheduled from nine to five-thirty. She asked me if I could postpone my surgery for a few weeks until her daughter returns to school. I said absolutely not for my pain is so bad,that I cannot walk now and need a chair to get around in.
So after my long stiry,I am wondering how to keep working on my life's purpose. I will journal,for I have been doing so since I began therapy at 25.I am working towards writing a book about my my life through these journals. Menu lyrics I am in a good place and I want to work towards my other goals of motivational speaking,restarting my jewelry business and a fashion redisgner,which means taking something like converting a T-shirt into something ek lose through beading,sequins,and sewing the alter the appearance so one would never guess that it was a t-shirt. Also I want to sew clothing of my own design,and sell them .I have an awesome Sewing machine ,that I Ave never used,but must find extra money to buy fabrics I love creating things and zmI have been a successful entrepreneur nearly a my working years and during my healthy times. Since John died,I haven't really gotten anyemwhere,except doing mundane tasks such as cleaning,looking for inexpensive furniture to allow me too have a bit of comfort. Could you give me some suggestions ln how to continue forward with my goals while I am recovering? I appreciate any advice you can offer me so I do not grow depressed and lazy.

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Oliver JR Cooper link
5/8/2016 12:28:12 am

Hello Bonnie,

thank you for getting in touch.

As for what you can do to continue to move forward, I would say try and do something each day. As although you are going through a lot at this time, it is clear that you have a lot to give.

So, keeping writing in your journal and reach out to people who can support you. It doesn't matter whether you can talk to someone over the phone or online; what matters it that you reach out.

What you could also do is to read books/articles that talk about people who have overcome great challenges. This will give you inspiration.

I hope that helps.

All the best,

Oliver

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