There appears to be a lot of people in today’s world who suffer from anxiety, and while this may be something that only affects certain areas of their life, it may be far more severe. When it relates to the former, there may be times when they are able to settle down and to feel at peace.
Nonetheless, when it relates to the latter, it might be hard for them to function in their day-to-day life. Due to what is taking place within them, it is going to be more or less impossible for them to settle down and to feel at peace.
One Big Challenge
It might not matter if they are around their close friends or if they are around people they don’t know, as they might feel equally as uncomfortable. Conversely, they may find that they are able to settle down slightly when they are around the people they know.
This doesn’t mean that it will be as though they have entered a state of inner peace and harmony, but it might be a noticeable difference. Spending time around people like this is then going to be a big help.
So, even though this won’t be an experience that lasts for very long, it will be a welcome reprieve from how they usually feel. In addition to the time that they spend around others, there is the chance that they will prefer to avoid certain environments.
What this will do is allow them to manage their anxiety better, and this is a good thing; the down side is that this will cause them to neglect a number of their other needs. Yet, through being so consumed with their need to settle themselves down, they might not even think about the rest of their needs.
Along with avoiding certain places, they may end up spending a lot of time in their own company. This won’t be something that they choose to do because they like to spend time by themselves and neither will it be a way to recharge their batteries; so to speak, it will be another way for them to manage their inner world.
Once again, this will stop them from being able to express themselves and from going after what they want in life. Therefore, while anxiety is not the same as fear, it is still something that will have caused them to contract as opposed to expand.
There are, of course, numerous ways in which someone’s life can be affected when they experience high levels of anxiety, but, it is generally going to lead to a life that is not very fulfilling. Instead of making the most of the life that they have been given, they are going to be doing what they can to survive the chaos that is within them.
One option would be for them to look into what they can do to change their life, while another option would be for them to continue to suffer in this way. If they have got to the point where they are no longer willing experience life in this way, they may well do something about what they are going through.
A Common Approach
The next step might be for them to do a search online and then to see their doctor or they may just do one of these things. If they were to do a search online, they may come to believe that the thoughts in their mind are the problem, and that this part of them needs to settle down in order for them to settle down.
A visit to their doctor might cause them to come to the same conclusion, and this might result in them being referred to a cognitive behavioural therapist. Either way, their mind will be seen as the area that they need to focus on.
Through monitoring their thoughts and changing the thoughts that they do have, along with breathing deeply, for example, their life may start to change. They may also be advised to meditate, too.
At the same time, one could try this approach (or a similar approach) and it might not have much of an effect on how they feel. In this case, it might be a good idea for them to take their attention away from what is going on in their head and to take a closer look at what is going on in their body.
A Deeper Look
By taking this approach, it will give them the opportunity to find out of if their body is playing a part in what is going on. What they may find is that the reason they experience so much anxiety is due to the fact that they have been living in their head and not their body.
If they were able to settle into their body and to get out of their head, they might be able to feel at peace. However, what can stop them from being able to get back into their body and to no longer live in their head is trauma.
The pain that is in their body can be what pushes them out of it, and, what is taking place within them can play a big part in how they perceive the world. In other words, what is taking place within them will end up being projected onto the external word, thereby causing them to be victimised by their own wounds.
Therefore, for as long as they are carrying this trauma within them, it won’t be possible for them to stay in their body or to perceive the world differently. There may have been a time in their adult life when they felt completely overwhelmed or they may have felt this way all through their childhood years.
A Defence Mechanism
If this was how they felt during the beginning of their life, it may be a sign that they were abused and/or neglected. This would then have been a time when they had to leave their body in order avoid the pain that was within them and to be on alert to the danger that was around them – it wouldn’t have been safe for them to be in their body.
The alternative would have been for them to stay with this pain, which would have been too much for them to handle. A number of years would then have passed since that time in their life, but, they will be behaving as though it is still not safe for them to be in their body and that they need to be hypervigilant in case anything bad happens.
If one can relate to this, and they want to transform their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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