If one is going through a challenging time, it could be because they are having trouble at work. Perhaps someone they work with is making their job harder than it needs to be, or the company they work for could be downsizing.
As a result of this, one might spend a lot of time worrying about if they are going to lose their job. This could be something that will only affect them, or it could be far worse if they have a family.
A Close Relationship
Alternatively, one could be in a relationship that is not going very well; the other person might have just had an affair, for instance. The person they love has then let them down, and they might not know what to do.
At the same time, it might not be this severe, and one could be with someone who they are no longer attracted to. Part of them might want to break up with them, but another part might want to carry on as normal.
On the other hand, what is taking place within them could be what is causing them to suffer. This could show that one spends a lot of time feeling down, and it could then be a challenge for them to do anything with their life.
It could be hard enough for them to get out of bed, let alone for them to actually go out into the world. One could find that they have only just started to feel this way, or it might be how they have been for as long as they can remember.
A Gradual Decline
If they haven’t experienced life in this way for very long, they may find that their life is gradually getting worse. Instead of going out and spending time with friends, they might prefer to stay in.
And while there may have been plenty of things that they enjoyed doing in the past; they might not feel like doing anything anymore. One then has the same name, but they are not the same person.
A Different Problem
There is also the chance that one is not depressed, or if they are, it is not something they experience all the time. One could find that they suffer from anxiety, and this is going to make it harder for them to handle their everyday life.
This could be something that they experience more or less all the time, or it might arise during certain situations. If they were to think about how long their life has been this way for, they may find that it is a fairly recent occurrence.
Due to this, one might be able to remember how much easier their life used to be. One could think about something in their life that they used to do without even thinking about it and, if they were to do this now, they could end up feeling overwhelmed.
For example, they might have enjoyed spending time with others, but this could be something that they now avoid. This will cause them to miss out, but it will also stop them from having to lose control.
No Where to Run
However, if one experiences anxiety more or less all the time, it might not matter where they are. Therefore, one could feel this way when they are at work and when they are around their friends.
One could then find that the only time they don’t experience anxiety is when they are asleep. Yet even if they are asleep, they could find that this is something that has an effect on the kind of dreams that they have.
Part of Life
If one has been this way for as long as they can remember, they are not going to be able to think about how their life used to be. As far as they are concerned, this could be just how life is.
It is then not something that they can change, it is something they have to put up with. What this could then mean is that someone like this is less likely to reach out for support than someone who hasn’t always experienced life in this way.
But with that aside, if one was to look into what they can do to change their life, they might go to see their doctor. This could be a time when they are offered some kind of medication, or they might end up being referred to a behavioural therapist, for instance.
If they go on medication, they are not going to have the chance to look into why they are experiencing anxiety. And, if they have behavioural therapy, they are likely on focus on what is taking place in their mind.
On The Surface
One is then not going take the time to gain a deeper understanding of themselves, or they won’t look into what is taking place in their body. Taking drugs can be seen as another form of repression, and focusing purely on the mind can be seen as another way for one to avoid how they feel.
Now, this is not to say that there is not a time and a place for someone to go on medication or that it is wrong to focus on the mind. What it comes down to is that this is not always going to be the best approach, and the answers are not always going to be found in the mind.
The body is where emotional pain is carried, and so it is not much of a surprise that the mind is given most of the attention in today’s world. By staying on the surface, there is no reason for one to embrace how they feel in their body
If one was to get in touch with what is taking place in their body, they may find that there is a reason why they experience anxiety. They may find that they have a fear of being harmed, and this is why they are on edge from time to time (or all the time.)
Why is this?
What this illustrates is that anxiety is not always the main problem; it can simply be what is taking place on the surface. Anger is the same in this regard, as it can allow someone to avoid other feelings.
If one does have a fear of being harmed, it could be the result of what took place when they were younger. This could have been a time when they were abused and/or neglected by their caregiver/s.
So, although time has passed, the trauma they experienced all those years ago is still in their body. In order to change their life, it is going to be vital for them to deal with what is taking place in their body.
This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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