If someone was to reflect on how they behave when they are in the presence of an authority figure, they may find that they are typically able to hold their own. This will mean that, in general, they won’t retract and neither will they have the need to take up too much space.
In other words, they will feel comfortable enough to be themselves. Being this way is going to allow them to be in their own power and it may even cause the other person to warm to them.
If, for example, one had a job interview, being able to be themselves during this time may allow them to take the next step. Through being able to relax, who they are will come out and they will be able to create a good impression.
But even if they already have a job, there is the chance that there are people above them. Being able to act normal around these people is likely to make their job a whole lot easier.
In addition to being happy to listen to what an authority figure has to say and to show them respect, they may also be happy to think for themselves. Said another way, one is not going to give their power away to anyone regardless of what position they hold.
Naturally, this is going to be the sensible way to behave as all authority figures are fallible human beings at the end of the day. Therefore, to see them as perfect beings that know everything wouldn’t be wise.
An Important Ability
Thanks to this, one will be able to pay attention to what is going on in the world, yet they won’t swallow everything wholesale. People will present information and one will come to their own conclusion.
Ultimately, one will have a brain and they will want to use it, as opposed to outsourcing their brain to others. This will take more time and effort, but it may allow them to have a far greater understanding of what is actually going on in the world.
If their caregivers are still alive, there is the chance that one will have a good relationship with them. What this can show is that these people treated them with respect during their early years, which is why one respects them now.
It will then be clear that there is a difference between them, with them being their caregivers and not their friends, but that difference won’t have meant that one was treated as though they were less-than human. These people would have prepared them for the outside world.
Now, while there will be people in the world that typically don’t have a problem with authority figures, there will be others that do. When someone does have a problem with them, it can be a challenge for them to be themselves when they are in the company of one.
One may find that they either become passive, and this causes them to feel powerless, or they become aggressive, and this allows them to feel powerful. Irrespective of whether the former or the latter occurs, it is bound to lead to problems.
If they typically lose themselves when they are in the presence of an authority figure, it could mean that they are used to being walked over. If they were to go for a job interview, they could become a nervous wreck.
Expressing who they are will be a challenge and, once the interview is over, they could wonder what happened to them. If they already have a job, it might be a challenge for them to offer their input and they might be too scared to ask for a raise.
On the other hand, if they typically become filled with aggression when they are in the presence of an authority figure, they may have the tendency to start arguments and to get into fights. If they had a job interview lined up, they might not even turn up; but if they did, they could leave a bad impression.
Behaving in a civil manner is going to be a challenge and this could mean that they have a bad reputation. If they have a job, each day could be filled with drama and one could make it extremely unpleasant for most of the people that come into contact with them.
One way of looking at both of these examples would be to say that this is what takes place when someone regresses to an earlier stage of their life. This stops them from being able to be present and to see an authority figure as just another human being.
When this happens, one will have lost their awareness and see an authority figure as their parent. Their inner parent will be projected onto the other person and they will then react to their own projection.
A Closer Look
During their early years, one might not have been shown the love, care and respect that they needed. Instead, this may have been a time when they were treated like dirt, setting them up to develop a negative view of themselves and people that have power.
If they collapse and become passive when they are around an authority figure, it could show that it wasn’t safe for them to stand up for themselves at this time and, if they become aggressive when they are around an authority figure, it could show that there were moments when they did feel safe enough to stand up for themselves. Their caregivers would have trained them to have a dysfunctional view of authority.
If one can relate to this, and they want to change how they behave, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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