Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Be Overweight?

If one is in a position where they are not as slim as they would like to be, it is not going to be hard for them to find other people who are having the same experience. And this is because this is something that a lot of people struggle with.

The Media

For one thing, the mainstream media often talks about certain celebrity’s who are unable to keep their weight down; with there being times when they have their ideal weight and times when they don’t.
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Along with this, they also focus on the ones who were slim and ended up gaining a lot of weight. And if they are not talking about celebrities, they can talk about how this is something that effects normal people.

Not Alone

Thus, one only needs to a read paper or a magazine, for instance, to see that they are not the only ones in this position. Having said that, they might not even need to go this far, and this is due to the fact that they may know a few people who have the same problem.

When they are around these people, they could talk about how frustrating it is to carry more weight than they need to carry. In fact, they could feel as though they can relax when they are around these kinds of people.

One Step Further

There is also the chance that most of their friends are in the same position, and this can then show that it’s because they feel comfortable with them. One may find that they can be themselves around them, and that they don’t need to put on an act.

And while they may give each other the support they need when it comes to losing weight, this might not the case. Instead, they could come to believe that there is nothing wrong with their weight.

Two Sides

Therefore, when one is around people who have the same problem as them it could end up having a positive effect on their life. The support that they receive from someone like this can make it easier for them to lose weight.

However, if one comes to believe that there is nothing wrong with their weight, it could cause them to go against their true needs. But all the time they are around these people, it might not be possible for them to realise this.

Health

Along with this, it could also set one up to have health problems; however, this is something that can all depend on how much excess weight they are carrying. For example, there is naturally going to be a difference between carrying a few extra pounds and a hundred pounds.

The General Approach

But if one wanted to lose weight, there is a strong chance that they would end up going on some kind of diet. And this could be something that has taken place on a number of occasions.

If one spends most of their life on a diet, they may have a certain diet that they go on, or they might have been on a number of different ones. Through doing this, they may find that even though they lose weight when they are on the diet; they soon gain it when they come off.

Round in Circles

There can then be moments in their life when they have their ideal weight and moments when they don’t. As a result of this, they could wonder if it is really worth all the effort, and during these moments, they could feel hopeless.

This could then mean that they end up eating more than they need to (or the wrong kinds of food) and gain a few more pounds in the process. One can then feel even worse and this can then cause them to eat again, and this whole process can continue to play out.

Acceptance

But if one was in a position where they were overweight and this was something that caused part of them to feel uncomfortable, it doesn’t mean that they will do anything about it. They could find that another part of them feels comfortable this way.

And this part could be a lot stronger than the part of them that wants them to lose weight. This is not to say that one is going to be aware of these two parts, but it is something that will control their life nevertheless.

Protection

There are a number of reasons why one would be in a position where they are unable to keep their weight down and/or feel comfortable being overweight, and one of the reasons why they would be this way is because it is a way for them to protect themselves. So when this weight is not on their body, they will end up feeling exposed.

Thus, it is wont matter how it makes them look or the effect it has on their self-esteem and health, as their own survival is going to take precedence. Another way of looking at this would be to say that one is boundaryless, and their body is using what it can to protect them from harm.

Boundaries

When one hasn’t developed boundaries, it is likely to be due to what took place during their childhood years. This may have been a time when someone got too close to them, and they may also have been abused and/or neglected.

As their boundaries were not respected, it would have stopped them from being able to develop them. At an energetic level, they will be wide open, and while carrying excess weight is going to have a negative effect on their life; it can be seen as the only way for them to protect themselves.

Awareness

If one can relate to this, it will be important for them to reach out for the right support, and this can be provided by a therapist and/or a support group. This is likely to be a time where one will be dealing with trauma, among other things.

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Oliver JR Cooper
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