Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Leave Their Body?

If one was to tell someone that they are leaving their job or a relationship, for instance, there is a strong that they would know what they are talking about. When they think about what one is doing, they might imagine them saying goodbye to their colleagues or walking away from the person they were with.

Through being in this position, there is the chance that they will be able to empathise with them. Along with this, one may also be told that they are there for them if they need their support.

Normal

It could be said that it will be normal for one to receive these kinds of responses, and this is because they are talking about something that most people can relate to. As it is so common, one may also find that someone they know is having a similar experience, or they may have been in the same position a short while ago

However, if one was to tell someone that they were leaving something or someone and they didn’t understand, it could be because they are not very old. Or it could mean that the person they are talking to speaks another language.

Support

When one can talks about something and other people understand what they are talking about, it is going to make their life a lot easier. And while other people can understand them when they talk about these kinds of things, this is not always going to be the case.

Now, this is not necessarily going to be due to the fact that they don’t understand what it means to leave something or someone. What it can come down to is that they don’t understand how it could happen.

Their Body

This is the kind of response that one can receive if they told someone that they keep leaving their body. They could also say that they are unable to get in their body.

Someone could tell them that it is not possible for them to leave their body, as it is part of them. Having said that, they might know what they are talking about, but if not, they might ask them to talk about their experience.

The Experience

However, even if someone doesn’t believe that it is possible for them to leave their body, it is not going to change ones experience. When one leaves their body, it doesn’t mean that they will actually be stepping out of it.

What it is likely to come down to is that they will disconnect from it, and this means they won’t be aware of their body. The only thing that one is likely to be aware of is what is taking place in their mind.

Looking Down

As a result of this, they won’t feel as though their body is a part of them; they can see their body as being separate. Another way of looking at this would be to say that their attention will be in their mind.

It is then not going to be possible for them to feel grounded in their body, and they could feel as though they are floating. For that reason, it can be a challenge for them to feel at peace and to relax.

An Observer

When one is in their body, it will allow them to experience life; whereas when they are in their mind, they will end up observing life. Therefore, when one leaves their body, it will stop them from being able to embrace life.

So while they will be aware of what is taking place in their mind, they won’t be aware of what is taking place in their body; if they are, they might only be aware of their body’s sensations. This can then mean that the will be out of touch with how they feel, and they might now know what their needs are either.

Unaware

Yet even though someone can be aware of what is happening, they could also be in a position where they are not. Thus, there will be no reason for them to talk about what is taking place in their life, as it will be the only thing they know.

At the same time, this doesn’t mean that their life won’t be affected by the fact they are disconnected from their body. The difference is that one won’t be aware of why they are experiencing life as they are.

Common Problems

One could say that they experience a lot of anxiety and that they rarely know what they need or how they feel. They could also say that they generally feel ‘ungrounded’ in life, and this could cause them to engage in certain activity’s to bring them back down to earth, so to speak.

And through being out of touch with their body, it could also mean that they are either underweight or overweight. The reason for this is that they won’t know when they are hungry, and so they won’t eat when they need to or they will eat when they don’t need to.

From Time To Time

But regardless of whether one realises that they are disconnected from their body or not, they will have moments when they can connect to it. On one side, this could be something that happens naturally, and on the other side, it could happen through consciously doing something.

If it happens naturally, it could be something one experiences when they are in a certain environment. When it happens through consciously doing something, it could mean that one is having massage or doing yoga, for instance.

What’s going on?

The reason one is unable to stay in their body can be because they don’t feel safe being in their body. So just like one would run away to protect themselves; they can leave their body to achieve the same outcome.

What this can mean is that one is boundaryless, and this is why they are unable to stay in their body. If they were to connect to their body, they would feel exposed, and in order to avoid feeling this way, they will go into their head.

A Deeper Look

The reason one experiences life in this way can be due to what took place during their childhood. This may have been a time where they were abused and/or neglected, and there may have been someone who got too close to them.

These experiences would have stopped one from being able to develop boundaries, and it will then be normal for one to be wide open at an energetic level. And unless this changes, it is going to be a challenge for one to stay in their body.
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Awareness

If one can relate to this, it will be important for them to reach out for the right support, and this can be provided by a therapist and/or a support group. This will be a time where one will be dealing with trauma.

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Oliver JR Cooper
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