Boundaries: Does Someone Need To Embrace Their Masculine Nature If They Are Unable To Say No?

If one is asked if they would like to do something, they could end up saying yes. This could show that they actually want to do what the person has suggested, and there will then have been no reason for them to say anything else.

A Wonderful Experience

This could then be a time when one will have a really good time, and once the experience has come to an end, they could end up going over what happened. It will then be only too clear that they did the right thing by saying yes.

One could even think about how they would have missed out if they had simply said no and carried on with what they were doing. They wouldn’t be feeling as they do at this time and it would have stopped them from having a great experience.

Open To the World

What this can show is that one is able to say yes to life, and to embrace the opportunities that come their way. It could then be said that one is in touch with their feminine nature and that they feel comfortable with this part of themselves.

Through being this way, it allows them to receive; whereas if this wasn’t the case, they would probably keep everything at bay. One could then be someone who observes life and is unable to experience it.

Closed Off

What this could mean is that one will have moments when they will give, but that they will rarely have moments when they receive. Naturally, this is going to cause them to be out of balance.

One may find that they often feel as though they are running on empty, and as though they live in a dessert. Their needs are rarely, if ever, going to be met, and so it is to be expected that their life will be a struggle.

Drawing the Line

Saying no is then not something that is going to be a challenge for them, but it is not going to make them happy. If they were able to not only say no but to say yes from time to time, it would allow them to embrace the other side of their nature.

Their feminine nature would end up being embraced and this would allow their life to be far more fulfilling. And whether one is a man or a woman is irrelevant; as both sexes have the masculine and feminine within them.

A Different Life

When one experiences life in this way, their life is going to be radically different to how someone experiences life when they can accept both sides. Yet if they don’t understand why there is a difference, they could come to see other people as being different.

This could then cause them to believe that someone like this is luckier than they are or more fortunate, for instance. If this was to take place, one could feel as though they have no control over their life.

The Other Side

It could then seem as though one is either able to take life in or they end up saying no most of the time. What can also take place is that one can end up saying yes practically all the time and this is going to be just as bad.

Now, this is going to allow them to embrace life to a certain degree, but what it will also mean is that one is unable to protect themselves. They are generally going to be focus on doing what other people want (or what they think they want).

Neglect

The needs of others are going to come first and their own needs are typically going to end up being overlooked. Clearly, there is a time and a place to be there for others, but if this is the norm, it will cause one to suffer.

There is the chance that one is not even aware of their own needs, and this is not going to be much of a surprise if they have been this way for a long time. They could end up believing that other people’s needs are their own.

Walked Over

One may find that there are times when saying yes won’t have a negative effect on them, and this will have a positive effect on their life. Even so, this could be something that doesn’t happen very often.

What one could be used to is being taken advantage of by others, and this is going to make it hard for them to lead a fulfilling life. It could be as if other people don’t recognise them as being a separate person.

Going Deeper

If this is how one has experienced life for as long as they can remember, it can show that what took place during their early years is defining what is taking place in their adult life. When they were younger, they have been brought up by someone who didn’t respect their boundaries.

One may have been seen as an extension of them, and this is then why they walked over them. If one spoke up about what took place and tried to stand their ground, they may have been abused and/or neglected.

Disconnected

Their masculine nature, the part of them that wasn’t willing to put up with this, had to be silenced in order for them to survive. If they didn’t do this, they would have ended up being harmed even more.

Awareness

So while this kept them alive when they were younger, it is now stopping them from being able to stand their ground and to be assertive. It is then going to be vital for them to embrace this part of themselves.
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This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist. There might be emotional pain within them that needs to be dealt with and trauma.

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Oliver JR Cooper
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