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It has been said that out of all of the emotions that someone can experience, shame is the hardest one to handle. The reason for this is that when someone experiences shame, they can feel bad and worthless.
It doesn’t end there, though, as their inner world can collapse and they can have the need to hide their face or to isolate themselves. Consequently, it can be normal for someone to defend themselves against this feeling or, to be more accurate, this inner experience. One Option When they experience shame or before they even have the chance to do so, they can end up being consumed by rage. Instead of feeling deflated and emotionally collapsing, they will end up feeling pumped up and energised. As this response will stop them from falling down, it will prevent them from feeling really bad about themselves. The downside to this, of course, is that it can cause them to behave in a way that is destructive. Another Option Conversely, one could be in a position where they are generally out of touch with their shame. Thanks to the defences that they have in place and how they hold themselves (body armouring), they will seldom experience this feeling. Being this way will stop them from feeling bad and worthless and that can be seen as a good thing. The downside to this is that it will probably be normal for them to behave in ways that are shameless. A Big Difference What needs to be made clear here is that there are two types of shame: the first type is normal or healthy shame and the second type is what is often described as unhealthy or “toxic” shame. The former is what will allow someone to function in society, whereas the latter will be like acid that destroys their self-image and makes it impossible for them to feel good about themselves. Someone can experience normal shame, learn from what has happened and then repair it without too many problems being created. Toxic shame, on the other hand, can end up being far too much for someone to handle and this is why they can end up being consumed with rage or end up losing touch with their shame altogether and developing an inflated false-self in the process. One More Option If someone experiences toxic shame and they don’t become consumed with rage and they haven’t lost touch with this part of them either, they can drown in it. They will fall into a deep hole of self-loathing. Before long, they could end up feeling depressed and there could be moments when they think about ending their life. This doesn’t mean that they won’t have ways to defend against this experience, as there could be a number of things that they do to try to soothe themselves. Out of Mind Taking this into account, there are going to be people who typically avoid their toxic shame by experiencing rage or anger, those that avoid it by disconnecting from it, those that are generally consumed by it. Additionally, there are going to be those that don’t carry toxic shame or only have a small amount of it. When it comes to those that are carrying toxic shame and do what they can to avoid it, either through being consumed by another feeling or generally being disconnected from it, this inner material will end up being held into their unconscious mind. Their conscious mind can then forget all about it, but another part of them will be only too aware of it. Two Levels Once it is in their unconscious mind, it will end up going into what is often described as the “collective unconscious” or the collective consciousness. This comes down to the fact that even though their ego-mind, along with their eyes, will cause them to see themselves as separate from everyone and everything, this is nothing more than an illusion. One of the consequences of having all this toxic shame held in the collective consciousness is that different movements will materialise where some people will dehumanise certain people. So, people who have a certain belief system or look a certain way, for instance, will end up being seen as less-than-human. Totally Oblivious When this happens, someone like this won’t be able to see these people as individuals; they will all be lumped together and put into a box. Although one will be behaving in an inhumane manner, they can have all kinds of reasons as to why their behaviour is justified. The more “intelligent” they are, the easier it can be for them to prove that they are right and that these people deserve to be punished. In other words, due to their well-developed intellect or simply what they have learned in the education system, they will be better at deceiving others and themselves. A Massive Cover-Up Ultimately, as they, and everyone else who is in the same position, have become estranged from their own toxic shame, they will have to see this part of themselves in others. What they see in these people will be a reflection of what they are unable to see in themselves. But, as they are unaware of how these people are mirroring back what they are unable to acknowledge within themselves, there will be no need for them to change their behaviour. They will be completely convinced that the problem is ‘out there” and that these people need to be changed or dealt with somehow. Final Thoughts When someone sees themselves as merely an observer of reality as opposed to a co-creator of it, it will prevent them from being able to face and heal their own inner wounds. Their focus will be on what is going on externally, and this will just cause them to go up against their own shadow or unacknowledged darkness. For their life to change, and for them to change the collective consciousness, it will be essential for them to develop a better connection with their inner world and to start to heal their inner wounds. This won’t be easy but it is likely to be one of the best, if not the best, way to change their life and the planet as a whole.
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Critical Thinking: Is The Media Using Peoples Creative Energy To Manifest A Certain Reality?25/3/2021
If someone wanted to find out about what is taking place around them and in the world at large, they could end up looking towards the mainstream media. Most likely, this is what they will have done for most of their life.
It is then not that they have taken a deeper look into this source and believe that it can be trusted, as this is just a habit. There are bound to be plenty of other people on this earth who are in exactly the same position. Straight In Even so, what this source has told them over the years can largely define how they perceive reality. To use an analogy: when they are exposed to this source, it will be as though their mouth will drop and they will swallow just about anything that is put in there. The food that they have consumed throughout their life will have influenced their mind and body, whilst the information that they have consumed from this source throughout their life will have influenced how they experience life. At this point, it could be said that as what this source says if the truth, why does it matter? An Important Question However, what if this source doesn’t actually exist to inform people and one if it’s main goals is to influence how people see reality? If this is the case, as a result of paying attention to this source for many, many years, someone’s view of reality won’t be very accurate. What they believe is going on won’t be what is going on and the can also have a very lopsided view of the world. Still, as this source primarily focuses on what is not going well and drama, this is to be expected. The Current Paradigm Furthermore, this source usually creates the impression that the viewer, reader or listener is just observing what is going on ‘out there’. What is also in alignment with the view, the view that human beings are just passive observers of reality, is that there will be victims and perpetrators and those that are lucky and unlucky. The situations, circumstances and events that this source reports on are then going to have very little to do with what a large part of humanity is doing. These occurrences will be the result of what a small part of the population is doing. The Big Illusion If human beings are not simply observers of their reality and are, thus, co-creating their experience, what becomes clear is how destructive it is to buy into what this source is selling. Through buying into their story, one will be directing their creative energy towards it and this will sustain it. Nonetheless, if one sees themselves as just an observer of reality, they will just be finding out about what is going on when they consume this source and they want be having an effect on the world. Without realising it, this source will be using them as a power source to support and expand their own creation. It’s always on What this comes down to is that someone can’t switch off their creative energy and just observe reality; this is a process that is always taking place, irrespective of whether they are aware of it or if it they want it to. As humanity has been dumbed-down, one could find it hard to accept that they are a walking creator. There is the effect different religious teachings have had on this “fall”, which is behind a lot of the shame that so many people carry. It won’t matter if they are not religious as the society that they live in can be heavily influenced by it. Law of Resonance At this stage, someone could doubt that they are co-creating their reality; this could be seen as a load of rubbish. According to their ego-mind, the part that allows them to have their own experience on this earth, and thanks to their eyes, they will separate from everyone and everything. Nonetheless, quantum physics states that, at a base level, everything is made up of vibrating energy. So, in order for someone to experience something ‘out there’, they will need to be vibrating at the right frequency. A Closer Look When it comes to what shapes someone’s vibration, this will relate to their thoughts, emotions, feelings and beliefs. In other words, what is taking place in their mental body and in their emotional body will have an effect. The reason why it can be hard for someone to see how their outer world is a reflection of their inner world is due to them having two minds. Both their conscious and their unconscious mind shapes their reality, with the latter having far more impact than the former. Changing the World Taking this into account, when a large part of the population feed into what this source sells, they are going to be vibrating at a certain frequency. Through vibrating at this frequency, they will end up manifesting situations, circumstances and events that are in alignment with where they are at. And, as this source typically focuses on doom and gloom, most of these situations, circumstances and events are unlikely to be very “positive”. By understanding what is going on, humanity as a whole can draw the line, be more mindful when it comes to what they focus their creative energies on and co-create a harmonious and loving world in the process. Final Thoughts For as long as it is generally believed that the few have all power, most of humanity is going to be like sitting ducks. Naturally, they will passively wait for someone or something ‘out there’ to change the world. In reality, the only reason that the few have so much power is because of how far a large part of humanity has fallen. Nevertheless, as the consciousness of the earth continues to rise, more and more people will realise the truth of who they are.
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When it comes to the modern-day world, there are numerous sources that are trying to gain people’s attention. And, thanks to the invention of the Smartphone, it is perhaps easier than ever before for them to do this.
As a result, it is no longer necessary to have someone sit down to watch television or to turn the radio on in order to receive their attention. No, the only thing that needs to take place is for them to look down at their device and to click on an app. Calling Out This is something that someone can do every now and then, without needing to be encouraged to do so. Alternatively, this is something that they can do after their device has made a noise and/or flashed. The reason why someone can do this without needing a reason can be due to the fact that their brain has become hooked on the high (a dopamine hit) that it receives when a new notification appears. When this happens, it can be as if just about everything in their life will fade into the background and their device will be the only thing that matters. One View At this point, it would be easy to say that someone will behave in this way because they lack “self-control” and/or need “constant attention”. However, the apps that pull them in won't have been designed willy-nilly. These will be apps that have been designed with the help of behavioural experts, so it wouldn’t be accurate to say that someone would need to have something inherently wrong with them or a weak character to be hooked in by them. Like every being on this earth, human beings have their weaknesses, and ultimately, these weaknesses are exploited by these apps. A Number of platforms Now, if they were to click on a social media app, for instance, this can be a time when they will be able to see what their “friends” have been doing, to be informed about what is taking place in the world via the mainstream media, and to become aware of what different businesses have to offer, for instance. In a way, it is like a buffet; there is something for just about everyone. Therefore, one won’t need to click on a news app to be exposed to what is going on in the world. Thanks to this, one can have a rough idea about what is going on around them without going out of their way to find out. One Step Further This might not be enough for them, though, and they may want this source to notify them directly. If this is so, they can make sure that this source constantly lets them know about what is going on. One way of looking at this would be to say that this is a wonderful idea; one can be completely plugged in and never miss out. Then again, it is also possible to have ‘too much of a good thing’. A Similar Experience What this comes down to is that in the same way that someone can allow their value to be defined by how other people respond to the images that they share online, they can also allow their emotional self to be controlled by what is taking place in the world. Or to be more accurate, what the mainstream media says is taking place in the world. Furthermore, this is a source that primarily focuses on what is going wrong. Consequently, through paying attention to this source, one can unknowingly have very little idea about what is actually going on and have a very lopsided view of reality. A Reactive Existence By giving this source so much of their attention, irrespective of if they believe everything that it comes out with, they won’t have much control over how they feel. Like a puppet, their emotional strings will be pulled by this source. It can then be normal for them to be anxious and fearful, thanks to the endless stream of drama and misery that this source will provide them. Quite simply, they won’t be in control of how they feel, the mainstream media will be. A Mixed Message What will be ironic about this is that this source is also likely to talk about the importance of “mental health”. Undoubtedly, this source is not good for someone’s mental health; what it is good for is undermining their wellbeing. Not only this, with all the misery and drama that is being drip-fed into them from morning to night, their immune system can also be weakened. Being plugged in is then going to do more harm than good. Hooked In The trouble is that as destructive as this source can be, someone can be hooked into it in the same way that they can be hooked into receiving notifications. It has been said that human beings are wired to seek out what is negative as opposed to what is positive, due to their early origins. Assuming that this is so, this can be seen as to why someone would end up being addicted to something that is probably undermining them. Another way of looking at this would be to say that this is due to them being in a traumatised state that has caused them to be disembodied, which is why they can’t see how destructive this source is, and thereby, don’t feel the need to cut back on how often they are exposed to this kind of material. Final Thoughts If someone is generally allowing this source to define how they feel and they want this to change, the first step will be for them to observe when this takes place. Through being aware of when it happens, they can decide to do something else. What they can also reflect on is that if they want to make a difference on this earth, they need to be at their best. The version of them that has been worn down and wreaked by the media is not going to be the version that can truly make a difference.
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After something ‘bad’ has happened, it can be normal for the mainstream media to assess what has happened through the victim/perpetrator lens. One person or a number of people will be victims, whilst another person or a number of people will be perpetrators.
It might not end there, though, as this source could say that the former is inherently a victim and the later is inherently a perpetrator. This will mean that one person has absolutely no control and the other will have complete control. The Same Message It won’t stop there either, as different politicians and public figures will also come out with the same viewpoint. In fact, due to how pervasive this outlook is, it could be said that it is part of the very fabric of society. Therefore, if someone questions this view, they can be seen as being ‘out of touch’ with reality, for instance. There will, of course, be plenty of people who have experiences that back up the view that they are a powerless victim. The Drama Triangle Naturally, when someone sees themselves in this way, they are going to need someone ‘out there’ to protect them and to provide them with what they need. They will look like an adult but, through being a victim, they will have about as much control over their life as a child does over theirs. Fortunately, the government will be there to protect them and to give them what they need. So, in the same way, that a child will feel powerful through identifying with their parents, one will feel powerful through identifying with this entity. A Strange Scenario As a result of seeing themselves as a victim, then, someone can indirectly experience a sense of control. Also, thanks to the current climate, they can even see themselves as being morally superior to others. This is because, as someone like this will be seen as having no control over their life, they will be better than those who harm them. Thus, while they might live a miserable existence, at least they won’t be causing harm. The Other Part Along with this, these different sources also spend a lot of time talking about “empowerment”. How ironic, with this being something that is the antithesis of seeing oneself as a victim. To use an analogy: it’s a bit like telling those who are held captive how free they are. Perhaps the only way that this would work is if these people had become so accustomed to their surroundings that they actually believed that they were free. A False Version Clearly, it is not possible for someone to see themselves as a victim and for them to be an empowered human being; it is one or the other. They will have to decide whether they want to be powerless or powerful. If, then, someone is being encouraged to see themselves as a victim and they are hearing about how important it is to be “empowered”, it shows that something isn’t right. Instead of being truly empowered, they are being encouraged to be empowered via an external source. Seeing Behind the Curtain True empowerment is something that someone will source from within and through realising that they are a co-creator of their reality as opposed to a passive observer who is separate from what is taking place externally. They will understand that what they experience is partly the result of what is taking place in their conscious mind and primarily the result of what is taking place in their conscious mind. When the above is not being spoken about, it would probably be accurate to say that one, along with their fellow human beings, is being manipulated. Through being told that they are inherently a victim, have been separated from their true power and, now, this same source will provide them with a false version of it. An infantile State One will be an adult but they will have about as much control as a child; nevertheless, they won’t look towards their parents to experience control, they will look towards the government and other entities. Undoubtedly, this won’t benefit the citizenry but what it will do is make it easier for them to be controlled. If a government or any other entity actually wanted to truly empower the citizenry, they wouldn’t promote the victim mentality. One doesn’t need to be a psychologist to see that this entity or any other has an ulterior motive, or is stuck at a level of consciousness that is very low, and the main priority is to maintain and grow their influence, not to encourage people to be truly empowered and self-reliant. It’s Addictive The trouble is that although seeing oneself as a victim won’t allow one to have a fulfilling existence, it doesn’t mean that one can just move on from this. Firstly, they, along with their brain, can be so strongly attached to seeing themselves in this way that letting it go can be like trying to give up alcohol or smoking. Secondly, it can take a while for them to develop the self-awareness that is necessary for them to see how their outer world is mirroring back their inner world. Also, if they have a weak ego structure and are carrying a lot of toxic shame, it can be incredibly difficult for them to take responsibility without falling into a pit of self-loathing, and this is why the defence known as blame is so common. Final Thoughts If it was widely known that human beings have both a conscious and an unconscious mind and that it is what is in their second mind that co-creates most of what they experience, it would be a lot easier for someone to see that they are not inherently a victim. This doesn’t mean that they won’t unconsciously manifest situations and circumstances where they are victimised. However, manifesting situations and circumstances, where one is victimised, is very different from being a powerless victim. Sometimes, someone can need to really suffer before they “wake up” and embark on the journey of embracing their inherent power.
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There will be the needs that a child has and then there will be the needs that an adult has. Now, some of these will be the same whilst there will be others that are different.
With this in mind, once someone is no longer a child, they are going to have a very different set of needs. However, although this can be the case, there is also the chance that it won’t be the case. An Imperfect World The reason for this is that even though someone may have grown into an adult, it doesn’t mean that they feel like one. In other words, they can look like an adult and still have most, if not all, of the needs that they had as a child. By not receiving the type of care that they needed during this time, they won’t have been able to experience a second birth. They will then have had a physical birth but they won’t have had an emotional birth. A Disconnection What took place will be over and yet, they won’t have truly been able to move on from this stage of their life. They may have a well-developed body and even a well-developed intellect, but deep down, they will feel like a child. There is a strong chance that they will spend a lot of time feeling like a deprived child. Nonetheless, irrespective of if they are aware of how they feel, it doesn’t mean that they will actually be aware of why they feel the way that they do. An Inner Driver How they feel deep down, though, will have a big effect on what they do and don’t do. Furthermore, it will have an effect on what they expect from others and from the society that they live in. Ultimately, most of the unmet needs that have been brought forward from their childhood years can’t be met by another adult. These unmet needs will need to be faced and grieved. Legitimate Needs So, most of these needs are going to be ‘false’ needs now that they are an adult and will need to be let go off. Nevertheless, if someone is not aware of the fact that these needs are unmet childhood needs and believes that they are adult needs that need to be fulfilled, there is going to be no reason for them to undertake this process. Instead, they will see these needs as being needs that other adults need to fulfil. Due to how many years have passed since they were a child and the beliefs and the defences that their ego-mind has put in place to keep their pain at bay, they will be oblivious to the true origin of these needs. External Support What will also play part in their ability to deceive themselves, and others, will be the people in their life who are also in the same position. They can have friends both in the real world and online who had a similar early experience and are thus, in the same position. To support what they believe and to add more legitimacy, they can identify with certain ideologies. Ergo, one may be part of a movement and spend a lot of time trying to change their society, so that their unmet childhood needs will finally be met. A Closer Look If they were able to take a step back from what is taking place, to get underneath the beliefs and the defences that they have in place to avoid how they feel and to connect to their body, they may find that they have some, if not all, of the following unmet childhood needs:
Assuming that they have most of these needs, some of them will relate to needs that their mother didn’t meet and some will relate to needs that their father didn’t meet. Some of these needs such as the need to feel safe and secure will also be needs that an adult has, the difference is that an adult won’t solely look towards others to feel safe and secure; these will be things that can be provided from within and through the presence of others. Four Stages A child is in an undeveloped state and can’t source much from within, which is why it is dependent on others for just about everything. When this child becomes an adult and, providing it receives the right care, it will be able to source things from within. This will allow the child to go from the first stage, stage one, dependent, and to gradually go to the last stage, stage four, interdependence. As one won’t have gone through these stages, they will be like an empty vessel or a black hole that can’t be filled. A Natural Outcome Consequently, it is going to be perfectly normal for them to look towards the government to take care of them. They won’t be aware of this consciously but unconsciously they will see this entity as a parental figure. The wounded child inside them will want this entity to provide them with what wasn’t provided for them all those years ago. Thanks to how emotionally undeveloped they are, it is unlikely that they will be concerned about losing their freedom or anything else that could be classed as a ‘higher’ need, as their need to be secure, cared for and protected will be all-consuming. A Different Lens It can be hard for an emotionally developed adult to comprehend why another adult would be happy to give up their freedom in order to receive the aforementioned things. Perhaps, through thinking about the consequences of this kind of behaviour, they can also see how destructive this will be in the long run. But, if they were to look beyond how old this person looks and to see that they are essentially a child in an adult’s body, it will make complete sense. They will be able to see that this person won’t be thinking about the impact that their behaviour will have; they will just be thinking about fulfilling their ‘lower’ needs. Another Part As a child, they would have been entitled to have these needs met, but now that they are an adult, they won’t be. It will be up to them to face their unmet childhood needs, to grieve them and then to gradually provide themselves with what they need. The trouble is that as they haven’t made the connection - linked their present needs to what they didn’t get in the past – they can still carry a strong sense of entitlement. It then won’t matter that this stage of their life is over as they will be convinced that other people, people who they unconsciously see as their parents as a result of transference, have to give them what they want. Full of Fire Not getting their needs met as a child would have probably meant that they experienced a lot of anger, rage, hate and shame. This would have been a time when they were totally helpless. It is likely that the people who were supposed to care for them abused their power and mistreated them. Considering this, one can be full of rage and believe that this rage is a consequence of what is taking place in their adult life when, in reality, it will be rage they have carried since they were very small. Final Thoughts Until they can join the dots, so to speak, and to see why they are so full of rage and even hate, they will continue to seek indirect revenge. Without being consciously aware of it, they will have re-created their early years with the hope of finally getting what they missed out on as a child. Finally, as so many parents are either too traumatised and/or busy to truly be there for their children in today’s world, it is not much of a surprise that there are now a lot of deeply wounded adults. Their childhood will be over but a big part of them won’t have moved on from that stage of their life.
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There are a lot of people who look towards the mainstream media to keep them informed about what is taking place in the world. And, thanks to modern-day technology, it is easier than ever before for this source to do this.
As long as someone has a Smartphone, then, this source can keep them up to date with what is going on. One can then know about what is going on around them and what is taking place on the other side of the world. Completely Connected Like a walking god, it can be as though one is omniscient. If they could go back in time and tell their ancestors about how they experience life, it would probably be hard for these people to get their head around how they experience life. For some of them, it might seem as if one has special powers or are part of a super-advanced civilisation. For others, living in this way could be seen as being incredibly stressful. Lopsided If they were to say this, it would be hard to say that this is much of a surprise. Having a constant stream of negativity delivered to their phone is not exactly going to be good for their wellbeing. Sure, there will be moments when they hear about positive things, but, in general, they will be exposed to things that are negative. Consequently, they can have a view of reality that is anything but balanced. Programmed After being exposed to this source for many years, perhaps from a very young age, they could have a number of beliefs that are negative. Still, even though these will be beliefs, they can be seen as the truth. These beliefs will create a lens that defines how they see and experience life, which shows how powerful they are. What this means is that while they can believe that they are just observing reality - the reality that the media presents as reality - they will be observing a reality that they have co-created. Stepping Back If, then, they were to step back and to reflect on what they believe about the world, largely due to what this source has told them, they could fund that they have some, if not all, of the following beliefs:
What is clear from these beliefs as well as others is that this source is not going to empower them. Instead, what it will do, in addition to undermining their wellbeing, is cause them to see themselves as a powerless victim, and, as a result of this, to live in fear. A Natural Outcome However, as this source typically creates the impression that bad things just happen, people are either victims or perpetrators and doesn’t even acknowledge the fact that human beings have an unconscious mind let alone the fact that this part of them is largely in control of how they experience life, how else would they be? They will be like a sitting duck, just waiting for something bad to happen. This is, of course, another part of what this source does; it sets people up to have negative expectations. To use an analogy: without knowing it, this source will have filled their consciousness with weed seeds and these seeds will have grown into weeds, making it hard for flowers seeds to be planted and then for flowers to appear in their life. One Perspective Taking this into account, it could be said that this source of information is a manifestation of what could be called victim consciousness. When it comes to the levels of consciousness, this is right at the bottom. In this position, someone will see themselves as a powerless victim as opposed to a co-creator of their reality. Their view of reality will be filtered through the victim/perpetrator dynamic and life will be seen as a power struggle/battle. Rising Up To move out of this paradigm, it will be necessary for them to see how they are viewing reality through the duality of their ego-mind. This part, along with their eyes, will also cause them to see themselves as separate from what is taking place externally. In other words, this part of them will create the impression that they are just a passive observer of reality. The other part of this will be for them to realise that they have both a conscious and an unconscious mind, with it being their unconscious mind that has the biggest impact on their life. The chicken or the egg If this source is a manifestation of ‘victim consciousness’, it would mean that as more and more people ‘wake up’ and realise their inherent power, this source will have to reflect this shift in consciousness. So, although it does have an effect on humanity, it is still an effect nevertheless. Trying to change or put an end to the mainstream media is then a waste of time and energy; especially as what is resisted is what will both persist and grow. The key will be for individuals to raise their own consciousness, something that will primarily take place by healing their inner wounds. Final Thoughts It is easy to see the mainstream media as the problem but it is just an effect of what is taking place in the collective consciousness. What is taking place externally, as unpleasant as some of it is, is a mirror of what is taking place internally. Focusing on what is going on externally and trying to change it is the norm in many societies around the world and has been for quite some time. This approach, an approach that is an expression of ego-consciousness, has prevented a large part of humanity from dealing with their own inner wounds; the wounds that have kept the status quo alive.
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When the mainstream media gives exposure to a story where someone has been mistreated, there is a strong chance that this person will be seen as a victim. What took place won’t have had anything to do with them.
This is something that can also take place when someone has been mistreated and they tell their friends about what took place. Once again, they won’t have played a part in what happened. The Reason What this can show is that they live in a society that believes some people are victims, while others are perpetrators. Along with this, some people can be seen as “lucky” and others can be seen as “unlucky”. There will also be times when those who are considered lucky will experience bad luck and vice versa. At times, the terms “good karma” and “bad karma” can also be used after something has happened. A Natural Outcome When someone sees life in this way and uses these words to make sense out of what happens to them, it is not going to be a surprise if they often feel powerless and experience a lot of fear. The reason for this is that they are not going to have much control over their life and other people will be able to harm them whenever they choose to do so. If they are being mistreated at this point in time, they could feel angry and helpless. But, even if this is not taking place right now, if they were to look back, they would probably be able to think about at least one moment when this has happened, and, if they were to look forward, it will probably be easy for them to imagine this happening again. The Drama Triangle For their life to change, then, they will have to hope that they get “lucky” or that their “karma” changes. Furthermore, they might have a strong need for someone to save them from what is taking place. This could mean that they will look to someone who comes across as strong and capable, who is like a parental figure, or they could look towards the system. The main thing is that someone will be there to make sure that they are not victimised by others. The Absolute Truth Taking all this into account, if someone is mistreated or experiences misfortune, for instance, there is no chance that they will have played a part. They will have experienced something bad, so it can’t have had anything to do with them. What will also back this up is that they will want to be treated well and to experience good things. Therefore, to say that this person played a part in what happened would be an example of “victim-blaming” and wouldn’t reflect reality. A Surface Level Conclusion To say that they didn’t have anything to do with what happened can be seen as being based on the view that they only have a conscious mind. So, as they didn’t consciously want to experience something and what happened had a negative effect on them, it means that they played no part. However, what if there is another part of them that has a far greater effect on their life than this part of them and this part of them also feels comfortable being treated badly? If this is the case, it would mean that one is actually being victimised by a part of themselves as opposed to anyone else. A Mirror The trouble is that if one doesn’t realise that they have both a conscious and an unconscious mind and sees themselves as just an observer of their reality, it won’t be possible for them to see what is going on. Instead, what is going on ‘out there’ will be the problem and they will be totally powerless. When one is strongly attached to their ego-mind and is caught up with what their eyes tell them, what is going on externally will be seen as being separate from them. Through being caught up in what is taking place externally and what is taking place internally, they won’t be able to realise that this is an illusion. A Deeper Look When it comes to their unconscious mind, or simply the part of them that they don’t look at, this part of them will carry painful feelings and parts of themselves that they have rejected, among other things. Once something has been pushed out of their conscious mind and into this part of them, they can end up forgetting all about it. But, while they will have consciously forgotten about it, what is held in this part of them will co-create their reality. So, who they are drawn to and avoid, where they are drawn to and avoid, and what they do and don’t notice will be influenced by this part of them. Two Parts With this understanding in place of what is going on, one will be able to look into - without shame or blame - why they have manifested something and then to do something about it. Without this understanding, what is going on ‘out there’ will be the problem and there won’t be a lot that they can do. If this was something that had permeated the collective consciousness - that the outer reflects the inner - the world would probably be very different. This would allow the average person to embrace their inherent power and to see how fearing something brings it into existence. Final Thoughts It would be easy to point the finger and to say that there are people at the top who don’t want humanity to “wake up” and to see that they are both the observers and co-creators of their life. What this would overlook, though, is that even if these people do exist, they would still be a reflection of what is taking place in the collective consciousness. The first step will be for someone to understand how their ego-mind works and see that they have not one but two minds and the second step will be for them to deal with their repressed inner material. As more people go through these steps, the world as a whole will shift to reflect the changes that are being made in the collective consciousness.
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In today’s world, it is not uncommon for someone to believe that what is going on ‘out there’ is the problem. Consequently, what is going on ‘out there’ will need to change in order for the world to change, and, if it doesn’t, this won’t happen.
It could be said that it will be perfectly normal for someone to have this outlook, considering this is what their eyes will tell them. So, as the evidence will be there, there will be no reason for them to question this conclusion. All in the Same Boat It is likely that this is an outlook that most of the people in their society have and their friends and family could also have the same outlook. With there being so many people who are on board with this outlook, it will be seen as the absolute truth. One, along with most of their fellow human beings, is then not going to be able to do a great deal about what is going on. Sure, they can do certain things and even vote for the ‘right’ person, but that will be about it. A Select Few Those who have a lot of money and/or hold positions of power can be seen as the ones who have the ability to make a difference. Also, one could believe that there are a group of people who rule the world, with them operating behind the scenes. They are then going to have to hope that certain people do the right thing. Due to the imbalance in power, regardless of whether one believes that there are ‘elites’ who are in control, the few will be in control of the many. The Outcome When a large part of a population has this outlook, and even a large part of the planet, it is not going to be a surprise if there is a lot of ‘victim energy’. Ultimately, those with the control will be the perpetrators of what is going on and just about everyone else will be powerless victims. This can mean that a lot of people will have feelings that are in alignment with this experience. Someone like this can be accustomed to feeling angry, helpless, hopeless and powerless. Endless Reminders To make matters worse, the mainstream media will continually talk about how bad things are and how certain people are also doing bad things. After being exposed to this information, one could feel even worse about what is going on. Moreover, through consuming so much negativity and having a lopsided view of reality as a result, it could be a challenge for them to focus and to get to sleep. As a way to handle the pain that they are in, they could often be indifferent. Another Angle However, what if what is going on ‘out there’ is not the main problem and the few are not the ones with all of the control? What if what is going on ‘out there’ is a reflection of what is taking place for humanity as a whole and each person on the planet has the ability to make a difference? To understand how this could be so, it will be a good idea for one to take a closer look into the law of correspondence. Quite simply, this law states that what is going on externally is a reflection of what is going on internally. The Mirror This means that although someone can believe that they are just an observer of what is going on externally, they are actually co-creating what they see. What will obscure this fact are their ego-mind and their eyes. Both their ego-mind and their eyes will create the impression that they are separate from what is going on externally. But, as convincing as this will be, it is nothing more than an illusion. The Truth Taking this into account, they, along with their fellow human beings, have the ability to change the world by changing their inner world. Through changing what is taking place internally, their external world will change. This will be similar to how what is on a screen will change if what is being projected onto it changes. Trying to change what is on the screen itself won’t change what is being projected. A Common Approach To try to change what is being projected by doing things to the screen might momentarily change what is seen, but it won’t be something that lasts for very long. This is, of course, what often happens in the world, which is why certain things don't really change. What is going on at the root - what is being projected needs to change – so that there is not only change, but lasting change. For this to happen, it will be essential for one to deal with what is taking place in both their conscious and unconscious mind. Two Levels Having an understanding of how their life is not just a reflection of what is taking place in their conscious mind will make it easier for them to see how the world is mirroring back what is going on for them. If their second mind wasn’t taken into consideration, they could say that they are not playing a part in what is going on as they are a ‘positive’ and an ‘aware’ person, for instance. What is taking place at a deeper level, in their unconscious mind, will have a far greater impact on their life than what is taking place in their conscious mind. This part of them will contain emotional pain and the parts of themselves that they have rejected, among other things. Final Thoughts For the world to truly change, a large part of humanity will need to let go of a lot of their own inner baggage. One’s life will show them what it is that they need to resolve, that’s if they are able to see what is going on ‘out there’ as being symbolic, not literal. When it comes to working through their inner wounds, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided with the assistance of a therapist or healer.
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For some people, usually, those who are into self-development or study psychology, for example, defence mechanisms are something that they are familiar with. This is not to say that they will always be aware of when they are using one or a few of them, though.
It simply means that they will have an understanding of what they are and why they are used, which will give them the ability to know when they are utilising one or more of them. Thanks to this, it will be a lot easier for them to take responsibility for their own pain and to deal with it. Under The Radar If someone like this was asked to explain what a defence mechanism is, they could say that it is simply something that will allow someone to avoid pain. This is not something that they will consciously choose to do, however, as it will take place unconsciously. Someone will then be able to avoid something that is painful without even being aware of the fact that this is what is taking place. If, on the other hand, they were aware of what was going on, the defence/s wouldn’t work. Completely Neutral Taking into account what a defence mechanism allows someone to do, to basically deceive themselves, it could be said that they are ‘bad’. If the defence mechanism didn’t exist, it wouldn’t be possible for someone to deceive themselves. This is true; nonetheless, if it wasn’t possible for someone to lie to themselves without realising it, they probably wouldn’t last for very long on this earth. The reason for this is that pain is part of the human experience and, without the ability to ‘get rid of’, they would be wiped out. The Key Therefore, someone will always use defence mechanisms and, if they were to try to no longer use them, they would be engaging in a futile task. So, and as was stated above, when someone is aware of the fact that they lie to themselves to avoid pain, they will have the ability to know when this is taking place and to face what it is that they are unconsciously trying to avoid. Through consciously choosing to face and to work through their own pain, their life is likely to be a lot smoother than it would be otherwise. What this comes down to is that just because someone unconsciously removes their pain from their conscious awareness, it doesn’t mean that it will have completely disappeared. The Fall Out No, once the painful material has been removed from their conscious awareness, it will end up in their unconscious mind. From here, it will end up pulling the strings of their life and what they might call ‘fate’. In other words, this disowned material will have an effect on how they feel, their thoughts, and how they behave, and even their physical health. Not only this, it will play a part in who they are drawn to and repelled by, and the circumstances and events of their life. A Co-Creator With this understanding in place, someone will be able to see that they are not merely an observer of their reality; they are playing an active role in how they experience life. They will be able to see that what is taking place in their own consciousness is not only affecting their own life, it is also feeding into the collective consciousness and thus, is having an effect on what takes place on the planet as a whole. Ergo, if someone is not aware of the fact that the mind utilises different defence mechanisms to enable them to avoid pain, they are going to be less likely to deal with their own stuff. As a result of this, their painful inner material will build up inside their unconscious mind and they will end up being victimised by their own stuff. One level When someone is in this position, it can be normal for their life to be full of drama and for them to see themselves as nothing more than an observer of what is taking place. Their ego-mind, the part of them that will play a part in pushing their pain out of their conscious mind, will cause them to see themselves as a victim. In reality, their reality will be reflecting back the parts of themselves that they have lost touch with. For example, there is a defence mechanism known as projection, and this is where one will see in others that which they are unable to accept about themselves, and so when this takes place, one can accuse others of being worthless, impatient or as having anger problems, for instance. Another level On one level then, there is going to be what happens for an individual when they don't have an understanding of how defence mechanism work or know they have both a conscious and an unconscious mind, and, on another level, there will be what happens when a country is made of people who are like this. When this is the case, it is not going to be a surprise if this is a country that is full of drama and problems. Unlike in an individual’s life, it won’t be one’s partner or friend who is the problem, it will be a government or another entity that is to blame for what is going on. Naturally, what is going on externally will be far more significant as won’t just be an effect of what is taking place in one person's consciousness, it will be an effect of what is taking place in the consciousness of millions and millions of people. Final Thoughts What this emphasises is how important self-awareness is when it comes to creating a more harmonious and loving world. The ego-mind, with its dual nature and the help of different defence mechanisms, sees what is going on ‘out there’ as the problem. This part can’t accept that the inner and the outer are an illusion and that what appears to be going on ‘out there’ is simply a reflection of the collective consciousness. If someone wants to change the world, perhaps the best thing that they can do is to heal themselves and to be what they want to see externally.
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In recent years, a lot has been said about how much hate there is in the world. One thing that is seen as having played a part in the rise of hate is social media, with these platforms often being viewed as breeding grounds for hate.
So, as part of an ongoing crackdown on hate, videos and posts have been removed. It doesn’t end there, though, as some people have had their profiles removed and been banned from using these platforms. Both Worlds Along with what has been going on in the online world, there is what has been taking place in the real world. The mainstream media, for example, routinely talks about different “hate crimes” that have occurred. Different laws have been put in place to try to stop people from being the victim of one of these crimes. Still, questions have been raised in regards to who gets to define what is or isn’t a “hate crime”. Making in Clear Anyway, whilst all this has been going on, there has been a focus on how important it is to be tolerant and to treat people with respect. At the very least, then, if someone can’t be kind to another person, they can just let live their life. Ergo, although there is a focus on the importance of being more loving and doing the things that are associated with love, there is also a lot of focus on ending hate. Consequently, it could be said that more is being done, at least publicly, to fight what is not wanted than to create more of what is wanted. Conventional Wisdom This approach, an approach that is not the most effective, can be seen as the logical thing to do. If something is not wanted, the obvious thing to do is to fight against it, and once it has been defeated, to create something else. The reason that this approach is not the most effective approach is that what is resisted, is what will both persist and grow. Therefore, although fighting hate sounds right and looks right, it is actually feeding into the very thing that is not wanted. For Love With this in mind, the way to create a more loving world will be for people to be that which they want to see more of and to spend very little time fighting against what which they want to see less off. Through doing this, they won’t be feeding into what is not wanted; they will be feeding into what is wanted. However, it can be a lot easier for someone to be against hate than to be loving. When someone is against hate, they can act in a hateful manner and then rationalise their behaviour. A Cover-Up Someone like this can be full of hate but as they will hate the ‘right’ people, the right people according to a certain part of society, they will be oblivious to what is truly going on for them. For someone who is not caught up in what is going on, it could be clear that this person embodies the very thing that they say that they are against. Ultimately, they will have been drawn to this battle because they will be an energetic match for what is going on. But, as they are not fully conscious of their own hate, they will be able to delude themselves into thinking that they are ‘better’ than those who they are against. Self-Deception What this example does is shines the light on how good human beings are at deceiving themselves. There are so many different defences available to stop someone from coming into contact with the parts of themselves that are painful. One defence that is often used is something known as ‘projection’, and this is where someone will see in another that which they can’t accept in themselves. When it comes to hating others, then, this can take place when someone hates themselves. The Easier Option Thanks to the defences that they have in place, they won’t be able to see that they hate themselves and are loaded up with shame. This part of themselves will then be projected into others, causing them to hate their own reflection. If they were aware of what was going on, it wouldn’t be possible for them to deceive themselves. This is why they are unconsciously going to do everything that they can to stop themselves from realising the truth of what is going on inside them. Deep Change Considering this, in order for the world to be a loving place, it will be essential for the people who inhabit this world to be loving towards themselves. Through loving themselves, they will be able to be loving towards others. Thus, one can try to change the world by fighting hate, but they won’t be anywhere near as effective as they would be if instead, they were to deal with their own issues and to be love. The trouble is that the former will be far more appealing to their ego-mind as it will allow them to receive a fair amount of approval (ego love) and to avoid themselves, while the latter won’t be anywhere near as appealing as there won’t be much approval involved and will require the ability to face deep pain - something that will only appeal to their true-self. Final Thoughts It has been said that we don't come through the world, the world comes through us, and this means that human beings are not simply observers of reality; they are both the co-creators and the observers of their experience. If this is actually the case, someone’s world will only be as loving to them as they are to themselves. Said in reverse, by becoming more loving towards themselves, the world will become more loving towards them. What this emphasises is how important it is for people to heal their own inner wounds when it comes to creating a more loving planet.
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