If someone has a strong connection with their body, they will generally be in touch with their needs and feelings. Through having this connection, they will be able to fulfil their needs and to listen to their feelings.
This will make it easier for them to live a fulfilling life and to have deep and meaningful relationships. Ultimately, these two elements will be a big part of what allows them to act like an individual.
If, on the other hand, they were out of touch with what was taking place inside them, they wouldn’t know what their needs were or how they were feeling. As a result of this, their life would be a lot harder than it needs to be.
Fortunately, they will have a strong connection with themselves, thereby allowing them to express who they are and live a life that is in alignment with who they are. The connection that they have with themselves will be more important than any other connection; without this, every other connection in their life would suffer.
When someone doesn’t have this connection, then, it will generally be a mystery as to what their needs and feelings are. Thanks to this, it will be a challenge for them to get their needs met.
They probably won’t know what they want to do with their life and this may mean that they end up doing what other people want. This may allow them to gain approval, but it won’t allow them to feel fulfilled.
Surface Level Connections
If they have people in their life, the connection that they have with these people might not be very deep. For this to change, they would need to get in touch with how they feel and for more of who they are to show up in life.
The same goes for their life; for them to lead a more meaningful life, they would need to get in touch with their needs. This will also allow them to know what they need in each moment of their life.
However, although their feelings and most of their needs will be found in their body, it doesn’t mean that one will be able to connect to this part of their being. It will be just below their head but it could be as if it is a million miles away.
At this point, one might struggle to understand why they are unable to connect to their body. And if they were to look back on their life, they may find that their life has been this way for as long as they can remember.
A Closer Look
What this may illustrate is that there was a time in their life when it was too painful for them to be in their body. Due to how much pain they were in, they had to leave this part of their being.
This may have been how it was for them at one point in their adult life, or it could go back even further to their childhood years. If it does relate to what took place when they were younger, their whole being may have been overwhelmed on a regular basis.
A Rough Time
Perhaps this was a time in their life when they were abused and neglected, which would have meant that their early years were very traumatic. This would have been a time in their life then they most likely lacked the ability to handle their emotions and yet it would have been a time when they experienced a lot of emotional pain.
Still, even if they did have the ability to handle their emotions, their being may have still been overwhelmed. So without this ability, their only option available would have been to leave their body.
An Automatic Reaction
This is not to say that one consciously chose to leave their body, though, as this would have just happened. Their survival would have been under threat, causing their brain to utilize this survival mechanism.
Many years will have passed since this stage of their life, but they will still be carrying the trauma that they experienced all those years ago. There will also be the effect that this time in their life had on their brain.
For them to get back in their body and to stay in there, they will most likely need to work through a lot of the trauma that is being held inside them. Unless this takes place, it will be like pushing a rubber ring into water and expecting it to stay there – it will just come back up again.
Before one can work through this trauma, they may have a number of defences to deal with first. For example, there could be denial, rationalisation, projection and minimisation.
If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they will most likely need to reach out for external support. This is something can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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