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Child Abuse: Can Someone Feel As Though Death Is Imminent If They Were Abused As A Child?

23/3/2020

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What can’t be denied is that everyone on this planet is going to die at one point or another. Thus, to say this is not being ‘negative’, it is simply stating something that is part of the human experience.

This doesn’t mean that someone should endlessly think about the fact that they will die. Nonetheless, thinking about this from time to time can help one to live in a way that is in alignment with who they truly are and not to waste time.

No Rush

If someone lived forever, it would probably be hard for them to appreciate anything. This is similar to how it can be hard for one to appreciate something if they have more or less always had it.

Along with this, they would most likely become numb to life and lose interest in the life that they had been given. On the plus side, they could attain a lot of wisdom that could be passed down to others.

One Experience

So, even though endlessly thinking about death is not going to serve someone, there are going to be people in the world that are consumed by it. When this is the case, someone might not just think about it, they can also feel as though it is going to happen.

This could be something that takes place at least once a day or it could take place a few times a week, for instance. It is then not that they will die at some point in the future; it is something that is about to happen.

A Hellish Existence

To live in this way is going to be anything but enjoyable, and one could wonder if their life will ever change. For quite some time, they could have been at the point where they no longer want to live in the same way or to live at all.

If their life has been this way for as long as they can remember, it doesn’t mean that they will have an idea as to why it is this way. What could come to mind is that they were simply born this way.

Very Tiring

One of the reasons why living in this way is going to be such a challenge is because they will be used to living in fight or flight mode. Whenever they feel as though they are going to die, their survival brain will kick it.

When this happens, their body will be filled with adrenalin, causing them to breathe rapidly, their heart rate to increase, and for them to have heightened senses, amongst other things. At other times, their body could freeze up (the freeze response) and they could dissociate.

Endless Stress

If they are able to settle down, then, it might not be long until they are soon on edge. There is also the chance that they are unable to settle down, with them either being on edge or feeling burnt out.

Each of the survival responses that they go into has a purpose; the trouble is that they are going into these too easily and too often. It is only natural that this is going to have a negative effect on their whole being.

A Normal Week

When they feel as though they are going to die, it could be due to a number of reasons. If they were to have a disagreement with someone or asserted themselves, they could feel as though their life is under threat.

They could be next to someone who acting aggressively and they could soon fear for their life. If they were to pay a lot of attention to the mainstream media, this is something that could take place whenever they watch or listen to this source of information.  

A Deeper Look

If one was to look back on what took place during their early years, they might not be able to remember what took place. Then again, they could remember that this time in their life was very traumatic.

What this may illustrate is that this was a time when they were abused and/or neglected. At a time in their life when they were dependent, powerless and extremely vulnerable, their small body and developing brain would have been put under enormous stress.

Defenceless

Day after day, year after year, they would have felt that their life was going to come to an end. It would have been like being in a warzone, except that one wouldn’t have had any way of getting away from what was taking place.

Of course, they would have been able to leave their body and to freeze up, but they still had to experience what was going on. Taking all this into account, it is not a surprise that they continually feel like they are going to die now that they are an adult.

Stuck In The Past

What took place is now over, which means that one survived what took place. However, the reason why one is unable to see that this is the case and that this stage of their life is now over is due to the trauma that they are carrying.

The emotional flashbacks that they have are what are causing them to perceive life in the same way and to feel powerless and helpless as a result. For their life to change, it will be essential for them to deal with this emotional pain.

Awareness
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If one can relate to this, and they are ready to change their life, they will probably need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.

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