It is not uncommon to hear about people who have experiences each day where they feel taken advantage of or harmed in some way. As a result of this, it can be normal for someone like this to feel oppressed and/or victimised, along with feeling offended.
And, it might not matter if they are around others or if they are online, as there is always likely to be something that will have a big impact on them. The kind of experiences that they have will most likely be backed up by the kind of experiences that their friends have.
Through spending time around people like this, their views will end up being strengthened. They are then not the only ones who are being treated badly by the world; it is something that is happening to other people.
The people who they associate with may have similar experiences to them, or they could be slightly different. Either way, they are all likely to believe that the world is out to get them and to hold them back in any way that it can.
No matter what takes place or how they feel when something happens, one won’t believe that they are playing a part in the experiences that they have. It will be as though they just end up having these experiences.
Therefore, as they are not playing a part in how they experience life, it is going to be expected that they would be so angry at the world. One will be a victim and the world will be full of perpetrators that want to harm them in any way that they can.
The Only Option
Taking all this into account, one is only going to have two options: either they put up with what is taking place and continue to suffer, or they fight back and try to change the world. The first option is not going to be very rewarding, but the second option can allow them to feel as though they are doing the right thing.
One will be helping to right the wrongs of the world, doing their bit to put an end to the injustice that exists. By taking this option, they can be imbued with a sense of moral superiority.
Black And White
As one is simply observing what is going on and is not having an effect on their life, there is going to be no reason for them to change themselves in any way. After all, it’s not as though one is choosing to experience life in this way.
What will prove this is how angry they feel when they end up being victimised or oppressed by other people. Add to this the fact that they are trying to do what they can to change the world.
However, although they are consciously resisting what is taking place, it doesn’t mean that another part of them is not comfortable with what is going on. Unconsciously, experiencing life in this way could be what feels comfortable.
But, unless they are able to detach from what is taking place in their head, along with what is going on ‘out there’, it won’t be possible for them to realise this. Through only being aware of what is taking place in their head and being unaware of what is going on at a deeper level (their body), it will have set them up to believe that they are not playing a part in how they experience life.
A Strong Attraction
Whenever they feel offended, oppressed, or victimised, it will set them up to have a certain emotional experience, and this is likely to be an emotional experience that feels familiar. The reason it feels familiar can be because this is how they felt throughout their early years.
So, as they already feel this way at a deeper level, they end up attracting circumstances, situations, and events that resonate with how they feel. In addition to this, what is taking place at a deeper level will also cause them to interpret everything that happens to them through a certain lens.
Addicted To Suffering
With this in mind, until one resolves their emotional wounds, they will continue to experience life in this way. One way of looking at this would be to say that the emotional wounds within them have set them up to crave emotional pain.
Suffering emotionally is what will feel comfortable, and, if they don’t suffer, they can end up having withdrawal symptoms. One is then not going to be craving alcohol or drugs, for instance, they will be craving emotional pain.
Nevertheless, by being aware of what is taking place at a deeper level and resolving their emotional wounds, one can begin transform their life. Instead of needing to experience negative thoughts and emotions, they will begin to feel comfortable experiencing positive thoughts and feelings.
If someone can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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