Recently, ‘walk-on girls’ and ‘grid girls’ have received a lot of exposure in the mainstream media. The main reason for this is that these women are no longer going to be able to do these jobs.
While these women, as well as other women, are not happy about this; there are other women who are pleased with what has taken place. Some of the women who are pleased with this are ‘feminists’.
It would then be easy to believe that this is an outcome that all feminists are on a board with. And, as these are supposed to be women who care about women’s rights, they must know what is best for women.
This is not the case, though; as there are a number of feminists who have condemned what has taken place. For these women, what has taken place goes against what they stand for; which is for women to be free to live their own life.
These ‘walk-on girls’ and ‘ring girls’ will have made the decision to work in this kind of industry, yet this is no longer possible. But the reason that this is no longer possible is not because of the so-called ‘patriarchy’; no, it is because of what other women have done.
It could then be said that these feminists are not interested in “liberating” women - this is just an act. What these feminists want is for women to live in a way that is in alignment with their own views about how a woman should live her life.
One then has to wonder what it is that motivates these feminists to do what they do and if they are even aware of their true motives. Someone like this can make out that they care about women and want to make their life better.
Perhaps, if they were to step back and to look into what is taking place within them, they may find that they feel completely powerless. Their need to control how other women live their life is then a way for them to experience control.
Clearly, when so many feminists behave in this manner it is not going to do feminism any favours. Still, it could be said that it was only a matter of time before these feminists turned on the people they were supposed to help.
Men in general have long been a target of these kinds of feminists, so it is to be expected that they would move onto having a go at women. Based on how these feminists behave, it might be a good idea for them to let go of their need to change the world and to deal with their inner world instead.
This is then similar to how someone can gently prod a dog and nothing will happen, but if they go further, the dog will turn around and bite them. In the same way, men have been verbally abused by these feminists for years and nothing has really happened, but as these feminists have gone one step further and started to undermine women, they may find that it becomes harder for them to get away with this kind of behaviour.
If this is what takes place, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to realise why this has taken place. Due to the fact that these kinds of feminists often lack–self awareness, there is a strong chance that they will play the victim.
The Usual Approach
This can then be seen as a sign of how oppressed they are, as opposed to the fact that they played a part in their own downfall. What this scenario has a lot in common with is when a bully provokes someone and, after the days and weeks go by, this person ends up fighting back and beating them up.
Yet, instead of the bully realising why this has happened, they make out that they are the victim. It can then as if this type of feminist is oblivious to when they are victimising others, but is only too aware of when they are being victimised (or think they are being victimised),
This can show that they only able to function in one of two ways; either they are the victim or they are the perpetrator. There is no other way for them to experience life.
And when they are on TV, for instance, it is often a challenge for them to control themselves. Or if they don’t come across as being emotionally out of control, they might come across as though they are dead inside.
When it comes to the former, they are going to find it hard to think rationally and they are likely to look crazy, which will cause some people to believe that all feminists are insane. But it doesn’t end there, as this kind of behaviour is going to have a negative effect on how some men perceive women.
Black and White Thinking
Now, it could be said that very few feminists are like this and not many women are like this either, so it shouldn’t matter what a small minority do. However, one of the main reasons why they will have a negative effect on this movement and women comes down to the amount of exposure they receive.
For example, a man can believe that “women are too emotional”, and after watching one of these feminists on TV, it is going to validate what he believes. His mind is then going to block out examples of when women don’t behave in this manner, yet this is going to be no different to what happens when a feminist believes that all men are bad or rapists, for instance.
If every feminist had the same agenda and was a mentally balanced human being, it might be easier for this movement to create the right impression. What is clear is that it is going to be far better for this movement if the only feminists that are given a platform are the mentally sound ones.
Having feminists on TV, who should probably be working on their own issues and not on trying to change the world, is going to do more harm than good. The trouble is that as they lack self-awareness and are running away from themselves, it can be incredibly difficult for them to get the help that they desperately need – in the same way that an addict is often the last person to believe that they have a problem.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.