After something ‘bad’ has happened, it can be normal for the mainstream media to assess what has happened through the victim/perpetrator lens. One person or a number of people will be victims, whilst another person or a number of people will be perpetrators.
It might not end there, though, as this source could say that the former is inherently a victim and the later is inherently a perpetrator. This will mean that one person has absolutely no control and the other will have complete control.
The Same Message
It won’t stop there either, as different politicians and public figures will also come out with the same viewpoint. In fact, due to how pervasive this outlook is, it could be said that it is part of the very fabric of society.
Therefore, if someone questions this view, they can be seen as being ‘out of touch’ with reality, for instance. There will, of course, be plenty of people who have experiences that back up the view that they are a powerless victim.
The Drama Triangle
Naturally, when someone sees themselves in this way, they are going to need someone ‘out there’ to protect them and to provide them with what they need. They will look like an adult but, through being a victim, they will have about as much control over their life as a child does over theirs.
Fortunately, the government will be there to protect them and to give them what they need. So, in the same way, that a child will feel powerful through identifying with their parents, one will feel powerful through identifying with this entity.
A Strange Scenario
As a result of seeing themselves as a victim, then, someone can indirectly experience a sense of control. Also, thanks to the current climate, they can even see themselves as being morally superior to others.
This is because, as someone like this will be seen as having no control over their life, they will be better than those who harm them. Thus, while they might live a miserable existence, at least they won’t be causing harm.
The Other Part
Along with this, these different sources also spend a lot of time talking about “empowerment”. How ironic, with this being something that is the antithesis of seeing oneself as a victim.
To use an analogy: it’s a bit like telling those who are held captive how free they are. Perhaps the only way that this would work is if these people had become so accustomed to their surroundings that they actually believed that they were free.
A False Version
Clearly, it is not possible for someone to see themselves as a victim and for them to be an empowered human being; it is one or the other. They will have to decide whether they want to be powerless or powerful.
If, then, someone is being encouraged to see themselves as a victim and they are hearing about how important it is to be “empowered”, it shows that something isn’t right. Instead of being truly empowered, they are being encouraged to be empowered via an external source.
Seeing Behind the Curtain
True empowerment is something that someone will source from within and through realising that they are a co-creator of their reality as opposed to a passive observer who is separate from what is taking place externally. They will understand that what they experience is partly the result of what is taking place in their conscious mind and primarily the result of what is taking place in their conscious mind.
When the above is not being spoken about, it would probably be accurate to say that one, along with their fellow human beings, is being manipulated. Through being told that they are inherently a victim, have been separated from their true power and, now, this same source will provide them with a false version of it.
An infantile State
One will be an adult but they will have about as much control as a child; nevertheless, they won’t look towards their parents to experience control, they will look towards the government and other entities. Undoubtedly, this won’t benefit the citizenry but what it will do is make it easier for them to be controlled.
If a government or any other entity actually wanted to truly empower the citizenry, they wouldn’t promote the victim mentality. One doesn’t need to be a psychologist to see that this entity or any other has an ulterior motive, or is stuck at a level of consciousness that is very low, and the main priority is to maintain and grow their influence, not to encourage people to be truly empowered and self-reliant.
The trouble is that although seeing oneself as a victim won’t allow one to have a fulfilling existence, it doesn’t mean that one can just move on from this. Firstly, they, along with their brain, can be so strongly attached to seeing themselves in this way that letting it go can be like trying to give up alcohol or smoking.
Secondly, it can take a while for them to develop the self-awareness that is necessary for them to see how their outer world is mirroring back their inner world. Also, if they have a weak ego structure and are carrying a lot of toxic shame, it can be incredibly difficult for them to take responsibility without falling into a pit of self-loathing, and this is why the defence known as blame is so common.
If it was widely known that human beings have both a conscious and an unconscious mind and that it is what is in their second mind that co-creates most of what they experience, it would be a lot easier for someone to see that they are not inherently a victim. This doesn’t mean that they won’t unconsciously manifest situations and circumstances where they are victimised.
However, manifesting situations and circumstances, where one is victimised, is very different from being a powerless victim. Sometimes, someone can need to really suffer before they “wake up” and embark on the journey of embracing their inherent power.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author of 25 books, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.