If one was to take a step back and to reflect on what has been taking place in the western world for a number of years now, what they may come to conclude is that there appears to be a lot of people that have a highly developed victim mentality. Irrespective of whether they have come across people like this in their everyday life, they will have heard about them in the media and come across them online.
At times, there will have just been one ‘victim’; while at others, there will have been a number of ‘victims’. When someone has this mentality, they are going to have certain traits.
A Closer Look
Firstly, they will just be observers of their life, having no effect and playing no part in what happens to them. Thus, they will be powerless and other people will have total control over them.
Secondly, through having this outlook, they will be full of anger and they can be self-righteous. It can then be normal for them to have a well-developed sense of entitlement, with them simply deserving things.
An Endless Battle
Someone like this is not going to be a warzone, but it will be as though they are fighting the people ‘out there’ that want to keep them down. These people, whoever they are, will be out to get them, and, for their life to change, these people will need to change.
This is not going to be how they are from time to time; it will have become an identity. And, as being this way has become who they are, there is a strong chance that they are unable to recognise that they are this way.
Thanks to how their mind works, and how it is continually looking for that which it believes to be true, they will repeatedly have experiences that validate how they see themselves. What this comes down to is that their external world will mirror back their inner world.
This is why it can be hard for someone like this to wake up and to see that they are being victimised by themselves - self-victimisation. They will be stuck in a prison of their own creation; a prison that they will only be able to get out of if they are able to see how their inner world is affecting their outer world.
An Important Point
If someone is operating out of what could be classed as a ‘victim consciousness’, they could believe that what has been said above is an example of ‘victim-blaming’. As a result of their current mental and emotional development, it will be as though someone can either be blamed for what is going on or they can be seen as a powerless victim.
These are not the only responses that are available, though; as someone can be encouraged to look into what part they are playing in their life without needing to be blamed, or shamed. Ultimately, it is unlikely that someone like this is even aware of the part that they are playing when it comes to how they experience life.
A Very Different Experience
When someone is encouraged to look into how their inner world is affecting the outer world and is not blamed, or shamed, it could be said that this will show that the person asking them has a ‘higher’ consciousness. Through being connected to their heart, they will be able to express empathy and compassion.
If, on the other hand, this part of them was closed and they were stuck in their third chakra (solar plexus) and this part of them was not in a good way, it would be all about power struggles - being controlled (a victim) or controlling others (a perpetrator). This would prevent them from being able to assist someone who has a victim mentality, and they would blame them or see them as nothing more than a powerless victim – neither response is likely to empower them.
An Unconscious Process
The reason that they wouldn’t be aware of the part that they are playing is not just because they see themselves as a victim and are not aware of how their inner world is shaping their outer world, it is also due to the fact that most of what shows up will be coming from their unconscious mind. In other words, it is not just what takes place in their mind that shapes their life; it is also what is taking place at a deeper level.
If they had this understanding, and if they started to deal with their ‘inner baggage’, their life would change. Their resonance would change and this would cause them to be out of sync with the old experiences that were a reflection of a very different frequency.
With that aside, the question is: why do so many people have a victim mentality and who would benefit from them having one? What is clear is that if a large percentage of a population have this mentality, it will be a lot easier to control them
Further, it will lead to a lot of chaos, making it hard for a society to function in a smooth and harmonious manner. Naturally, by feeling powerless, someone will look towards the system to save them and to give them what they believe they are entitled to.
A Gradual Process
The irony here is that the same system that will position itself as being there to save them will be the same system that has played a part in them having a victim mentality to begin with. The education system, the mainstream media and the entertainment industry will have made out that certain people, or a certain group of people, are holding them back – oppressing them.
This will cause someone to experience a lot of resentment and to believe that they are a powerless victim. Ergo, the only way this will be dealt with is by having a big government that that will make everything better.
It would be easy to believe that the education system exists to educate, the media exists to inform and the entertainment industry exists to entertain, and if this was the case, the world would be very different. Each of these industries has their own agenda and it almost certainly isn’t to create world peace and for people to live in harmony with each other and nature.
With this in mind, one of the best things that someone can do to change the world is to let go of their victim mentality (that’s if they have one, of course). Nonetheless, letting go of this mentality is unlikely to happen overnight.
This mentality can be highly addictive - the mind will do everything it can to hold onto it. Phasing it out will take patience and persistence, and external support may be needed.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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