Shortly after the allegations were made about Harvey Weinstein, the “#MeToo" hashatag went viral on social media. This gave people the chance to speak out about the sexual assault and harassment that they had experienced in the workplace.
In The Beginning
It has been said that the original purpose of this hashatag was, “to empower women through empathy, especially the experiences of young and vulnerable brown or black women”, and the person behind this was, Tarana Burke. After this, Alyssa Milano offered her support for this phrase, with her encouraging people to use it if they had experienced sexual harassment and assault.
This was also seen as a way to find out how widespread this is in today’s world. However, as more and more people from all over the world began to use this phrase, its meaning gradually changed.
A Watershed Moment
But with that aside, what is clear is that this hashtag has given so many people a voice, a vice that they clearly haven’t had before. And when someone’s being has been violated by another human being, this is exactly what they need.
Their sense of safety and security will have been shattered, and it is then going to be vital for them to be heard. This can then allow them to feel acknowledged and validated, and something can then be done about what has taken place.
Firstly, there can be what will need to take place in regards to the person or people who caused them harm, and, secondly, there can be the kind of mental and emotional support that someone will need. For example, if someone has been raped, they might need therapy.
And it might not matter if this took place a number of years ago, as their mind and body could still be in a traumatised state. If this is the case, it could be challenge for them to handle their day-to-day life.
Simply positing a hashtag on social media is not necessarily going to do much, and there is also the chance that they feel even more vulnerable through telling others about what happened to them. It will then be essential for them to find a therapist or a healer to work with, someone who understands what they have been through and who can guide them through this process.
What they have been through will have had a big impact on them and carrying on as before is not going to be an option. They didn’t deserve to be treated in this way and they don’t deserve to suffer, either.
A Tainted Movement
The trouble is that as the meaning of this hashtag has changed, it has meant that it is being used willy nilly. So, instead of someone being raped as an adult or sexually abused as a child, for instance, as an adult they might have had their leg touched or had sex that wasn’t very fulfilling.
What this then one does is trivialises the occasions when someone has truly suffered. When something like this happens, the person who uses this hashtag clearly has a different motive to someone who has actually suffered.
It has been Hijacked
If someone has had their leg touched or their shoulder touched, is this really the same as being raped or sexually abused as a child? Or having sex and then regretting it the day after?
This is something that a number of feminists are firmly behind, with this being another way for them to control and demonise all men. These are the women who like to talk about how ‘privileged’ all men are, while completely overlooking their own ‘privilege’
In their eyes, all men are bad and/or rapists and women are oppressed victims, who have absolutely no agency. Based on this, men are adults but women are dependent children who need protecting.
What this then does is stop women from being responsible for their own life and, if this is the case, then men are to blame. Women are then like angels who are incapable of doing anything wrong.
The Death of Due Process
Therefore, if a man is accused of harassment or sexual misconduct, he will be guilty until proven innocent. The fact that a woman has said that this is what has happened will be the only thing that matters.
With one accusation, regardless of whether it is true or not, a man’s reputation and livelihood can be completely destroyed. Would this happen if men had all the power, or if we lived in a ‘patriarchy’ and women were ‘oppressed’?
One Big Illusion
One way of looking at this would be to say that the reason why these feminists have spent so much time feeding into the narrative that men are ‘privilege’, is to hide their own privilege. Then have then accused the opposite gender of what which they are – they are either not aware of this or they are extremely cunning.
They are not interested in facts; they are only interested in pushing their own agenda. The only information and experiences that they are interested in is what backs up what they believe.
Back To Reality
Men are not infallible and, believe it or not, women are the same; not everything that comes out of their mouth is the truth. In the same way that men can be attention seekers, women can also be the same.
Taking this into account, it is clear that it is not a good idea to believe that a man must be guilty if a woman has accused him of doing something wrong. And if this is hard for someone to accept, they only need to think about how crazy it would be to believe everything that came out of a man’s mouth.
It is easy to attack men in today’s world and to tar them all with the same brush, yet all this does is divide men and women. Perhaps the feminists who are behind this have a lot of conflict within them, wanting to make the world in their own image.
They are then not going to be completely satisfied until all men and women are as miserable as they are. Fortunately, a truly empowered woman – a woman who doesn’t perceive herself as a victim - is not going to be interested in any of this
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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