Not a day goes by where hundreds, if not thousands, of people are not offended about something. This is something that can happen after they have watched a video or read something, for instance.
And in addition to being offended themselves, they can also end up being offended on behalf of other people. As a result of this, they are likely to spend a lot of their time on this planet being offended.
This has meant that a number of people have said that being offended has now turned into a competition. It is then not just about being offended; it is about being more offended than anyone else.
Still, when someone behaves in this manner, they are likely to be too caught up in what they are doing to see what is actually going on. Then again, there is also the chance that one won’t have gone this far.
A Full Time Job
Even so, each day they could browse the internet and go on different social media sites to see if anyone has said anything that is offensive. Yet, even if they don’t look for things that are offensive, they might still come across things that have a big effect on them.
Thus, even if they do have others going on in their life, this is still going to take up a lot of their time. One of their main goals could be to do everything they can to put an end up to anything that is offensive.
As far as they are concerned, this could be seen as the right thing to do, and there will be plenty of people who are right behind them. This people will give them the energy that they need to continue to behave in the same way.
They may believe that people should be able to live in a world where they don’t have to be offended. Thinking about other people’s feelings will be seen as an essential part of living in a peaceful and harmonious world.
This is not going to be an outlook that everyone supports, though, and there will be people who believe that someone like this is behaving in a myopic manner. Being able to offend people will be seen as an important part of free speech.
These two things will be seen as being inseparable, which is why it won’t be possible to have one without the other. What will also be put forward is that when someone is offended, it is because of how they have interpreted what has been said.
It is then not that the person who says something is the perpetrator and the person who is offended is the victim. What this emphasises is that what goes on in someone’s head when they hear something will play a big part in how they respond.
However, in order for someone to realise this, they would need to be able to observe what takes place within them just before they feel offended. This would give them the chance to see how they are not a simply bystander in all this.
A Lack of Self-Awareness
The trouble is that if someone has the tendency to be offended, they are likely to be too attached to their own mind to realise what is going on. Instead of realising that they are playing a part, it will be as though other people define if they are offended or not.
But, if they were to take a step back and to take a look at what is taking place within them, they may find that experiencing life in this way allows them to fulfil a number of emotional needs. These needs are likely to be what is driving their behaviour, as opposed to their need to make the world a better place.
A Closer Look
They may find that being offended allows them to receive attention, to feel significant, to feel powerful, and to feel good about themselves. These needs will then have taken over, making it hard for them to see the big picture.
If they were not consumed by their own needs and actually wanted to make the world a better place, they would see how destructive it would be to destroy free speech. This is what gives people the ability to speak out about, which is why the establishment is only too happy for it to go.
The Main Priority
When someone has the tendency to be offended, it will allow them to receive attention and to feel significant without having to actually contribute anything to the world. This will then give them a sense of power, and, by coming across as a virtuous human being, the positive feedback that they receive will allow them to feel good about themselves.
The reason that they are unable to experience these feelings without being offended can be due to what took place during their early years. This may have been a time when they didn’t get what they needed to develop in the right way.
In The Beginning
Perhaps they were abused and/or neglected, and this will be why they have such a strong need for attention. No matter how much attention they receive, it won’t fill the hole that is within them.
Being treated in this way would have caused them to feel worthless, powerless and as though they were not important. They will look like an adult, yet they are likely to be carrying a lot of wounded inner children within them.
The ideal might then be for them to get in touch with these split-off parts and to work through the pain that is within them. This is something that can take place by working with a therapist or a healer.
If they were to do this not only would they be able to grow and develop, their need to control what other people say and do would also start to fall away. So, if they actually want to make a difference in the world, this will be one of the best things that they can do.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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