Before one goes on a date, they can worry about what the other person will think of them, and this can cause them to put on an act. How they come across is then not going to be a reflection of who they are; it will be nothing more than a role they are playing in order to please the other person.
This could be a role that one plays whenever they meet someone for the first time, or they may have a number of different roles that they fall into. It can all depend on what the other person is like.
And when they play a role, they may find that this generally allows them to take things further. As a result of this, there is going to be no reason for them to change their behaviour.
Only So Far
When it comes to taking things further, it could mean that they are able to meet them again. In addition to this, there is also the chance that they are able to end up in a relationship with someone through behaving in this way.
Alternatively, one might look back on the dates they have been on and see that this area of their life rarely goes to plan. Or even if this part seems to go to plan, that could be about as far as it goes.
One could find that even if the first date goes well, they don’t hear from the other person again. Along with this, they might have had a number of occasions when the other person has said that they don’t want to see them again.
What this could show is that these people realised that one didn’t feel comfortable with themselves, and this then put them off. There may have been moments when these people realised this consciously, and moments when they just felt as though something wasn’t right.
It is going to be normal for one to have met people who were not right for them; clearly, one is not going to have a connection with everyone they meet. This is just part of life and not something that can be changed.
When one has been on a date and it has gone further, it could show that the other person was also playing a role. This would then have stopped them from being able to see that one was hiding their true-self.
The Same Position
However, even though one is worried about what someone else will think about them on a date, it doesn’t meant that the other person will be thinking about if they are right for them. What they could also find is that the other person is also worried about if one will accept them.
As a result of this, it is not going to be possible for either of them to be in the present moment. They are both going to be caught up in whether they are behaving in the right way.
When this happens, it is likely to show that they both have a strong desire for the other person to like them. What this can then do is result in them getting together again, and they might even end up in a relationship.
And as time passes, one of them could start to lose interest, and it could then mean that one of them will end up doing more than the other. But while this might allow them to stay together for a little while longer, it could cause them to push the other person away.
A Different Experience
If one is worried about what another person thinks of them, there is also the chance that they won’t even realise this. This could be because the other person is also the same way, but it could also be due to another reason.
What it could show is that they are attractive, and then causes the other person to overlook their behaviour. The other person is then not going to be concerned by what they are like as a person; they will be consumed by their appearance.
And as they are with someone who is attractive, it is likely to have a big effect on how they feel. This can then allow one to get away with things that they wouldn’t be able to get away with if they looked different.
Not only can one feel good, they can also put one on a pedestal, and this is simply due to how they look. This is why it is often said that it is more important for people to develop their personality when they are not attractive.
A Waste of Energy
Therefore, if one is attractive and they were to go on a date with someone, there can be no reason for them to worry about how they come across. It can be as if the other person will be blind to their behaviour.
This can then allow one to save their energy and to see if the other person is right for them. Through doing this, it will be a lot easier for them to have a fulfilling relationship with someone.
Of course, if someone is not fazed by another person’s looks and they want more, it will probably be easier for them to see clearly. It is then going to be a lot easier for them to find someone who is right for them.
What this emphasises is how important it is for one to be able to operate as a whole human being when they meet someone for the first time. When their mind, heart and body work together, it will enable them to function at their best.
If one is unable to be themselves when they meet someone for the first time, they might need to reach out for external support. Through the assistance of a therapist or a healer, for instance, one can begin to feel comfortable in their own skin.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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