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Defence Mechanism: Disssociation

4/11/2010

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Dissociation is the result of trauma we have experienced in our life. And by dissociating from  the intensity of the trauma, we can minimize the suffering caused. 

With these experiences being subjective in nature and usually extremely overwhelming for the individual, they may however seem insignificant and even trivial to other people in the same situation. Once the event is pushed out of the conscious mind and into the unconscious, it is very often forgotten about. This form of selective amnesia can last for years and even as long as a life time in certain instances.

While it may be beneficial in the short time, one of the main consequences of long term dissociation is in losing our ability to function in the world as a whole human being. Although we can repress the experience from our mind, our reality will always show this conflict in one way or another. And due to the pain that is felt after a traumatic event we can go to the extreme of cutting ourselves of from our heart, with it being too painful for us to feel anymore. This can then lead to a whole myriad of personal and societal problems.

Once we lose our own ability to feel it can then create a separation from ourselves and other people, and a consequence of this is in losing our ability to empathise with other people. As if we can't feel our own pain, then it is very difficult to feel another person's pain. This then makes it possible for us to become abusive to other people and also to our environment and often without ever being consciously aware that we are doing so.

Another consequence of cutting ourselves off from our own being is in living a life of extreme extroversion and becoming caught up in the dramas of life. Which is the result of not being able to make the correlation to see that what is going on outside is a reflection of what is going on inside.

A pertinent example of something that can create and prolong dissociation, is the media. By constantly filling our mind with fear, trauma and anxiety, we are further creating disconnection from our heart and from ourselves. So in a way, it could be said that the very act of constantly exposing ourselves to the news has the potential to create harm, as opposed to stopping it. The complete opposite of what the media is supposedly for

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Oliver J R Cooper
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8 Comments
Ben Fisher
24/10/2010 11:11:22 am

we have talked over most of this during work and its really opened my mind to things i would never have thought about so thanks. the fact that you have also managed to put what we talk about into words like that is very clever well done mate.

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Robert Braine
16/12/2010 06:26:43 pm

This made for great reading and was enlightening for me. I think my level of conciousness has been diminished of late due to certain cicumstances but reading this has brought my attention to several painful experiences I have encountered.

Very helpful - thank you.

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Elise link
26/12/2015 02:43:11 pm

Excellent rudimentary writings that take otherwise
complex and comprehensive subject matter and
break it down into understandable, relatable and
useable information!

Your writings are very appreciated and valuable.
Thanks for your contribution of love for others by
sharing.

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Oliver JR Cooper link
26/12/2015 03:29:57 pm

Hello Elisa,

thank you for your feedback.

I'm pleased to hear this article has assisted you.

All the best,

Oliver

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Carmen
9/5/2018 12:24:12 pm

Hello Oliver,

I have discovered your articles recently, they are very accurate and and accesible in explaining the origin of part of our present blockages. I hadn´t heard of how if we are not conscious of earlier problems, they are kept in the unconscious and then, we could abuse others (whether awarely or not) as a consequence of disconnecting from our heart. So it sheds light upon the old pain and helps to see with more clarity, revise, accept and open; it makes me more understanding to other's suffering too, and honour myself as a whole unity with unknown parts still to be seen.
Thanks a lot!

Oliver JR Cooper link
10/6/2018 12:24:19 pm

Hello Carmen,

thank you for your feedback. I really enjoyed reading your comment.

This stood out - "honour myself as a whole unity with unknown parts still to be seen." A wonderful way of looking at this process.


All the best,

Oliver

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Carmen
10/6/2018 11:16:00 pm

Thanks for your reply!

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Oliver JR Cooper link
11/6/2018 03:33:13 pm

Hello Carmen,

If you would like to write a testimonial that I can add to my website, please get in touch via the contact page.

Thank you,

Oliver


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