You may find that when you are around others, you don’t always show up. In fact, this could be something that more or less always takes place when you spend time with others.
This could be how you have been for as long as you can remember. If you have only just started to become aware of this, it could show that something significant happened to you and this caused you to take a step and to reflect.
So, when you are around others, it will mean that you will typically lose touch with your needs and feelings. As a result of this, you will lose touch with yourself and become who other people want you to be – or who you think they want you to be.
The real you will be hidden behind the mask that you wear, which will stop your true-self form being able to see the light of day. Physically, you will show up, but your emotional self won't, causing you to feel disconnected in the process.
Most, if not all, of the people in your life and then not going to spend time with the real you; they will spend time with a version of you that has been heavily watered down. They probably won’t realise this, however, as the version of you that shows up could just be seen as who you are.
When you are by yourself you might experience a sense of relief, with this being a time when you can embrace who you really are. You won’t feel the need to put on an act and it could be as though a weight has been lifted from your shoulders.
Drawing the Line
What is likely is that you have had enough of hiding yourself around others and want to finally reveal who you are. Living in this way is going to be anything but fulfilling, and you may be used to feeling powerless and even depressed.
The first step could be for you to think about when you first started to hide yourself. What you may find is that this was something that first took place during your childhood years.
The Foundations Were Laid
Due to what was taking place during this time, you may have come to believe that it wasn’t safe for you to reveal your true-self. Therefore, in order for you to survive, you had to lose touch with yourself.
Most likely, this would have been something that just happened as opposed to something that you consciously chose to do. The part of you that is concerned with your survival would have seen this as the best way for you to stay alive.
Shining the Light
Now, although this belief may have been an accurate reflection of what was taking place all those years ago, it is no longer accurate. It is just a belief and that means that it is not the truth.
Thanks to this belief, revealing your true-self who you are will be seen as something that would cause you to die. Additionally, you could believe that there is something inherently wrong with your true-self and you could be carrying trauma from this time in your life.
How Can I Serve You?
The key will be for you to bring the limiting beliefs that are holding you back into the light so that they no longer define your life. If you can relate to what I have written and need additional support, one of the ways that I can provide this is through the personalised consultations that I offer via Skype or Zoom.
To find out more, please go to www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/consultations. If you are committed to your own healing, it would be an honour to assist you on your journey.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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