Do You Want To Understand Yourself Or To Simply Feel Better?

If someone is in a position where they experience a fair amount of anxiety or don’t feel good about themselves, they can go one of two ways. Either they can look for a way to change how they feel or they can look into why they experience life in this way and what they can do once they have found out.

When it comes to the first approach, ones main priority will be to change how they experience life. As a result of this, it might not matter how this happens as long as their life changes.

A Miserable Existence

One may have experienced life in this way for a quite some time, and this may mean that they have got to the point where they are no longer willing to tolerate it. If they have anxiety problems, they could end up going on some type of medication.

Going to see their doctor will then have been the first step that they took and this will have been what was recommended. Alternatively, one could end up working with someone who is trained in cognitive behavioural therapy.

A New Life

If they do end up going on medication, it might not be long until they start to settle down and are able to live a ‘normal’ life. They will still be living on the same planet but it could seem as though they are somewhere else.

On the other hand, if they have cognitive behavioural therapy, it also might not be long until they feel relaxed. Their inner world will have changed, which will cause them to experience life differently.  

The Same

If they have gone on medication, they probably won’t have a deeper understanding of why their life was the way it was. And, even if one was told that a ‘chemical imbalance’ was the reason why their life was the way it was, it is unlikely to have increased their self-knowledge.

Yet, if they ended up having cognitive behavioural therapy, it could be said that they will have a deeper understanding of themselves. Nonetheless, this might only go as far as the affect that their thoughts have on them.

A Different Route

When it comes to the second approach, one will want to change how they experience life but it won’t be the only thing that is on their mind. In addition to this, they will want to gain a deeper understanding of themselves.

Now, this could be because they are not in too much pain; then again, it might not be this black and white. They may believe that the only way for them to actually change their life is for them to understand why it is the way that it is.

On The Path

Through being this way, their life is not just going to consist of pleasure and pain – it will also include going to greater depths of their own being and gaining self-knowledge. Consequently, one may believe that what is going on for them is not something that needs to be changed or removed.

Instead, what is taking place could be seen as sign that something inside them is not right and needs to be looked at. Simply focusing on a symptom - or a number of symptoms - is then not going to interest them.

Going Deeper

So if one has an anxiety problem, what they could find is that this is because they have experienced trauma. Their whole being will be in survival mode, with this being the reason why they can’t settle down.

Resolving this trauma most likely won’t be easy or even pain free, but at least they will be able to deal with what is going on at the root and to gain a deeper understanding of themselves in the process. They will be doing what they need to do to reacquaint themself with themself.

Final Thoughts

If one is not in a good way and they want to gain a deeper understanding of why this is, they may need to reach out for the assistance of a therapist or healer. This can be a time when they will take a deeper look into what is taking place.
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Along with this, one can look into what is going on at a deeper level. Thanks to the internet, there is plenty on information available that will allow one to understand themselves better. 

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