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If someone is highly motivated, there is a strong chance that they will be used to receiving a lot of positive feedback from others. They can often be seen as living in the right way and even having high self-esteem.
The reason for this is that in today’s world, being motivated is often seen as a sign that someone is well-adjusted and values themselves. So, through being this way, they will do what they can to achieve their goals. Always On They can practically always be on the go, trying to achieve one thing or another. If they were to ever just sit down and do nothing, they could soon feel agitated and feel the need to move. Through being this way, they might rarely if ever truly relax and if they were to go on holiday, this could still be a time when they will be achieving things. This could take place by them answering emails and taking calls and/or reading and listening to audio books, for instance. Forced Relaxation If they are able to relax, either when they are on holiday or at home, it could be because they have consumed something. So, by drinking alcohol, for example, they could be able to feel at ease. But, below what is taking place at the level of their conscious awareness is likely to be a very different experience. They will then experience one season on one level and a very different season on another. Their Outlook They could believe that life is too short to simply sit around doing nothing and that life is to be lived. What will be clear is that, as far as they are concerned, they will only have two options. They will either be on the go and embracing life, or they will be sitting around and wasting time. Based on how they behave, they are going to have more in common with a robot than a human being. Lop Sided If so, they are going to be a human being in name only; it will be more accurate to describe them as a human doing. They will have mastered the doing element of life but the being element won’t be something that they have really developed. However, due to how focused they are on doing and how much positive feedback they receive, this is unlikely to occur to them. Furthermore, as how they behave is likely to just be what is normal for them and the society that they live in, there will be no reason for what is going on to stand out. On A Treadmill In all likelihood, they won’t have a strong connection with their emotional self and will typically just experience tension. Therefore, even if how they are living is not really fulfilling, they are unlikely to be aware of this. If after they have achieved something, they end up feeling dissatisfied, they could soon be focused on something else. In this case, the feedback inside them, that is there to let them know that they are on the wrong track, will end up being suppressed. One Area By not having a strong connection to their emotional self, their relationships are unlikely to have much depth. The people in their life could be more like associates, with them primarily sharing what they have been doing and have achieved. If they are in a relationship, this could be a very surface-level relationship, with their partner only being with them for what they do, not who they are. Thus, if they were no longer as successful and spent less time doing, their partner might soon pull away. One Step Too Far After living this way for many, many decades, they could gradually lose their motivation to behave in this way. They could find that living in this way is not fulfilling and they could be tired of doing so much. Yet, although this won’t be serving them, they could find that a big part of them still has the need to be a human doing. They are then going to experience a fair amount of inner conflict and until this starts to be resolved, it will be hard for them to change their life. Stepping Back If they were able to mentally detach from what is going on and to look into why they have behaved in this way for so long, what they may soon find is that they have been looking for love. But, as this need will have been outside of their conscious awareness, they won’t have realised this. After this, they could wonder why they have such a strong need to be loved. What could also cross their mind is that even though they have done so much to be loved; they have seldom if ever felt loved. Going Deeper What they want is then typically out of their grasp and, when they have been loved, they might have soon felt uncomfortable. They might then see that they have often pushed away the love that has entered their life. This is likely to show that they missed out on the love that they needed during their early years. In other words, their developmental needs were rarely if ever met, which would have deprived them of the emotional nutrients that they needed to grow and develop in the right way. The Outcome The presence, eye contact, touch and adoration, for instance, that they needed wouldn’t have been provided on a consistent basis. This would have caused them to experience a lot of pain, pain that would have automatically been repressed by their brain and to go into a disconnected and shut down state - a state that would have made it hard for them to receive. Their unmet development needs would have also been repressed and wouldn’t have simply disappeared. The years would then have passed but their unmet developmental need to be loved, along with their adult need, will have been driving their behaviour. Two Levels What this illustrates is how there is what is taking place in their conscious mind and what is taking place in their stronger, more powerful unconscious mind. Without access to this information, it will have just seemed that they were highly motivated and their behaviour will have been supported by society. With access to the information that has been outside of their conscious awareness for so long, they will be able to see why they have been so driven. They will know how powerful unmet developmental needs are, irrespective of if they are or are not aware of them. Awareness If someone can relate to this and they are ready to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided with the assistance of a therapist or healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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