Early Deprivation: Can Someone Believe That They Are Not Enough If They Experienced Early Deprivation?

If someone doesn’t believe that they are enough, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. But, even if this is the case, it is still going to have a big impact on their life.

So, by having this software running, they can more or less always be on the go and trying to achieve something. This might mean that they are seen as someone who is successful or it might not.

Never Ending

But, no matter what they have achieved or what they achieve, they are unlikely to slow them. The reason for this is that irrespective of what they achieve in the external world, it won’t change what is taking place outside of their conscious awareness.

Due to this, they will continue to be unknowingly driven by what is taking place for them at a deeper level. If they were to slow down, they might soon come into contact with some of the inner material that they have been running away from for however long and not be in a good way.

One Area

Now, while they might be doing well when it comes to their career, for instance, this might not be the case when it comes to their love life. They might not have been able to make much progress when it comes to their love life.

They might have been on a number of dates but not gone much further than this. Or, they might have been in a number of relationships but, before long, they might have come to an end.

Very Challenging

If they have been in a number of relationships that have not lasted for very long, the other person might have always ended the relationship. Each time that this took place, they might have felt very low and even depressed.

When they were in a relationship, they might have typically focused on the other person's needs and done what they could to please them. They would then have given a lot and, most likely, received very little in return.

The Next Stage

After a relationship came to an end, they might have come to the conclusion that they were missing something. For example, they might have believed that they were not as desirable as they needed to be and/or needed more money.

But, if they did end up working on their appearance and/or earned more money, this is unlikely to have had much of an impact. Additionally, putting in all this extra effort and not making any progress may have caused them to feel helpless and helpless.

Steeping Back

What can cause them to step back and reflect on their life is a painful breakup. After realising that what they are doing is not allowing them to experience what they desire, they can wonder why their life is this way.

What can end up standing out is that they don’t believe that they are enough, and this is why it doesn’t matter what they do and why they are unable to sustain a relationship. If they were to talk to a friend about what is going on for them, they could be told that what they believe is not true and that they are enough.

Going Deeper

The truth is that they are enough, so why don’t they know this at the core of their being? What this can show is that their early years were a time when they missed out on the love that they needed to grow and develop in the right way.

Throughout this stage of their life, they might have often been rejected and left by their mother and perhaps their father. This could show that one of both of their parents was emotionally unavailable and unable to love them.

A Natural Outcome

Being treated in this way would have greatly deprived and deeply wounded them. To handle what was going on, their brain would have repressed the pain they were in and a number of their developmental needs.  

The other part of this is that as they were egocentric, they would have come to believe that the reason they were treated in this way was because they were not enough and were worthless and unlovable. In reality, how they were treated had nothing to do with them and everything to do with what was going on for their mother and perhaps their father.

It’s over

What took place will be in the past, but, thanks to what they believe and the pain and unmet developmental needs that they are carrying, they will be unconsciously re-creating this early experience. An experience where they can’t accept that they are enough and some if not all of what they desire is out of their reach.

For them to gradually put this stage of their life behind them, they are going to have beliefs to question, pain to face and work through and unmet development needs to experience. This will take courage, patience and persistence.

Awareness

If someone can relate to this and they are ready to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided with the assistance of a therapist or healer.

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