It is not uncommon for people to have emotional problems in today’s world, and if someone doesn’t have them, then there is the chance that they have had them in the past. Therefore, if one doesn’t have them and they haven’t had them in the past, they could be seen as the exception.
But regardless of this, it is clear to see that this is not something that can be overlooked. When one has emotional problems, they can suffer just as much as someone who has a physical problem.
In fact, it could be said that in some cases, this is something that will have an even greater effect on their wellbeing. For example, when one has a physical problem, it can still be possible for them to carry with the rest of their life.
Whereas when it comes to an emotional problem, this is something that can affect every part of their life. As a result of this, it is going to stop them from being able to embrace life, and each day is going to be a challenge.
But while this can be the case, it can be a lot easier to see when someone has a physical problem. Yet when it comes to an emotional problem, what they are going through can be hidden, and the people around them can be oblivious to what they are going through.
One can then end up suffering in silence, and they could end up feeling even worse as time goes by. As if other people don’t notice what they are going through, one could decide to keep it to themselves.
This is less likely to happen if one had a physical problem, and this is because they are unlikely to be ashamed about it. Having a physical problem is generally seen as normal, but having an emotional problem is not always seen in the same way.
There is then no need for one to hide what is wrong with their body, and this can then allow them to get the right assistance. On the other hand, when it comes to their mind and emotional body, it can be normal for them to hide what they are going through.
Based on this, it could be said that in order for one to change their life (when they have emotional problems), it will be important for them to focus on their own wellbeing. In the short-term they might look bad and feel even worse, but this will be worth it the long-term.
The sooner they do something about how they feel the sooner their life will begin to change. Ultimately, their emotional health is important, and they owe it to themselves to do what they can to change their life.
The First Step
If one has suffered emotionally for quiet some time, they might just want to feel better and not care about how this happens. This can be an outlook that one could have even if they have just started to suffer.
Having said that, one could be in a position where they want to know why they feel the way they do. Their need to heal themselves will then be backed up by their need to understand themselves.
When it comes to what is taking place within them, it could be one thing that is having a negative effect on their life, or it could relate to a number of things. One could feel depressed and/or they could suffer from anxiety.
They might feel good one moment and then down in the next, and this would show that they have trouble maintaining their own value. During the moments when they are down, they could end up wanting their life to end.
A Closer Look
Nevertheless, if one was to look into why they feel this way, they could come across a number of different factors. What they are going through could be attributed to having a chemical imbalance, for instance.
Their genetics could also be put forward as the reason why they are experiencing life in this way. Along with this, they could hear about how what took place during their early years will have played a part.
And as what takes place during the beginning of someone’s life has a big effect on what they will be like as an adult, this is not going to be a surprise. What would be a surprise is if one heard that it doesn’t matter what their childhood was like.
Through hearing about this, one could take the time to reflect on their early years. However, even if one was to come to the conclusion that they weren’t abused and/or neglected, it doesn’t mean that something destructive didn’t occur.
What this could mean is that one is simply out of touch with what took place, and this will be a way for them to protect themselves. Therefore, if they were to take a closer look, it could cause them to be overwhelmed.
If one wasn’t abused and/or neglected as a child, there could have been a time when they experienced trauma. A one-off event (or a number of events), could then have set them up to suffer as an adult.
On the other hand, if one was abused and/or neglected as a child, then what is taking place for them as an adult is going to be an effect of what they went through as a child. If one was abused, it would have caused them to experience toxic shame, and it would then be a challenge for them to feel good about themselves.
This would then cause them to feel depressed, and through having these experiences, it would be normal of them to be on edge in life. If they were also neglected, it would mean that there was rarely anyone around to regulate their emotions, and so this would stop them from being able to regulate their emotions as an adult and they could carry a lot of rage
These are just a few examples of what can take place, and there are a plenty of other consequences that can occur as a result of what took place to them as a child. If one can relate to these experience and they want to move forward, it might be necessary for them to work with a therapist.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author of 26 books, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.