One person could hear something and respond in one way, and another person could hear the same thing and respond in a completely different manner. Consequently, this is going to show that they have interpreted it differently.
After hearing something, one person could soon find that their attention is drawn to something else. What this means is that it wont have had much of an effect on them, and this is then why they have moved on.
It might only be a matter of time before they do come across something that has a big effect on them, or this could be something that rarely takes place. If this is the case, it is not going to be a challenge for them to experience inner peace.
On the other hand, one might not be able to move on to something else; they could end up being consumed by how they feel. What they have heard will then have had a big effect on them.
This could be something that doesn’t happen very often, or it may take place on a regular basis. When this does happen a lot, one may find that they hardly ever experience inner peace.
Yet, while each person is interpreting what they hear differently, it doesn’t mean that both of them will realise this. If one is rarely affected by what they hear, they may be only too aware of the part that they play.
They could have a clear understanding of the fact that their own mind plays a big part in whether something has negative effect on them. This is going to stop them from believing that other people control how they feel.
And if they do experience a strong emotional reaction to something, they will be able to think about why this is. Their thinking brain is going to be working with their emotional brain, and this is why they are able to act like a whole human being.
In addition to the effect this has on how they respond to what they hear; there will also be the effect it has on how they respond to what happens in their life. So, as they generally don’t react, it will be a lot easier for them to make good decisions.
Something ‘bad’ could happen and one could experience an emotional reaction, but they will have the ability to take a step back and to reflect. Through doing this, it can enable them to make the right decision.
What has happened is not going to define them; it will just be another moment in their life. After a little while, one could soon be back on their feet, and this will show how resilient they are.
When it comes to the time that they spend with their friends and family, for instance, one may find that they hardly ever experience drama. If someone says something to them that presses their buttons, so to speak, they will be able to look into why this is.
This is going to stop one from having the tendency to lose their temper or having a go at them for no reason. Thus, the people around them will be able to relax; they won’t need to walk on eggshells.
If one spends a lot of time being affected by what people say, they might not be able to see the part that they are playing. One can then believe that other people are in control of how they feel.
Their ability to think clearly is then going to be offline and their emotional brain will be in the driver’s seat. This is going to stop them from being able to take a step back and to reflect on what takes place.
When something ‘bad’ happens to them, it is likely to have a big effect on how they feel. But even if they were to experience something fairly minor, it could still end up being perceived as something that is far worse than it actually is.
The smallest thing is then going to knock them down, and it will be a challenge for them to overcome things. One way of looking at this would be to say that one makes a mountain out of a mole hill.
All at Sea
If one was to look back on their life they might find it hard to find a time when they felt at peace. It might seem as though they have had one challenge after another, and this is likely to take its toll on their health.
When it comes to their relationships, this is going to be another area of their life that takes a lot out of them. The people in their life could find that it is incredibly draining to be around them at times, and one may have pushed a number of people away over the years.
What is clear here is that one is unable to regulate what is taking place within them, and this causes them to experience life in this way. And when one is unable to do this, it can be a sign that they are carrying trauma.
This could relate to what has happened during their adult life and/or it could go back to what took place when they were younger. This may have been a time when they were abused and/or neglected.
If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, it might be necessary for them to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by a therapist or a healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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