Emotionally Stuck: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Stuck?

If a being from another planet was to look at a human being, it might seem as though they are only made up of one part: a physical body. However, if they were able to look through their physical body, they would soon see that they also have what could be described as a mental and emotional body.

What they might also see is that not all of these ‘body’s’ are at the same level of development. So while someone’s physical body could be very developed, their mental and emotional body could be undeveloped.

Another Experience

Conversely, they could see that although someone’s physical and mental body is developed, their emotional body isn’t developed. Then again, they might see that someone’s physical body isn’t very developed, but their mental and emotional body is.

Considering the fact that appearances are often seen as important and the mental body is predominately the point of focus in today’s world, it is not going to be a surprise if someone hasn’t neglected these two areas of their being. What this will mean is that their emotional body will have been neglected.

Different Ages

Through working on these two areas, it could mean that their physical body doesn’t match up with their chronological age and neither does their mental body. If a number of tests were conducted, one may find out that their body is actually a lot younger than it really is.

As for their mental body, this part of them could easily belong to someone who has been on the planet for a lot longer, due to how well developed it is. But, when it comes to their emotional body, they could have more in common with a small child.

To Be Expected

Nonetheless, if they live in a society that generally ignores this part of their being, why would they be any different? Most likely, they went through an education system that didn’t touch upon this area and, once they went into the big wide world, it is unlikely that they were encouraged to develop this part to them.

While emotional training or education is not a big part of today’s society, this doesn’t mean that there are not plenty of options available that will enable someone to avoid them. There are so many distractions available that can allow one to keep how they feel at bay.

Two Outcomes

If someone is emotionally undeveloped or stunted, regardless of whether or not their physical and mental body is developed, it can mean that they can experience life in one of two ways. They can be emotionally shut down or they can come across as highly emotional and reactive.

When it comes to the former, it can be as though they lack an emotional body altogether. On the other hand, when it comes to the latter, it can be as though they only have an emotional body and are missing a mental body.

Two Sides of the Same Coin

It is not uncommon for someone who is emotionally shut down to end up with someone who is highly emotional. But while each person will have a similar level of emotional development, the person who is shut down could see themselves as being more evolved.

Through believing that they have their emotions under control and the fact that they will live in a society that encourages emotional repression, they will have just happened ended up with someone like this. Their ego-mind – the part of them that allows them to have their own experience on this earth and is there to keep them alive - will create the illusion of being separate from what is going on ‘out there; when in reality, what is going on ‘out there’ will be mirroring back what is taking place inside them.

The Cause

Irrespective of whether someone is emotionally shut down or not, if their emotional body is undeveloped; it is likely to mean that this part of them stopped growing at a certain stage of their life. The reason this part of them stopped growing is likely to be the result of trauma.

One experience or a number of experiences, probably during their early years, would have caused their whole system to be overwhelmed, which would have stopped them from being able to move on from the stage of development that they were going through. When it comes to whether or not they completely shut down at this point or still maintained a connection to their emotional body can depend on a number of different factors.

Deep Pain

After this, the years would have gone by but one’s emotional body would have stayed stuck at this level of development and the pain that they experienced would have also stayed in their body. Their emotional body can carry layers and layers of the following feelings: powerlessness, helplessness, hopelessness, rage, loss, rejection and abandonment.

Unlike their mental body, where they will just be able to change their thoughts and to let them go, it won’t always be possible for them to just change how they feel and let their feelings go. What this comes down to is that while one’s thoughts can create how they feel, their mental body can also trigger feelings that are held in their emotional body.

Awareness

If one can relate to this, and they are ready to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer. 

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