Empowerment: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Comfortable With Feeling Powerless?17/10/2018
When someone is an empowered human being, they will know that they do have an effect on their life. In each moment of their life they will have the ability to decide how they will behave, and they will be able to decide the meaning that they give to what takes place.
One is then going to see that even if they can’t change something, they can still control the impact it has on them. Thus, the control that they lack externally will be made up by the control that they have internally. Moving On If there is an area of their life that is not going as they would like it to go, they will have two options. Either they can do something about it or they can simply let go of what is taking place and move on. What this comes down to is that being able to walk away from something that isn’t working is a big part of being empowered. Staying in a situation that is having a negative effect on their wellbeing is not going to appeal to them. The Sensible Approach This comes down to the fact that they won’t have complete power over their life, which is why they will have to cut their losses at times. Staying in a situation that causes them to feel as though they are powerless is not going to appeal to them. What will appeal to them is letting go and to embracing something that will allow them to feel empowered. If they feel angry or frustrated, for instance, they will see that they are off-track and need to get back on track. One Direction As a result of this, there is a strong chance that their life will going in the right direction. When it comes to their relationships, they could have a number of people in their life who respect, value and appreciate them. Their career could be another area that is very fulfilling, with them being seen as successful by others. At the same time, this might be an area of their life that is just starting to take off. An Unexpected Outcome If something doesn’t go to plan, and they end up experiencing a setback, they might feel down for a little while, but there will be no need for them to drown in self-pity. This will give them the ability to reflect on what has happened and then to pick themselves back up. Ultimately, fulfilling their needs and feeling good is going to be what interests them, not overlooking their needs and feeling bad. Perhaps this is how they have been for as long as they can remember, or maybe they haven’t been this way for very long. A Different Scenario There are then going to be others that have a very different experience on this planet, and this is likely to mean that they live a very bleak existence. It can be as if they have absolutely no effect on their life. Ergo, regardless of what they do, their life is not going to get any better. In fact, they may find that when they have taken action their life has ended up getting even worse, not better. A Common Experience What is going on around them is then not going to be good and what is going on within them is not going to be any better. They can spend a lot of time feeling powerless, hopeless, and helpless. It might be as though something is holding them back in life, or that someone is trying to stop them from moving forward. There could also be times when they feel angry and full of rage. Two Levels Consciously, one is going to be resisting what is taking place, and it is clear that they would be only too happy to experience life differently. They may have even read a number of self-development books on how to be empowered, creating the impression that they want to change their life. Unconsciously, however, feeling powerless could be what feels comfortable, and this is then why they haven’t been able to change their life. The trouble is that until one is able detach from how they experience life and to connect to what is taking place at a deeper level, they will continue to see themselves as a victim. What’s going on? What this can illustrate is that their early years were a time when they had the tendency to feel powerless. Perhaps this was a time in their life when they were abused and/or neglected. Feeling this way wouldn’t have felt comfortable, but it would have ended up becoming what was familiar to their ego mind. To this part of them, what is familiar is classed as what is safe. Inner Conflict The years would then have passed and one would have gradually lost touch with how they felt during this time in their life. Yet, even though one would have lost touch with what happened, what took place all those years ago is still defining their life. Not only will feeling this way feel safe to their ego mind, this part of them will also have formed an identity around feeling this way. What this exemplifies is how important self-awareness is when it comes to being empowered. Awareness If someone can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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