If a teacher one was to come across a group of students and they were to ask them what they wanted to be when they are older, there is the chance that a number of them would have the same answer. It could be said that this is to be expected, and this is because they are at an age where they are still finding themselves, so to speak.
As a result of this, it can be a time where they are more likely to be influenced by the people around them. Their need to fit in can stop them from taking the time to think about what it is that they actually want to do.
During this time, a number of them may say that they want to be famous when they are older. Upon hearing this, one could wonder why this is seen as the ideal; especially as it is usually something that someone achieves through doing something else.
For instance, if one wanted to be a singer, actor, presenter or a sports star, there is the chance that they would end up being famous. Yet even if this is was to occur, it would be something that is simply a by-product of what they do.
The Other Way Around
So while there could be people who want to do things that might lead to fame; there are going to be others who are want do something because there is the chance that it might lead to fame. Therefore, they might not care about what it is they do as long as they end up being famous.
The fact that they are willing to overlook a fulfilling career in order of be famous will show how important this is for them. But if they were to mention this to the students who want to be famous, they may tell them that this is something that will fulfil them.
And what this shows is how much the world has changed, and how being famous is often seen as something that will lead to fulfilling life. Along with this, it is no longer seen as something that one can attain through achieving something else; it is seen as something they can attain without having to achieve anything.
The reason so many people have this outlook is because there are so many people who are famous in today’s world that haven’t really achieved anything. And while some people will look at these kinds of people and wonder why they are in the public eye; there will be others who will have a different outlook.
Even though the people who have a different outlook can still be a school; they could also be in a position where they have left school a number of years ago. What this shows is that being famous is something that will appeal to people of all ages.
So when one has a different outlook, they can look at the people who are in the public eye for no apparent reason and feel inspired. For if they can do it, then there is going to be no reason why one can’t also do it.
Half and Half
This is not to say they will always feels good when they see someone like this is in the public eye, as it there could also be moments where they experience resentment. During these moments, they may wonder why they are not the ones who are famous.
They could look at someone who is famous and ask themselves why they are where they are and they might believe that they have more to offer. This would then be a sign that one is comparing themselves with the other person, and while this is going to have a negative effect on how they feel; it might provide them with even more motivation.
A Closer Look
When someone wants to be famous, it is often said that this is because they feel ignored in life. They are living a life where they don’t feel acknowledged and through being famous, they believe that they will finally get the attention and appreciation that they deserve.
In this sense, one will be going from one extreme to the other, and it is then clear to see why they would want to be famous. Through experiencing life in this way, they can believe that their life will be perfect.
Why Is This?
If one feels ignored in life and they believe that the only way this is going to change is through being famous, it could be a sign that they are in a lot of pain. This could then mean that they have experienced life in this way for most of their life.
Whereas if this was something that took place from time to time; they might not feel the need to be famous. And this is because it is part of the human experience for one to have moments where they are ignored.
There is the chance that their childhood years were a time where they were abused and/neglected in some way, and this would have then caused them to feel as though they are invisible. Their developmental needs would not have been met and this would have caused them to experience a lot of pain.
This pain can then give them the fuel they need to become famous, and through being famous, one may believe that they will finally get what they missed out on during their childhood. However, although what took place during their childhood years is likely to play a part, it is not the only factor.
What can also play a part is the society that one lives in, as although one can be surrounded by people, it doesn’t mean that they won’t feel ignored. For example, it can be normal for one to go out without being acknowledged by anyone.
On one hand, this can because the people who work in certain places don’t bother to give them eye contact, and on the other hand, it can be because the people who are around them are too caught up with their Smartphone’s. There is also the chance that they live in a society that is full of ‘individuals’ and this can mean that a sense of community no longer exists.
But not only can one feel like just another number, they can also be in a position where they no longer have the support of their family. Their parents may have split up, for instance and their family could also be scattered all over the place.
So the kind of support and acknowledgment that the family unit would have provided in the past is then no longer there. It could then be said that through being famous, one may believe that they will be able to create a community where they will get the support that they are not getting in their day-to-day life.
If one is in a position where they feel ignored, it will be important for them to look into why this is. While they may believe that being famous will give them what they need; there is a strong chance that it won’t, and it might end up creating even more problems.
On one hand, they might have a lot of emotional pain to process if they were abused and/or neglected during their younger years, and on the other hand, they might need to develop fulfilling relationships with others. Through doing this, the people they are close to will provide them with the acknowledgment that they need.
This pain can be processed with the assistance of a therapist and/or a support group.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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