In today’s world it is highly unlikely that one will have trouble finding something to focus on. No matter where they look or where they, there is going to be something to place their attention on. And at times this will mean that their time and energy is being used wisely and at other times, it won’t.
If this is something that takes place now and then, it probably won’t have much of an impact on one’s life. We all need to be distracted from time to time and to engage in some kind of escapism. And yet, if this was to become a way of life, then it is going to cause one to waste a lot of time and energy.
So instead of one being able to move forward and to progress, they are going to end up staying where they are or they might even end up going backwards.
If one is in a position where they are around people who can remind them of what matters, then one will be able to get back on track before their life gets out of hand. And when this support is not there, one is not going to have anyone around to remind them of what matters and their life could then spiral out of control.
The senses are easily engaged and this means that one will have to exercise their self control. This is why it will be important for someone to get in touch with truly matters and to keep this in mind if they ever allow themselves to be distracted.
Point Of Power
Once one is aware of what matters, they can do what they need to do in order to make it a reality; this is going to include short term as well as long term plans. However, ones point of power is over their own actions and not over other people’s actions.
Of course, one can influence others and other people will play a part in one being able to fulfil their own needs and wants. But at the same time, other people have their own free will and the right to do what they choose.
Point Of Focus
So all the time one’s point of focus is on what they can do, they are in a place of power and are able to make the changes they need to move forward. And yet, when one places their point of focus on external sources that they have no control over, they are no longer in a place of power or able to make the changes they need to make.
It is often said that while one can’t control what happens, they can’t control how they respond to what happens. And this shows how important it is for one to focus on what they can control and not on what they can’t control.
A Different Perspective
When one is purely focused on what they can’t control or change, not only is it going to waste their time and energy, it is also going to cause them to have a disempowering perspective. One can end up believing that they have no control over their life and that other people have all the control.
Not only is this perspective disempowering, it is also inaccurate. Even though one does have control over their life, they will only realise this is they let go of their need to control the uncontrollable or to change the unchangeable.
And if one is caught up in what is going on ‘out there’, this way of seeing life might be normal. There is then the chance that one hasn’t even thought about how different their life could be and how much more control they could have if only they changed their outlook and point of focus.
To change this could cause one to feel uncomfortable and this is because it has become familiar. But while it may be familiar, it is having a detrimental effect on one’s life. And so even though it may feel uncomfortable in the beginning, the tension will soon subside.
A New Way
Through focusing on what one can control and change, when something doesn’t go to plan or one comes up against some kind of obstacle, one will no longer need to feel powerless and that there is nothing they can do. Their focus and therefore their time and energy, will enable them to move forward.
If one finds it hard to focus, it might be necessary for them to seek the assistance of a friend or some kind of coach. With their assistance, one can bring their attention back to what matters.
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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