While there are going to be times when one will come across people who have a similar outlook to them, they are also going to be times when they don’t. When this happens, they could find that someone will have a completely different way of looking at something.
Part of Life
It could be said that this just how life is and that it is not going to be possible for everyone to have the same outlook in life. If they did, the world just wouldn’t be the same, and it would be rather boring.
Even so, this doesn’t mean that everyone will agree with this, and they could believe that the world would be a far better place. But regardless of this, they are not going to be able change how the world is.
There are going to be plenty of people how realise that not everyone is going to see the world in the same way they do. This could be something they are only too happy to accept, and it could even be seen as a good thing.
One could believe that they will be able to expand their mind through talking to people who see the world differently. There are naturally going to be moments when they won’t be willing to change their mind, but there could also be moments when they will.
And, while one can change their outlook through talking to someone who sees life differently, they could also end up having an effect on the other person. Therefore, through talking about their views, it will have an effect on both of them.
Or, if one doesn’t change their outlook, it could give them a better understanding of why someone believes something. When this happens, it will show that they have the ability to put themselves in another person’s shoes, so to speak.
On one side then, one will have the ability to empathise with others, and on the other, they will also have a certain level of curiosity. Together, these two parts will allow them to enter another person’s world.
One will put their outlook to one side for a short time and to experience how another person sees the world. It could be said that if one didn’t have the ability to do this, they wouldn’t be interested in doing something like this.
The Only Way
One could then believe that how they view the world is the only way it should be viewed, and if someone doesn’t agree with them, they are going to be in the wrong. Through being this way, there is going to be no reason for them to be curious and to put themselves in another person’s shoes.
This could cause them to label the people who see life differently as being wrong, and as though they are the only ones need to change. Now, there are going to be times when what someone believes is wrong, but one can believe that this is always the case.
If one does have the ability to listen to people who see the world differently, it is likely to show that they are generally not ruled by their emotions. This is what is going to allow them to listen and to inquire, as opposed to getting out of control and letting their emotions get the better of them.
Clearly, if one was to hear something that they disagreed with, they could experience an inner reaction. Yet even though this could take place, this part of them is not going to override their mind.
What this will then do is give them the chance to listen and to ask someone why they believe something. As long as the other person also has this ability, a discussion will take place, and they will both be able to respect each other.
And if they don’t agree with each other at the end, there will be no reason for one of them to harm the other. One could end up feeling annoyed or wonder why the other person won’t see life differently, but that could be as far as it goes.
However, if someone is generally ruled by their emotions, it is going to mean that their mind is not going to have a big part to play in moments like this. Not only could they get angry if someone has a different outlook, they could end up causing harm.
When this happens, they could believe that what someone else has said has caused them to feel as they do. It is then not that they are in control of how they feel, it is that other people are in control of what takes place within them.
Through having this outlook, it is going to be natural for them to want to do something about what is taking place externally. As if they are not responsible for how they feel what else are they going to do?
Their behaviour is then going to be justified, and the only way for them to no longer harm others will be for these people to change their behaviour. And even though they are harming others, they could believe that they are doing the right thing.
A Closer Look
If one was able to take a step back and to look at what is taking place within them, they may start to see that the only reason they behave in this way is because they don’t have self-control. As a result of this, it is normal for them to believe that the external world always defines how they feel.
And, as they don’t have self-control, the only way of them to experience control will be to control what is taking place around them. If one had the ability to experience self-control and to regulate what is taking place within them, there would be no reason for them to harm other people for what they believe.
When one doesn’t have the ability to do this, it can be due to what they experienced during their early years. Perhaps this was a time when they were abused in some way and/or neglected.
These experiences may have stopped their brain from developing in the right way, and this is then why they behave as they do. From the outside, they can look like another human being, but that doesn’t mean that their brain is functioning as it should.
The ideal would then be for them to reach out for the right support so that they no longer harm other people. But if someone is behaving in this way and they lack self-awareness, this is unlikely to take place.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author of 26 books, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.