If someone wants answers and ends up reaching out for support, it will show that they want to find a way to move past the challenges in their life. This could show that they have mental and emotional challenges, along with relationships that are not going as they would like them to go.
Perhaps their life has been this way for a number of months or years, or it may have been this way for as long as they can remember. Still, regardless of how long it has been this way for, they won’t want it to stay this way for much longer.
An Abundance of Information
Fortunately, it won’t be hard for them to find information that will assist them on their healing journey. As, unlike in the past, it won’t be necessary for them to go to their local book store.
Through having access to the internet, one will have thousands of articles, videos and books at their fingertips. Furthermore, if they need more assistance and want to work with someone, they will find plenty of therapists, healers and coaches, for instance, online.
A Time of Confusion
One thing that one could find, however, is that they don’t know what approach to go for or what route to take. This is something that has been classed as the paradox of choice, where too much choice can lead to anxiety and confusion.
Anyway, the main thing will be for one to go with something so that they can get the ball moving. One way of looking at this would be to say that it will be like eating at a buffet; one won’t know what anything is like but this understanding will come after they try the different options that are on offer.
They are likely to find there is a lot of information that goes into the importance of having the right thoughts and how their thoughts define how they feel. As a result of this, one could soon believe that they need to control their thoughts if they are to feel good about themselves and their life in general.
Monitoring their mind and thinking the right thoughts is then going to be vital. After trying this approach for a little while, they could find that their life gradually changes for the better.
Then again, this approach might only work for a little while or it might not work at all. At this point, one could believe that they are doing something wrong and that if they keep going, their life will change.
If they keep going with this approach there is the chance that their life will actually change or it could show that they need to do something else entirely. One reason why focusing on what is going on up top (their thoughts) is not dealing with how what is going on down below (their feelings) is because they are carrying trauma.
Part of the Picture
In this case, the thoughts and the feelings that they experience, along with the issues that this causes them in their relationships and other areas of their life, are coming from a moment, or moments, in their life when they felt overwhelmed and were unable to integrate what took place. This trauma is then the root of the tree and everything else could be seen as the branches that come off of it.
It is then only natural that dealing with the effects of this trauma, or traumas, will just lead to a short-term solution or set one up to become emotionally disconnected. Taking this into account, it will be essential for them to find a way to resolve this trauma.
The Next Level
After they have come to see what it is that they need to move forward, they could end up finding something or someone that can assist them. In a matter of weeks or months, they might be able to make a lot of progress.
They could be amazed by how different they are, finding it hard to connect how they used to be. Alternatively, they could end up feeling better and soon end up reverting to how they were before.
Now, there is what they do and that has an effect on what they experience, and, there is what they believe that they deserve and that also have an effect on what they experience. Therefore, if one finds that they keeping hitting a brick wall on their healing journey, it could show that they don’t believe that they deserve to experience life differently.
What they believe about themselves will have an effect on what information/support that they come into contact with and how far they go. Along with the belief above, they could believe that they don’t deserve to be happy.
A Number of Reasons
Experiencing life differently and being happy could be seen as something that would cause them to be rejected and abandoned and/or harmed. At the bottom of this can be the belief that there is something inherently wrong with them.
How they have been experiencing life won’t have served them but, deep down, it will be seen as the only way for them to survive. When it comes to what they believe, these beliefs are likely to be the result of what took place during their early years.
If one can relate to this, and they are ready to change their life, it will be imperative for them to look into what they believe and to question the beliefs that are holding them back. The truth is that they are not worthless and they deserve to be happy.
And as they bring these erroneous beliefs up to the light and question them, it will allow them to change their life. The key will be for them to trust in their healing journey and to know that they will find what they need, when they need it.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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