If someone is finding it hard to handle life or a certain area of their life is a challenge, they can have a strong need for another person to come and make it better. They could spend a fair amount of time thinking about what their life would be like if this was to take place.
When this happens, they can feel greatly relieved and happy that what they were going through has come to end. It will be as though they have gone from one reality to another.
It’s Too Much
With that aside, however, what is going on in their life will be seen as being too much for them to handle. If this wasn’t the case, they wouldn’t have the need for another person to arrive and make everything better.
When it comes to how they feel then, they could typically feel hopeless and helpless and as though they have very little control over their life. They won’t be in a very deep hole that they can’t get out of but it will be as though they are.
Due to how they experience life, it is not going to be much of a surprise that they will be looking for another person to make it better. Other than this, they will believe that they will just have to tolerate what is going on.
Another person could then judge them and say that no one is going to come and save them but this is unlikely to have much of an impact on them. Ultimately, if they thought that they could save themselves, they would.
The Ideal Outcome
Now, if another person was to appear and made their life better, it could be as if they have experienced a miracle. What they have wanted for so long will have happened and now they will finally be able to live a life that is worth living.
They will no longer be in a deep hole or have a heavy weight on their shoulders; they will have been liberated. But, as time passes, another challenge is likely to arise and once again, they will need to be saved.
A Temporary Solution
What this illustrates is that even if they are saved, this won’t mean that they will be fine for the rest of their life. Challenges are part of life and the only way they would be fine is if they were continually saved.
So, they would continue to be dependent on another person to change their life and they themselves wouldn’t change. In other words, they wouldn’t truly grow and develop; they would be standing still in many ways.
Yet, as they feel hopeless and helpless and unable to change their life, this is not going to enter their mind. Being saved will be seen as their only option, not as something that would undermine their own development.
Nonetheless, the truth is that they are not hopeless or helpless and they do have what it takes to change their life. This is not to say that they have to do this all by themselves and not be supported by another or others.
One step at a time
With this in mind, if they were to continually be saved by another and didn’t play their part, along with the support of others, they wouldn’t develop their own strength. Without realising it, experiencing life in this way would keep them in a disempowered state.
The fact that no one is there to save them - assuming that no one is - will then be a blessing in disguise. What will be essential is for them to gradually reconnect to their inner power as this is what will take away their need to be saved.
When it comes to why they wouldn’t be connected to their power, it is likely to be due to one or a number of traumas that they have experienced. This can relate to trauma that they have experienced as an adult, when they were a child, during their developmental years, their birth and when they were in their mother’s womb.
In order for them to deal with this trauma, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided with the assistance of a therapist or healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author of 26 books, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.