Although one can have the desire to achieve something, it doesn’t mean that they are able to take the first step. Or if they do, they might not be able to keep going, and this is going to mean that they will only get so far.
Now, if this only related to one area of their life it might not cause too many problems; whereas if this related to just about every area, this is not going to be the case. At the same this, it could still have a big effect on their life even if it does relate to one area.
What this emphasises is that although there are different area of one’s life; they don’t exist in a vacuum. Thus, if one area of their life is not going as they would like it to it can have an impact on every other area.
For example, if one is unable to experience intimacy, it can make it harder for them to show up in other areas of their life. Their need to share their life with others is then not going to be something that they can simply put to one side.
Part Of Life
One way of looking at this would be to say that experiencing inner conflict is part of life, and that it is not possible for one to completely remove it. As a result of this, it will be important for one to accept what is taking place within them.
Through having this outlook they will no longer try to remove it and this can then allow them to carry on with their life. The resistance within them can then begin to subside and their life will then be a lot easier than it was.
If one was to talk to someone about what is taking place within them, they could say that they understand what they are going through. And even though they experience conflict, they just push through it.
Through hearing this, one could come to believe that they need to take the same approach. Along with this, they could end up feeling as though they are not as strong as other people, or that they have something they themselves don’t have.
During this time, the other person could talk about how they wouldn’t be where they are today is they had allowed their inner conflict to stop them. This could be someone who is extremely successful or they might just have been able to achieve something that one wants to achieve.
Based on this, it could be said that one should pay attention to what they have to say, and through doing this, their life will change. There is then a one-approach-fits-all and that is all there is to it.
A Closer Look
However, if one has tried to push through their inner conflict and this hasn’t worked, then it is clear that this is not the right approach for them to take. The only thing this will do is cause them to use a lot of energy and then to end up where they started.
Instead of taking action, it might be better for one to take the time to reflect on what is taking place within them. This will give them the opportunity to take a step back and to see why they are experiencing inner conflict.
At first, they may find that their mind is blank and that nothing comes up, and this is likely to mean that they will need to be patient. Alternatively, one may find that a number of limiting beliefs begin to appear.
One may believe that they don’t deserve to have what they want and/or that they haven’t got what is takes, for instance. It will then be necessary for them to question these beliefs and to create ones that are more empowering.
As this takes place, one may find that the conflict within them starts to disappear and that it is possible for them to take action. It will then be only a matter of time before they start to achieve their goals.
Yet there is also the chance that this won’t have much of an effect on their life, and that they will need to go deeper. What this means is that one will need to get in touch with what is taking place in their body.
When one is able to tune into what is taking place in their body, they may start to find that another part of them is holding them back. This could be their inner child, and this part of them could be in a lot of pain.
What this comes down to is that although one is physically an adult, it doesn’t mean that they feel like one. And how the child they once were can live within them and have a big impact on their adult life.
For example, if something traumatic took place during their younger years and this experience wasn’t processed, the pain within them is unlikely to just disappear. Instead, part of them can end up being stuck at this age.
And if one’s early years where a time when they were abused and/or neglected, they can have many different parts within them. Due to this, it is not going to be much of a surprise if one is experiencing inner conflict.
One is then not going to have one self, they will have many different selves, and this is can be why they are unable to stick to one thing. The different parts within them can end up cancelling each other out and until this changes, their life is unlikely to change.
It will then be imperative for one to heal and then to integrate these parts so that they can become a whole human being. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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