The ideal would be for someone to get a clear idea about what they want to achieve and then to go about achieving it, without there being anything within them that would hold them back. After all, they will have enough to deal with externally without there being anything internally to overcome.
Their inner clarity - along with the support that is within them - would supply them with what they need to keep going, no matter what challenges arise. And, if this is what happens when they set out to achieve something, there is the chance that they don’t have trouble moving forward.
When someone experiences life in this way, they are likely to be one of the rare few people on this planet who experience inner harmony. They will be their own best friend as opposed to their own worst enemy.
Now, this doesn’t mean that they won’t ever experience a thought or a feeling that is not in alignment with what they want to achieve or experience. What it means is that there won’t be an inner battle taking place within them.
It will be as though they are being pulled by a number of horses and, while one horse might be a bit off the pace from time to time, they will all be going in the same way. This will allow them to achieve their goals a lot faster than if this wasn’t the case.
There will be no reason for them to continually take one step forward and then to take a step back, or to start something and then to stop when they experience a setback. Their inner conviction and support will allow them to keep going.
Through being able to tune into their needs and then to go about fulfilling them, they are likely to live a life that is very fulfilling. They might be in a relationship with someone who they feel deeply connected to and have a career that fills them with joy.
Being this way is most likely going to allow them to eat the right food and to make sure they don’t eat too much. Exercising might be another thing that they are able to do without having to force themselves.
When it comes to their inner world, their mind (thoughts) is generally going to be working with their body (feelings and instincts). The power that comes from their body is then going to be what allows them to make what is taking place in their mind a reality.
And, as they are functioning in this way, it will be normal for the people in their life to be supportive towards them. The support that these people give them will be a reflection of the support that one gives to themselves.
Experiencing life in this way is how it will be for some people, but for a number of others, it will be very different. For some, there will be the inner conflict that they experience in certain areas of their lives, while for others; this will be something that dominates their whole life.
But, even if someone only experiences inner conflict when it comes to one area of their life, for instance, it could still have a big impact on every other area of their life. This can be the case if they experience conflict when it comes to intimacy.
Part of them might feel the need to connect to another person, along with people in general, but another part of them might not allow this to take place. And although this could be something that they really want to experience, the part of them that doesn’t want to experience this could be even stronger.
By not being able to fulfil is need, they may find it hard to perform at their best in other areas of their life. It will be similar to going without food but still trying to carry out everyday tasks.
If this is something that relates to every area of their life, they might feel as though they are completely stuck. Thus, regardless of whether it relates to their career, intimacy, eating well or exercising, for instance, they won’t be able to fulfil their true needs.
They may have many different parts within them, with these parts stopping them from being able to move in one direction. But, although experiencing life in this way can be what is normal, it doesn’t mean that they were born this way.
What this can show is that their early years were a time when they didn’t get the type of care that they needed to develop in the right way. Through being abused and/or neglected, there would have been moments when they had to split-off parts of themselves in order to handle the pain that they were experiencing.
These parts would have been pushed deep into their unconscious, setting them up to have many different parts or selves - not an integrated sense of self. Time will then have passed, but these different parts will be making it hard for them to tune into their true needs and then to go about meeting them.
This will stop their mind and body from being able to work together and, therefore, the support that they need from their body is not going to be available. These split-off parts will play a part in how they feel and the thoughts they have.
It will be hard for their true-self to see the light of day, with these parts playing a big part in how they see themselves and the world. When they are indentified with one of these parts, they may feel worthless, powerless and helpless, for instance.
These parts don’t need to be removed or changed, though, they need to be acknowledged and allowed to express themselves, and as this happens, they will begin to integrate. This is then a feminine approach, not a masculine approach – surrendering to what is taking place within them, not trying to conquer it.
This is a process that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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