Inner Conflict: Can The Need To Be Loyal Cause Someone To Experience Inner Conflict?

If one wanted to go somewhere and they were going to go there by foot, it is going to be important for them to walk forward. Through doing this, it is only going to be a matter of time before they reach their destination.

Now, if one was to take a few steps forward and then to take a few steps backwards, it is going to be a challenge for them to get to where they want to go. While this could mean that it takes them longer; it may also mean that it stops them from getting there.

Inner Conflict

One way of looking at this would be to say that one is experiencing inner conflict, and until they deal with this conflict, it is not going to be passable for them to reach their destination. If one had a machine that behaved in this way, they might come to the conclusion that it is faulty.

The next step might then be for them to have a closer look, or they might end up taking it to the place where they brought it, for instance. If the former was to occur, it could be a sign that they know how to fix the machine.

A Deeper Understanding

It might then not take long until they have located the problem and it might not be long until it starts to run as it should. But if this is not the case, it may mean that they need to replace certain parts and it could then take a little while before it’s up running once again.

Having said that, there is also the chance that the machine is no longer any good and it might then be necessary for them to get rid of it. Yet even if one has no idea about what was going on and decided to take it to someone who does know, they could have a similar experience.

Back To Reality

It could be said that if one wants to walk somewhere, there is not much chance of them walking forward and few steps and then walking back a few steps. If they didn’t want to walk there, they would either find another form of transport or they wouldn’t bother going there to begin with.

However, even though it is highly unlikely that one would do this, it doesn’t mean they won’t stop themselves from moving forward in other areas of their life. When this happens they will have a different destination in mind, so to speak, but they will still be experiencing inner conflict.

One Area

They may find that they have one area in their life where they are unable to move forward and while this may mean that they get close and then walk away; it could mean that they don’t even get this far. This could be something that has taken place for a short while, or it may have been this way for quite some time.

And if it is one area of their life, it may mean that other areas of their life are going as they would like them to go. In this case, it can cause them to experience problems but it is not going to be something that takes over their whole life.

For Example

One may want to develop a certain skill and one way for to do this could be for them to join some kind of club. Yet while part of them wants to join a club, another part of them might not have the same outlook.
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As a result of this, they may find that they keep putting it off, or they could find that they always find something else that they have to do instead, among other things. Either way, it is not going to be possible for them to develop the skill that they want to develop.

A Big Impact

But while this could be something that doesn’t have a big impact on other areas of their life it, this might not be the case. This one area could end up having a negative effect on their whole life.

They could end up feeling angry and frustrated, and they might even end up punishing themselves in one way or another, for instance. Ultimately, what they want to achieve is going to remain as something they want to achieve as opposed to something they have achieved.

A Number of Areas

Alternatively, one could be in a position where they are unable to move forward in a number of areas of their life. This is likely to be a sign that they have a lot of conflict within them and as a result, it could be a challenge for them to experience a fulfilling life.

For example, they may find that they want to move forward in their career, but part of them doesn’t want this to take place and/or they could have the need to be in a romantic relationship, but another part of them might want something else. Along with this, they might want to put their needs first, but another part of them might not feel comfortable doing so.

A Closer Look

One approach would be for one to take a closer look at what is taking place in their mind. Through doing this, they may find that their beliefs are holding them back and it will then be important for them to change them.

At the same time, it might also be necessary for them to take a closer look at what is taking place in their body. This is because they could be carrying an emotional built-up and this build-up will cause their emotional body to be in conflict with their mind.

Another Approach

But even if they were to work on their mind and their emotional body, they may find that they still experience inner conflict. In this case, it could be a sign that they have the need to be loyal to their family, as well as their ancestors.

The reason for this is that is that when one generation doesn’t deal with something, the next generation can take it on out of their need to be loyal. This is done as a way to bring balance into the family system.

Loyalty

This takes place through choice and it is a way for one to repay the people who gave them life. As a child, one would have believed that they could help the people in their family and their ancestors by taking on their problems; this is something that has been described as a childlike love.

However, as these problems had nothing to do with them, it is not going to be possible for them to solve them. Through having the need to be loyal, the child part of them would end up feeling guilty and as though they were betraying the people who gave them life if the adult part of them was to live their own life.

Awareness

If one can relate to this, it will be important for them to give back to their family and their ancestors what doesn’t belong to them. This is something that can take place through having a family constellation.

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Oliver JR Cooper
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