If the average man was told that he has an inner feminine, a big frown might appear on his face. After this, he could make it clear that this is not something that he possesses and that there is nothing feminine about him.
He could even say that this is something that is airy-fairy and only those who have their head in the clouds would believe it. If this was to take place, it would probably show that he believes that the word ‘feminine’ means female.
In reality, it relates to certain a certain aspect and different traits will arise from it, and this is why both a woman and a man will have a feminine element to them. In the same way, both a man and a woman will have a masculine element.
One way of looking at the feminine would be to say that it will relate to a man’s feelings, while the masculine will relate to his thoughts. In other words, the former will relate to his emotional self/body and the latter will relate to his mind/intellect.
A Divided Being
Now, although a man with be made up of both of these parts, he could create the impression that this is not the case. What this will mean is that he could generally come across as being emotionless.
Some people could describe him as being stoic, while others could say that he is emotionally shut down. Either way, he will typically come across as calm and he won’t be all at sea, emotionally speaking.
A Very Different Experience
If he was to get into a relationship, he could end up with a woman (or a man, as it can still play out the same) who is emotionally all over the place. At this point, it could be said that this will show that ‘opposites attract’.
This is because it will seem as though these are two people who are radically different, at least in this regard. The man will come across as stable and the women come across as unstable.
The man, while he might not have an issue with this in the beginning, could soon end up feeling restricted and fed up. He could believe that the woman needs to get it together and no longer be controlled by her feelings.
He could say that this shows that she is unable to manage her thoughts, with her thoughts being seen as being in control of how she feels. Before long, he could end up criticising her and if her behaviour doesn’t change, he could end up cutting his ties.
If this was to happen and he was to look back on his life, what he may find is that this is not the first time that he has been in this position. In fact, he could see that this has taken place a number of times.
Along with this, he could see that he has spent time around a lot of other women who are like this. Thanks to this, he could believe that this is just what women are like and believe that he needs to keep a distance from them and not allow himself to get attached to a woman.
However, although it could seem as if this is just what women are typically like, there is likely to be far more to it than this. Ultimately, this will be an assessment that this extroverted intellect/mind has made.
In all likelihood, the experiences that he continually has with women and especially the women who he ends up with are reflecting back the fact that he is in conflict with his own feminine aspect. So, instead of seeing what is taking place in a very literal manner, he needs to see it in a symbolic manner.
A Closer Look
When he is around a woman who is emotionally all at sea, he will feel uncomfortable and will soon have the need to get away. If he was to ask himself what this reminds him of, what he may soon find is that he feels unconformable when it comes to his own emotional aspect and does his best to keep this part of him at bay.
Thus, the women that he is drawn to and are drawn to him are mirroring back what it is that he needs to integrate inside himself. If he was to embrace this side of his nature and to feel comfortable with his feelings, emotions and impulses, there would be no reason for him to end up with a woman who almost ends up drowning him with her feelings.
What this illustrates is that there is a massive difference between acting stoic and actually being emotionally strong. In the first case, a man can just be emotionally repressed, hence why he attracts women who are emotionally unstable and is so troubled by them.
In the second case, a man won’t be emotionally repressed and will have the ability to face his feelings and work through his emotional wounds. By being this way, he will attract women who are more balanced.
If a man can relate to this and he is ready to become more integrated, he may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.