While there can be moments in just about everyone’s life when they feel bitter about what someone else has or what they have achieved, there can be others that have a very different experience. For someone like this, this can be something that they experience on a regular basis.
It might not matter if they are around others or if they are online, as they could find something that ends up pushing their buttons, so to speak. As a result of this, it is likely to be hard for them to feel good about themselves and their own life.
The Great Divide
There will be what other people have and have achieved and then, there will be what one has and what they have achieved. It might seem as though everyone else is doing better than they are in this regard.
If this is the case, it will most likely also illustrate that one doesn’t compare themselves with where they started from; they compare themselves with others. This is going to be another thing that causes them to feel weighed down.
So the fact that what other people have and have achieved has a negative effect on them can show that they believe there is not enough. As for comparing themselves with others, this can show that they don’t feel comfortable in their own skin.
Therefore, in order for them to experience life differently, they will need to look into these two areas. There are likely to be a number of beliefs inside them that are playing a big part here.
A Closer Look
When it comes to the former, one may find that there are certain things that have a big effect on them. For example, if they were to hear about a friend who has just started a relationship, they could experience a very strong reaction.
Alternatively, this could take place if a friend has started a new job or has got a promotion. On the outside, one may create the impression that they are happy for this person but this won’t match up with how they feel on the inside.
Out of Reach
If they were able to detach from how they feel and to observe their inner experience, they may find that they feel angry, frustrated, and powerless. With all this going on, it is not going to be a surprise that they are unable to truly be happy for what is taking place in their friend’s life.
Due to how they feel, there is the chance that they believe that there is only so much to go around. Thus, as their friend has what that they themselves want, it will mean that they can’t have it.
A Lack Mentality
And as this is what they believe, this is what their reality will mirror back to them. The experiences that they have in life will reflect what they believe, yet their mind will create the impression that they are merely observing reality.
This is a clear example of how what someone believes can either allow them to lead an abundant life or a life of lack and scarcity. It also shows how much control they have over how they experience life.
Back In Time
Perhaps there was a time in their life when another person having something did mean that they themselves couldn’t have it. This could have been something that was the truth during their early years.
With there being only so much to go around, there might have been times when there was only enough for some of their family members. During these moments, they may have had to go without what they needed/wanted.
A Losing Battle
When it comes to the latter, one is likely to see how their life compares with others when it comes to how well they are doing. By being this way, they are going to be caught up with what is taking place externally.
It is then not going to matter where they started or what they have overcome as they will always come up short. Through living life in this way, it will be perfectly normal for them to feel bad about themselves.
A New Approach
If they were to stop doing this and started to compare their life with where they started off from, it would be a lot easier for them to feel good about themselves. What they can think about is that they are on their own path in life; a path that is different to the path that anyone else is on.
Another thing that they can bear in mind is that they don’t know where another person started from or what they have had to overcome. This will be something that is a lot easier to do when they are comfortable in their own skin.
So, if one finds that they do have the tendency to feel jealous, and they want to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
There will be the beliefs that they need to work through when it comes to their being enough and the beliefs that they have about their own value. Changing these beliefs, along with working through any emotional wounds that they have, will allow them to realise that there is enough, to be happy for what other people have and have achieved, and for them to feel comfortable with themselves.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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