A number of months ago I was speaking to someone who said that it was time for them to put a book together and to have it out before the end of the year. After having put this off for a number of years, this person knew that it was time for them to take action.
When I heard this I just paid attention to where this person was on their journey. It was clear that they have been delaying something that was important to them.
A little while after this I started to think about what I was like a number of years ago, and how I would encourage a friend to put a book together. To keep the pain that I was in at bay, I had become extremely motivated.
Due to how motivated I was, I couldn’t get my head around why my friend didn’t feel the need to release anything. From what they spoke about it was perfectly clear that they had a hell of a lot to share with the world.
A New Outlook
My friend basically said that it wasn’t time for him to release it and that this would be something that they would do when the time was right. Part of me couldn’t understand what was going on, but another part of me was open to what they had to share.
To cut a long story short, this friend ended up teaching me a lot about the importance of letting go and taking inspired action, as opposed to taking action to avoid pain or to receive approval, for instance. Over time, I gradually came to understand what he was talking about.
A New Approach
Hearing what they had to say, along with working through my own pain, allowed me to see that what they were saying made a lot of sense. This was about me being in tune with myself, not simply taking action for the sake of it.
I came to see that just as there was a time to do something; there was also a time to sit back and to wait until the inner call came. Yet, when I was in doing mode, it was a challenge for me to just be and to listen to the guidance that was within me.
The Main Point
If I was still in doing mode when the person above said about putting a book together, I would have most likely felt the need to do the same thing. I would have believed that my value was defined by what I did, which would have given me the need to constantly prove myself.
And, if they had asked me when I was going to release another book, I may have experienced pressure and felt the need to come up with a date. Thanks to the fact that a lot of self-development is all about taking action, it can seem as though not taking action all the time is a bad thing.
What I think this illustrates is how essential it is for someone to listen to themselves and not to just do something for the sake of it or because someone else is doing it. We are all on different paths, and while it might be time for one person to do something, it doesn’t mean that it is time for someone else to do the same thing.
When someone has a strong connection to themselves, they will generally know when it is time for them to do something. If someone doesn’t have a strong connection with themselves, it can show that they are carrying a lot of pain.
So, one they start to work through this pain, they will gradually develop a better connection with themselves. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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